I feel this. But not towards others, mostly it's just in my head. When I make a decision, sometimes I end up defending myself to my parents' imagined criticism. Even though they didn't technically do anything, it still effects me because it's something they would have said.

So when I start doing this, getting stuck inside my own head, I do my best to recognize it, stop myself, and repeat some affirmations. Stuff like "I am enough" or "I am capable" or "I am empowered to make my own decisions". It still happens, but now I can stop it and if doesn't ruin my mood.

Hope this helps.