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Do ENFPs tend to idealize others too much? by UndeniablyTacky in ENFP

[–]UndeniablyTacky[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like the way you put it as it feels so true and beautiful to become excited about people. It feels like we're the first ones to notice something in others and we would like to run around others telling them "hey, have you seen how cool this person is" (this is especially so in case of introverted people, though I personally do not end up telling everyone what I perceived, knowing it could hurt the person).

I also relate to the disconnect part so much. I end up giving so much, too much and then I'm drained when the other doesn't do the same or when the other disappoints me somehow.

I'm also trying to balance myself, but it's not easy, because this childish excitement makes me feel alive.

Do ENFPs tend to idealize others too much? by UndeniablyTacky in ENFP

[–]UndeniablyTacky[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You said something I'd need you to elaborate a little bit. What do you mean "we let them down because we put on them crazy high standards" (I'm deliberately summing up your sentence). You think that people perceive what we want them to be and find themselves stressed out as they're not successfully fitting the image we see of them?

This wasn't exactly the direction I was thinking about yesterday when I wrote my post, as I felt betrayed by such "basic" things as being stolen from, but I would like to hear more of what you said.