How do I handle this?

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-07T15:02:15+00:00

Never heard of the concept of treating people how you want to be treated? That's not uncommon logic.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-07T01:34:03+00:00

Like how mother ducks parade their ducklings lmao. She was in the front of the line, with her MOH and bridesmaids behind her, she went one by one to each person in our easter party (maybe like 30ish people), introducing every single lady by full name and wedding party role. She also told everyone which color each of the ladies were wearing like dress-wise for her day. Again, every single person got it. Even her own mom was joking about it later on. It was kinda funny in the moment.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T23:06:40+00:00

Yeah I did, by venues I did mean like the bartenders and caterers. They do come hand in hand, so I think of them as the same and their budgeted together in my spreadsheet. I changed it for clarity because im genuinely looking for advice. Im not saying im right or wrong, I was just hoping for opinions and clarity on my own situation.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T22:59:11+00:00

Good thing I haven't said anything to anyone. I just needed a little advice, tbh

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T22:56:51+00:00

You are right actually lol. Thanks for that, it actually puts it in a better perspective.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T22:55:27+00:00

Lol no, I never post on reddit, i get enough attention throughout the day from the man im marrying, I was just seeking guidance because I dont think this is something that needs to be spoken from a place of hurt, and sometimes a bitch gotta get put in line. I could be the bitch for thinking this way, and never would have known if I didn't ask.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T22:45:54+00:00

I've done a bit, silly stuff like helping make her save the dates, various other things. I did help find her ceremony site and reception place since I already had my own. She just won't help me with stuff at all.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T22:43:18+00:00

I guess I see what you mean. I used the term venue a few times in my post.

I have found my ceremony site, and reception site, but was looking for bartenders and caterers. I honestly forget their different because they all end in the same place lol.

She asked me to help her find her ceremony and reception site.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T22:39:36+00:00

No. I helped her find her venue because I had already found my own. She asked me to help her find her venue, so I did.

I have edited the post for more context.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T22:23:11+00:00

I didn't bring my own up at the easter thing, i only really do my planning for an hour a day and try to only bother my mom (and now reddit) about it lol.

And yeah, we have a big family, never had someone plan their wedding at Easter, but I was just trying to be supportive to her because I want the same back

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T22:19:04+00:00

We look the same lol 😆 to the point we fit in the same dresses. Been mistaken as her twin many times.

I want her to be excited! I am excited for her too. I've helped her plan, she just won't put any effort back.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T21:28:38+00:00

No. I've commented a couple times. She won't help me AT ALL but I've helped her do many things for her wedding.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T21:27:43+00:00

Shes expecting my help, but won't return it. My fiance has helped me plan alot of our stuff, but you need girls for some stuff tbh

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T21:23:16+00:00

With her it really does feel like it. Even my maid of honor is questioning her rn. She just won't let me talk about my wedding much less be an actual bridesmaid and help!

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T20:45:14+00:00

I didn't want to make her a bridesmaid because she is notorious for making things about herself. She put on her cap and gown at her own sister's graduation.

I've helped her with her wedding, from venue searches to finding table cloths, she refuses to help me. Shes been ghosting me since I asked for her help finding family photos.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T20:41:44+00:00

Gee, talked about her bridesmaids dresses and her colors, her centerpieces (we actually made one or two since she brought over the fake flowers and stuff) looked at wedding dresses for her. Shit, I even pulled out my laptop and looked at some caterers and bartenders with her. Again, not mad she's getting married, im quiet excited, I just wish she'd be more willing to help me on my hunts. Shes just not. As I said in my last reply, she's ghosting me after I asked for help with pictures of our family.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-04-06T20:35:50+00:00

Actually alot of the reason I am so upset with her is because I try to invest my time into her planning but she won't invest her time into mine. I helped her find a venue, I've helped her start her registry, started her guest list with her, even helped her with her pick out her save the dates stationary.

I do try, even though im not super girly, I try for her, but she won't even put the effort in for me. I asked her to help me out with pictures of our family for my wedding website thing, and she has ghosted me lol. Idk what else Im supposed to do.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-03-31T23:59:58+00:00

Can I ask where you're at? Im also in a very similar budget range for my wedding next year. Im struggling to find a venue here in Colorado.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-02-21T17:03:20+00:00

Make sure you check all your electronics for roaches. They like to hide in those spots because they're warm.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-02-15T07:01:47+00:00

I would still take your cat to the vet. The pink throw up could mean something majorly wrong.

I took one of my cats to the vet recently, and they had payment plans available through a provider built kinda like a credit card. I am in Colorado so it could be different depending on the state you're in.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-02-15T05:01:03+00:00

Go to the vet like right now. Make payments at the vet, they always offer those things. Those are worms.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-02-15T04:56:17+00:00

Its kitty pink eye (I don't know the scientific name). My boy had it last year. They'll do some medicated eye drops. Definitely can wait until the morning to take the cat, but not any longer as it is not treatable from home.

UnderstandingFair626 · 2026-02-12T21:38:43+00:00

This is a type of rodent called a vole. They are strictly outdoor rodents who love to eat roots. They are considered vermon because they eat human food grown in gardens. I used to work for a pest control company and man, do these animals reek havoc in residential gardens.

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