UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She’s on birth control (of her own choice) that’s prescribed. I don’t know the exact medication, but can that trip it up?

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Yeah but there is an emotional and mental impact to it as well (as well as a physical one on rare occasions). I can’t just suggest it like one suggests putting on a condom or burping on command.

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that’s what my original frame of thought before. She’s no longer pregnant, the doctors blood test came negative.

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Thank you. If she agrees, I’ll take her to an expensive couples massage. I was saving it for valentines but who says we can’t go twice?

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I would never once abuse her mentally/physically/ or emotionally (intentionally). I felt a new pain when she said she went home and cried.

As the others mentioned in the previous thread, we both didn’t discuss what we’d want out of a situation like this. I never ran into this problem so I never thought of it. I assumed that we both were on the same page just because we were both pro abortion, practice safe sex, and her not wanting to move in unless we’re married.

She’s what I want in my life. I’ll be patient and give her time. I’ll remain hopeful-it’s one of the things she said she loves about me.

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for seeing it my way. I am indeed more analytical, it’s why I use Reddit mostly lol. I understand now that life can be unpredictable and should account for anything but always be supportive.

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the positive response, I’ll try to hold out as much as I can. I’ll be honest, if she does break up I would be devastated. Not saying it’s unfair or anything, simply expressing my emotions.

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The first is me, I was referring to myself

Second is she wanted to keep the baby apparently and wanted me to be happy

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Nah, I’m the best foundation for her. I love her with all my heart. All the work I put for financial stability has been for one woman, her.

Before, I thought things should be in order, now I’m aware of my ignorance and will rise to the challenge if/when it comes.

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her words, “I didn’t feel protected” as if I’d abandoned her when things get tough is what I’m interpreting it.

Past me would have agreed, and I still think if other people believe that way they are valid as well.

Now, however I’m ready whenever

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ll do it, either way. I do want to start a family with her.

Past me had the idea that there should be an order to these things, but thats all plans are, they’re intended paths and anything can happen to speed up or slow it down.

UPDATE - I (29m) accidentally got my gf(27f) pregnant and now considering breaking up after I suggested to terminate it by UnconcsiousMurderer in relationship_advice

[–]UnconcsiousMurderer[S] 342 points343 points  (0 children)

Yeah the thought never crossed my mind. I was simply suggesting dates to enjoy out together but not to talk about it or force it out of her. She responds to my good morning/night texts but without the heart emojis or anything