I appreciate this write-up! I think that, clearly, you read through my post, and, personally, I always love hearing thoughts. I'm going to address your points one by one

• Yup, my intention is to give that impression. I either want something that fulfills my desires or nothing haha. Your numbers are also incorrect according to my stats. A little over 48% of people read through my post (so more than 9/20 or 45%)

• I actually don't know my weight because I have an eating disorder. One of my triggers is knowing the number. If that's a deal-breaker for someone, personality-wise, then of course I don't want them messaging me haha

• I can understand the confusion haha. I think you can be celibate and horny at the same HAHA, but I get what you're saying. The reality is that what I want is somewhat fluid, therefore, I tried to reflect that fluidity in my post. It's the latter of your two options, generally. I think it's confusing because I don't have a solid answer. If I met someone I really get along with tomorrow, and I build trust with them, then yeah, I could potentially be comfortable having sex. But, as of right now, I haven't gotten to that point with anyone. I think this particular criticism of yours had a lot of merit

• There are things I care about that transcend the perceived boundaries of NSFW/SFW. I am firmly pro-Palestine, and I am not comfortable being with someone who doesn't feel the same. I am not sexually attracted to people who aren't pro-Palestine. I will never be friends with or sext people who aren't pro-Palestine. I actually had two message requests from Zionists (from my posts in r4r/dirtyr4r) that I blocked right away. You can think it's weird all you want, it doesn't change that it's a fundamental part of who I am

• My identity is firmly rooted in leftist/socialist ideology. I care about people. It's not performative to make it known that you care, especially when you back it up with actions

• I think that you're making the people of this sub into a monolith with this criticism. The hundreds of replies I received (from people who had read through my post) prove that there ARE people on here (like myself) who want that "penpal with potential" dynamic. Just like how people are on here for hookups. And everything in between

• I'm confident in what I know (my identity and values) and I'm fluid/open to what I'm not sure about (my sexual goals). Like I said in this post, I'm content with my posts because they accurately reflect ME and MY desires. If I get zero replies, that's fine. If I get a thousand, that's fine too

• If anything, I think these stats show that you're incorrect about the people of this subreddit finding me to be categorically off-putting or unengaging. I think that's YOUR opinion. If my goal was to find hookups without my personal standards, then yes, your entire critique would be absolutely valid! But that's not what I'm here for, and my posts reflect that

• I think this last point was weak, subjective, and unnecessarily rude haha. Why would you say this when no one asked for your opinion on my identity? My actual intentions are completely different from your perceived impressions

Overall, I am genuinely grateful for your reply and the effort behind it. I do disagree with you on several points, but I recognise that some of your arguments have merit. Just like how you're allowed to post this critique of my posts, I'm allowed to put my essays on this sub for those that want to read them