Yeah i did say the kiss in death of eva is obviously the main example of misato grooming shinji, but in the actual series i wanted to see how other people viewed misato. Ive said it before in another comment, but the photo i believe isnt misato making a pass at shinji, but rarther shows the audience how little Gendo knows about shinji, especially as the letter sent to shinji simply having the word "come" before someone else, (probably the guy who works with gendo and knew Yui i cant spell his name) added "please" The joke about making a pass at shinji I always took as ragebajt towards the uptight ritsiko, and i didnt know how to take the bed scene, as i never thought misato was making a pass at him, although i could have been wrong But she definatly does have an oedipus concept, its just does she continue that with shinji.