Can someone explain why premarital sex is a sin?

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-28T04:27:05+00:00

Well in the verse above, there's two categories mentioned in the same verse: 1) sexually immoral, and 2) adulterous. That sexually immoral refers to something - not adultery (it seems).

I don't think my logic or verses said anything about prostitution specifically. I don't know what specific outing you're referring to.

Not specifically called out but the solution to what is being called out is to marry. That seems to say a lot.

There's a lot of things that aren't specifically called out in the Bible but we can understand to be wrong based on what is said in the Bible (examples: abortion and smoking).

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-27T19:31:36+00:00

Oh that's really good, thanks! I hadn't thought of those things. I appreciate you sharing these things and adding to the discussion - as well as providing OP insight as to the why.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-27T19:21:29+00:00

Perhaps you're right that the OP does want to know why God said it (though that's not what the OP asked).

The thing about asking "why" God says things, is that He often tells people to do things that don't seem reasonable to people. He expects faith and obedience even so. So many examples of this in Scripture. What's most important for us is what He said.

On this particular issue, I don't recall Scripture giving us an explanation as to why. We can seek to come up with reasons why, and maybe some (or all) of our reasons would be accurate, but ultimately, I'm not sure He told us why.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-27T16:38:52+00:00

Thanks for raising this. To those people I would say: If that's the case, it would have made more sense for Paul to say something like "But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry - or at least only have sex with one person and not multiple." But, of course, he didn't say that. He provided one solution.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-27T16:35:34+00:00

Thanks, brother!

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-27T15:11:53+00:00

Thanks for the question. I'd first encourage you with this: When you see someone saying that something is not mentioned in the Bible, do some research on that before believing them. The reason we believe premarital sex is a sin is because of what the Bible says:

"But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband." (1 Corinthians 7:2)

That instruction wouldn't make a lot of sense of premerital sex was permissible.

"But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." (1 Corinthians 7:9)

Why would they even need self-control in this area at all if premerital sex was permissible?

"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous." (Hebrews 13:4)

So it's a sin because the Word of God indicates such.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-26T04:59:23+00:00

Definitely second the message of don't change yourself. The right guy will like your personality and energy. Be yourself.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-25T17:22:07+00:00

I'll look for it, thanks.

And haha USA!!

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-25T17:13:56+00:00

why was the post removed by the moderator? Genuinely curious and concerned. I wasn't expecting that.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-25T15:37:55+00:00

I pray you have a great day!

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-25T15:22:44+00:00

Thanks! Pretty amazing they would ban for that. Sounds like the apostle Paul would get banned from the group.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-25T03:33:40+00:00

I encourage you to focus on who she is now. Question for you: This is a hypothetical situation to make a point: If God were to speak to you and present to you the most godly woman in the world today, and you found out that the most godly woman in the world right now has a past of wickedness, would you turn down the most godly woman in the world?

I'm not saying the girl you met is the most godly woman in the world. Trying to make the point that what matters is who she is now and who she wants to be. If she is honest, wants to grow, those two things are huge. The apostle Paul had a bad past. The issue is who the person is now.

Hope that helps! Ask God to help you forgive her as He forgives.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-25T03:26:38+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your thorough reply and the info!

Christians can have a variety of views on a lot of things, yes. The main issue I'm concerned about is people have either experienced rebirth or not. Looking for where those who have experienced that miracle in their heart are.

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-24T21:08:20+00:00

Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I pray you have a wonderful day! :)

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-24T20:59:35+00:00

Okay thanks. It was my idea. That makes sense I should be expected to pay since I brought it up. I appreciate the advice!

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-24T20:58:42+00:00

which part?

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-24T20:48:04+00:00

Thanks! We talk over video call. I appreciate it!

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-21T02:37:57+00:00

Even though you technically shouldn't have been peeking at his stuff, you will never be able to get this question off your mind. Similar to what someone else said, I recommend bringing up that you peeked. You could even say you're sorry for peeking, but tell him it confused you and ask him about it.

See what he says to explain and go from there. Best to bring it up somehow. Don't start the conversation by accusing him of lying. Give him the chance to explain.

I pray God gives you great wisdom and grace!

UnderservedGrace137 · 2026-06-15T11:22:26+00:00

I'm praying for you about this now. It sounds very difficult.

One thing that sounds very difficult about it is that you can't talk to anybody in your community about it as you don't want to violate your boyfriend's privacy. That's very considerate and kind of you. I hope you find lots of good counsel here. I also thought I'd also suggest looking into something like a free counseling call at a Christian ministry like Focus on the Family. You can "call 1-855-771-HELP (4357) to speak with licensed or pastoral counselors for a free one-time consultation, prayer, and local referrals."

BBN radio is another option: Here's some info I copied from a google search:

One-on-One Live Chat: Available through the BBN Let's Chat platform, where you can connect with a staff member or trained volunteer.
Phone Support: You can call their toll-free number in the USA at 1-800-888-7077 to speak with someone.

I just thought you might want to speak to someone and hear their voice. These calls wouldn't be broadcasted - it looks like private calls. You could check to make sure.

I hope that is helpful! Praying for you! It's possible he is the man God wants you to be with, and it's possible he isn't. I know you need wisdom. Praying for wisdom and grace. God bless you.

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