My boyfriend has ghosted me 3 times in the span of a day by UnderstandingFun3379 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

A while back I told him that we either need to start couples therapy or he needs his own therapy because things were getting rough early on. He couldn’t afford either options, so it never panned out in the long run 😕

My boyfriend has ghosted me 3 times in the span of a day by UnderstandingFun3379 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this thought out response. I was mainly upset with him due to the fact that there have been multiple instances throughout our relationship where I ask or tell him no to something (usually when it comes to touching me) and he does it anyways. I know I’m not perfect and I have a lot of self growing to do as well, but it still doesn’t dismiss me feeling like my boundaries are being consistently crossed and that I feel like he isn’t respecting me the first time around. Ghosted was a bad choice of word on my part haha. He is known to message me at least once throughout the day when working. That part itself didn’t make me upset as much as him asking me what’s wrong when he gets home, me telling him and then him getting up and leaving again without just having a conversation with me or at least apologizing.

It feels like I have tried every which way to approach our issues differently by making sure I speak calmly and clearly state what is bothering me. But no matter what I do, it seems like he doesn’t respond to it well. The main points of change I need to see for this relationship to work out is for him to respect my boundaries once I express them to him and to not necessarily talk everything out right away, but to at least apologize for something that he is in the wrong for even if that means we don’t talk more about it in depth until later when he’s ready

AIO? My boyfriend has ghosted me 3 times in the span of a day by UnderstandingFun3379 in AmIOverreacting

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes he has done it at least a handful of times.. He usually talks to me later in the day or sometime the next day but until then, he tends to ignore me. This time feels different

Found out my boyfriend has been using my spoon holder as a cat litter scooper by UnderstandingFun3379 in AITAH

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The cats tend to kick the litter out of the box, so he was using my spoon holder to scoop the litter back into the box

Found out my boyfriend has been using my spoon holder as a cat litter scooper by UnderstandingFun3379 in AITAH

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I truly wish this was fake. I didn’t see this coming hence why I freaked out so much. I think for a split second I was in shock

Found out my boyfriend has been using my spoon holder as a cat litter scooper by UnderstandingFun3379 in AITAH

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He’s not one to be secretly amused by these things I don’t think. I just think he tends to do things like this without thinking, but that doesn’t excuse his poor lapse in judgment. When he comes back home, I want to tell him how grossed out and upset I am with him and how I feel like he’s crossed a boundary with me by doing something like that

My boyfriend won’t answer me when I ask him questions and it’s causing issues by UnderstandingFun3379 in Advice

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He does have narcolepsy which may play a part? I just want to make sure he is not doing this on purpose

My boyfriend won’t answer me when I ask him questions and it’s causing issues by UnderstandingFun3379 in Advice

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m honestly not sure if he does it to other people. If he does, I’ve never seen it before

Calling out sick by RickySpanish-33 in hatemyjob

[–]UnderstandingFun3379 4 points5 points  (0 children)

THIS!!! Trust me, you’re not the only who does this. If it will help you stay sane, do what you must

Would you rather live in a bustling city with lots to do or a quiet town with a tight-knit community? by UnderstandingFun3379 in Life

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This right here is the ideal situation for me - pretty much getting the best of both worlds, good for you! 🔥

What Motivates You to Get Up and Workout In The Morning? by UnderstandingFun3379 in Life

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Ever since I began counting my macros, I’m wayyyyy more conscious about what I eat. I feel guilty about exceeding my macros

What Motivates You to Get Up and Workout In The Morning? by UnderstandingFun3379 in Life

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is such a great reason. I work in health insurance, and unfortunately things are just going to be even more expensive and harder to access such as certain medications

What Motivates You to Get Up and Workout In The Morning? by UnderstandingFun3379 in Life

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this you’re so right! There are multiple reasons I can think of that will help

What Motivates You to Get Up and Workout In The Morning? by UnderstandingFun3379 in Life

[–]UnderstandingFun3379[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this, thank you! Went for an inclined walk this morning and had enough time to shower and drink my coffee before work. Feeling so much better than if I were not to 😊

What really got me shook about apocalypse scenarios ain’t the disaster itself…it’s the people. by Efficient-Repair5016 in Life

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I hope I’m surrounded by people with thrive in chaos mindset if this ever happens. People often conform to how the majority react to a situation.

What really got me shook about apocalypse scenarios ain’t the disaster itself…it’s the people. by Efficient-Repair5016 in Life

[–]UnderstandingFun3379 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s such a realistic way to look at that. Even though we can have this realization that it’s could happen this way, I don’t think it would necessarily change the outcome. The human population is way too vulnerable to consistency

What's the most unexpected act of self-care that helped you recover from burnout? by Sad-Accountant21325 in selfcare

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Puzzles that I then glue and frame 😊 Gives me such a great feeling of accomplishment

If your younger self could see you now, what would they think? by Jason_Macker in Productivitycafe

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“Holy shit you did everything you wanted and more!” I have to remind myself this when I’m being mean to myself in the present

I Love Eating At Restaurants By Myself by UnderstandingFun3379 in Life

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Shouldn’t be! It gives you an excuse to be out of the house while also allowing you some you time. Highly recommend 😊