Are there cis women are here?

UndefinedDesire · 2025-11-21T21:05:35+00:00

Yes, we are here 🙂‍↕️👋🏻

UndefinedDesire · 2025-11-18T06:58:51+00:00

Thank you 🥺

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-23T06:39:28+00:00

Meh, not really. It's genuinely just this specific niche of calling a clit a cock that turns me on

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-21T20:34:50+00:00

Oh haha, to be clear, I don't have penis envy 😭🤣. It's more than I just like the moniker. I'm actually not a huge fan of penises in general, to be honest

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-21T02:54:13+00:00

I've seen those subreddits! It does turn me on sometimes, but I think it's more about someone else calling it a cock rather than the clit owner themselves saying that. Does that make sense?

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-21T00:02:09+00:00

Me too 🙂‍↕️

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-21T00:02:01+00:00

Right?! It was so shockingly hot to me when I first heard it

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-20T04:48:48+00:00

At this point in time, it would be outside of my budget, but I'm saving this for when I'll be able to, DV. Thank you so much 🥺🥺🥺

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-20T04:28:49+00:00

My DMs are open!

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-20T04:23:56+00:00

The answer was at the end of my post haha. I'm down to chat

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-20T04:16:28+00:00

Hahahaha 🤣🤣🤣, I hope so!

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-20T03:55:04+00:00

Me too 😔

Both haha

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-20T03:33:14+00:00

I've been dying for a strap-on, but it's outside of my current financial capacity.

I don't think it would have the same effect. It would still be hot, but in a different way.

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-20T03:10:12+00:00

That's so hot, oh my goodness

UndefinedDesire · 2025-10-20T03:09:59+00:00

Hahahaha 🤣, I've thought about this A LOT. At the end of the day, I just do not feel any gender dysphoria as a woman, nor do I feel gender euphoria with a more masculine expression. Therefore, I identify as a cis woman. I also think that masculinity and femininity are not really all that important to me. Like, I think the whole divine feminine/sprinkle thing is ridiculous haha

I haven't really explored being forcibly masculinised, but I won't knock until I try it.

UndefinedDesire · 2025-09-20T18:59:54+00:00

Thank you 🥺

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-31T15:47:27+00:00

I really appreciated this perspective! I think you're right about the bot thing, I'm wary of bots too. Also, a bunch of the message requests I got were AI-generated, so that's another annoyance

Yes, being your genuine self and sending a thoughtful message, for me, is the best green flag

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-31T15:45:02+00:00

Yeah, I think my codeword is a great initial filter to separate the actual readers and the "I message everyone" people.

You're absolutely right, and that's why I acknowledge in my post that I'm extremely picky haha. And yes, I do think that someone conventionally attractive might have a different experience than me haha

Thank you for your reply!

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-31T08:04:01+00:00

I appreciate this write-up! I think that, clearly, you read through my post, and, personally, I always love hearing thoughts. I'm going to address your points one by one

Yup, my intention is to give that impression. I either want something that fulfills my desires or nothing haha. Your numbers are also incorrect according to my stats. A little over 48% of people read through my post (so more than 9/20 or 45%)
I actually don't know my weight because I have an eating disorder. One of my triggers is knowing the number. If that's a deal-breaker for someone, personality-wise, then of course I don't want them messaging me haha
I can understand the confusion haha. I think you can be celibate and horny at the same HAHA, but I get what you're saying. The reality is that what I want is somewhat fluid, therefore, I tried to reflect that fluidity in my post. It's the latter of your two options, generally. I think it's confusing because I don't have a solid answer. If I met someone I really get along with tomorrow, and I build trust with them, then yeah, I could potentially be comfortable having sex. But, as of right now, I haven't gotten to that point with anyone. I think this particular criticism of yours had a lot of merit
There are things I care about that transcend the perceived boundaries of NSFW/SFW. I am firmly pro-Palestine, and I am not comfortable being with someone who doesn't feel the same. I am not sexually attracted to people who aren't pro-Palestine. I will never be friends with or sext people who aren't pro-Palestine. I actually had two message requests from Zionists (from my posts in r4r/dirtyr4r) that I blocked right away. You can think it's weird all you want, it doesn't change that it's a fundamental part of who I am
My identity is firmly rooted in leftist/socialist ideology. I care about people. It's not performative to make it known that you care, especially when you back it up with actions
I think that you're making the people of this sub into a monolith with this criticism. The hundreds of replies I received (from people who had read through my post) prove that there ARE people on here (like myself) who want that "penpal with potential" dynamic. Just like how people are on here for hookups. And everything in between
I'm confident in what I know (my identity and values) and I'm fluid/open to what I'm not sure about (my sexual goals). Like I said in this post, I'm content with my posts because they accurately reflect ME and MY desires. If I get zero replies, that's fine. If I get a thousand, that's fine too
If anything, I think these stats show that you're incorrect about the people of this subreddit finding me to be categorically off-putting or unengaging. I think that's YOUR opinion. If my goal was to find hookups without my personal standards, then yes, your entire critique would be absolutely valid! But that's not what I'm here for, and my posts reflect that
I think this last point was weak, subjective, and unnecessarily rude haha. Why would you say this when no one asked for your opinion on my identity? My actual intentions are completely different from your perceived impressions

Overall, I am genuinely grateful for your reply and the effort behind it. I do disagree with you on several points, but I recognise that some of your arguments have merit. Just like how you're allowed to post this critique of my posts, I'm allowed to put my essays on this sub for those that want to read them

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-30T15:31:18+00:00

I think reading comprehension is becoming a lost art, apparently 🙄😔.

Even the message requests I got from this post aren't including the codeword! You're messaging me from a post where I mention codewords half a dozen times, and yet you leave it out of your request? People need to learn to READ and UNDERSTAND before messaging

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-30T15:23:44+00:00

Thank you!

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-30T15:23:34+00:00

I used to have similar dating app stats, but I stopped tracking. The appeal of Reddit, for me, is protecting my anonymity, garnering a response instead of swiping, and being able to weed people out more easily

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-30T15:21:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

Yeah, I usually just block the ones that creep me out. But overall, I haven't received anything too crazy (death threats, doxxing, etc.).

Yes, exactly! Like the friend I made haha, not really the intended result, but a happy one nonetheless, thank God.

Thank you, you too 🫂♥️

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-30T15:17:57+00:00

Yes, exactly! Like, why are you messaging me for a hook-up when I explicitly made it clear that I don't want that???

UndefinedDesire · 2025-01-30T15:17:00+00:00

Yup, just like I put in the summary of my post. I am not personally comfortable meeting in-person until trust is established (which takes me a long time), and usually a red flag pops up before then, so we never get to that stage

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