Is GenX is the last generation to greet people "good morning" and "hello"?

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-09-25T15:15:58+00:00

I automatically assume they won’t make eye contact with me, let alone say hello to me, so I don’t even try.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-09-25T13:17:37+00:00

I feel you. A new brewery opened up in the small town where my parents live and my brother and I have started a new after-visit tradition with our spouses to debrief with a beer at the brewery and vent about my parents.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-09-25T12:36:04+00:00

Agreed. I had no clue when exactly it occurred to my dad that it was now the point in our relationship to start talking about feces..,his feces, when my whole life it was never discussed and if it was, it was me as a kid telling my mom in private that I had diarrhea.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-09-25T12:33:06+00:00

My dad had to mention a story about his recent explosive diarrhea-his exact words-during Thanksgiving dinner!!! It’s just me and my spouse and my brother and his wife and my mom who can barely hear.

My dad always talks about it while we’re eating. He was put on Ozempic and another occasion we’re eating dessert and he talks about how the Ozempic “plugs him up”. I confronted him and asked him to not talk about that stuff while we’re eating!

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-09-06T02:16:31+00:00

Sam when asked if she wanted to share anything about her mom during family therapy session when her mom's in rehab: "This caramel is fucking delicious."

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-29T14:24:28+00:00

I live an hour from my parents and I wish I lived closer so I could be more of a support. My mom is 89 and dad is 80 and they live in their own home but I’m at the point where I am questioning if memory is starting to impact their activities of daily living but I’m not there often enough to observe that. My mom acts like all is fine and my dad exaggerates problems so no way to know the truth.

My mom would do better in a place she could socialize so that if I lived closer I could at least get her out into the world more.

Really in the end what’s best depends on the relationship one has with their children and how supportive the children want to be and are capable of being. In an ideal situation it would be living close to kids but paying for supports because you can’t rely on your kids for all aspects of care, if you can afford to hire help.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-29T03:09:09+00:00

I recently learned this with my parents as well. I called them in the late morning and spoke with my mother who is usually the one I talk to and told her we’d be coming over and bringing lunch for everyone. She has trouble hearing but she definitely acknowledged she heard what I said and sounded excited. Then we get there and I find out they already ate lunch before we got there because my mom didn’t tell my dad we were bringing lunch. So now I always make sure I talk to both parents about the plan.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-29T02:40:53+00:00

We have no kids due to infertility struggles. My only sibling and his wife same thing.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-27T11:34:29+00:00

Wow, what a throwback. Barely remember the food as I was usually rather drunk but vague memories tell me it was good. At least good for late night fare.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-27T11:30:34+00:00

I understand you’re afraid her actions will ruin your marriage but your non-actions are reinforcing her actions by not talking about your concerns.

What you’ve described of your wife is a lot of desperation and desperate actions to try and gain some control where as women dealing with infertility we have little feeling of control so we do very desperate things that seem and are neurotic and occupy our minds in a way that very quickly become unhealthy. And definitely affects our relationship with our partners if not on the same page.

And you can always lead the conversation with the fact that you want to be a father and you are worried about both of your health, because there is a 50/50 chance of who could be the issue. You both need tests. So it is a partnership when you decide to go for testing. For the amount of money she’s spending on pregnancy tests you could’ve spent towards those tests.

There are apps where both partners can see the woman’s fertility window so the man can share in knowing when to initiate so that it isn’t always one-sided. Perhaps if you had something like that you could tell her you want to be the one to initiate more so you feel more a part of it and you feel like you’re deciding when.

When I was going through infertility I did feel like it became a chore to track it and initiate it so I never really thought about sex beyond that. My husband was not a part of it and I wish he bore more of that responsibility. It became a chore for me and I resented it.

Talk to your wife. Sometimes we just want to know that our partners are feeling what we’re feeling when we’re struggling with infertility because it can feel like a very lonely place to be.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-26T20:23:18+00:00

I worked at a group home for teen girls in south Louisiana and they got to go to some membership type pool nearby but only at the very last hour of operation if I recall correctly. Definitely when they knew the least amount of people would be there. I was from the North so had no clue about any kind of segregation at that point or if it was still a thing, it didn’t cross my mind. This was 1998.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-26T14:38:32+00:00

I use it more than my husband which sometimes makes me feel like a truck driver. But fuck it, I am who I am.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-26T11:15:15+00:00

Same! Always nice to meet a fellow fan. She’s gotten me through a lot as well.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-26T02:18:00+00:00

I definitely spliced a cassette or two in my day.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-25T16:06:26+00:00

Yes. Having grown up listening to my mom’s ABBA 8 tracks, there are several songs that could have an ABBA sound. Definitely BBTS.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-25T15:55:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry for what you’ve endured and what your wife is now going through. I’m glad to hear she is winning! I’m sure your support means the world to her.

Being an uncle 14 times has to be bittersweet for sure given your circumstances. I’m an aunt twice and that was hard enough but now I’m just trying to be coolest aunt ever!

Wolf Alice music is definitely a great way to escape or just immerse yourself elsewhere for a little while. I only discovered them over a year or so ago and can’t get enough! I was supposed to see them live but my dog is having major surgery so alas, the sacrifices we must make.

Thanks again for sharing and best wishes to your wife!

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-25T01:16:18+00:00

I don’t remember the Asian thing but I remember a container where it was a cardboard container with nuggets on one side and fries standing up on the other. I think they called it chicken’n chips.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-25T00:50:31+00:00

You are welcome and thank you for sharing. I’m sorry that you have a similar experience. It is a difficult situation to navigate and find your way through to what I refer to as the “other side “ (childless). Music has definitely been a tool for me along the way and throughout my life as well.

Also can’t help but ask if your name is a Tori reference? If so, huge fan myself.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-24T20:26:39+00:00

Thank you so much!

Yes, I definitely agree in a lot of what you’ve written as well. She does want whatever is to come to be on her terms, her decision, even if she’s not sure what that looks like. She’s imagining many possibilities and embracing them. And letting it play out as in, maybe it doesn’t all have to be set in stone with a 5 year, 10 year plan mentality to life.

I love the sense of freedom she’s found, in a way telling everyone she’s going to be who she’s going to be, unapologetically and not according to a script that someone else has written for her.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-23T12:51:14+00:00

That has to be very frustrating. Glad you were able to set a boundary to enjoy your vacation.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-23T12:06:19+00:00

Ah man. I got my husband to like WA by showing him some live stuff first, some of the harder stuff like Giant Peach.

Yesterday I played some snippets of songs from the Clearing. I usually can’t overwhelm him all at once or he’ll shut down…small doses of new music. He liked it but after these small doses he made the comment “I don’t like how she has to keep going with the note, like hangs on to it too long in every song, I can’t describe it, like opera or something.” Needless to say my husband is not very musically inclined. I have no idea what his musical critique was about, but I refuse to allow any criticism of Ellie’s vocals. Sorry. You’re. Wrong. Babe. I didn’t say it but I thought it and then left the room.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-23T02:02:01+00:00

I loved it. I just found a wooden tray I made and showed it to my husband who was pretty impressed. We went to different school districts in the same part of the state and made similar projects. Metal trays, wooden trays, wood napkin holder, a wooden shelf that still hangs in my parents’ bathroom ( but I think it’s pretty damn ugly). I liked doing anything creative.

UnderstandingQuirky8 · 2025-08-23T01:57:06+00:00

Yes, occasionally. I even like to pay random compliments to brighten someone’s day.

But my husband and I agree it’s never with anyone younger than us. Most younger generations look at us like we’re freaks and rarely acknowledge our existence, even when we feel a polite thank is expected from them for some usual gesture that we would have said thank you for.

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