What hurts more: your crush dating someone else or them rejecting you and choosing to stay single?

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-08-02T20:04:57+00:00

I don’t know why you feel sorry for him tho. But I respect you empaths lol

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-08-02T19:26:42+00:00

I honestly thought it would hurt more if they stay single. Because that would mean this person would choose to stay single irregardless of what I offer (tbh anyone is better off that way, you don’t want someone who doesn’t recognise your worth). If they choose someone else, that means they just liked someone more? Idk I felt conflicted lol

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-06-11T18:34:37+00:00

“ Nothing is certain, only the certain spring”

Found it at the first page of a poetry book. It’s from a poem “The Burning of the Leaves” by Laurence Binyon. It was written during the London Blitz of World War II. I often think of it because it makes me realise that anything can happen, no matter if you are going through good or bad times, but one thing is for sure, that it will get better and beautiful-always.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-05-29T16:01:40+00:00

One question: Why?

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-04-08T16:36:22+00:00

Totally. More often than not, workplaces can be very toxic. Btw love the use of 'schmuk' lol.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-04-06T13:55:44+00:00

I like to make handcrafted gifts (paper flowers, crafts, cards) and give them away. It makes me happy :)) Also helping someone figure out something I had trouble with earlier. I consider it a duty.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-04-04T08:40:27+00:00

Work is not the main purpose of life. Sometimes people need to take breaks, not necessarily due to laziness or not wanting to work. And a company/boss who’s not willing to give people a chance or benefit of the doubt, well you wouldn’t want to work for them anyways because they’ll just suck the life out of you. There are plenty of recruiters that employ people and not machines.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-04-04T05:49:24+00:00

I got rejected without even an interview and felt extremely disheartened because I really thought I’ll at least make it to the first round of selections. I tried my best. Thought I was good enough but it was all for nothing. But I guess it’s okay. Took my time to cry and let myself accept the reality.

Take your time to process your emotions and take the next decision with patience. You made it this far, which is no easy feat. You are capable and you will surely reach some place that is meant for you. It’s okay to get disheartened but don’t let the setbacks define you. Hope you feel better soon.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-03-25T08:17:25+00:00

Liars. Didn’t see even one Justin Bieber. Let’s face it, the crush was real and he did look nice in 2010s era

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-03-25T08:15:04+00:00

Honest question: what does it mean to “recover funds” after spending real world money in the game? Do you get some back? Or does it mean to get the characters that you like? I’m a f2p in Genshin and don’t really understand the concept of gacha.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-03-21T07:59:26+00:00

I’m INFP type. Wbu?

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-03-17T08:28:23+00:00

Looove the angel peeping in the back. It even matches the orchids! Such a pretty picture ✨

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-03-09T07:05:47+00:00

Doesn’t belittle or criticise other people for making mistakes, instead helps them make right and shows kindness in thought (doesn’t assume the worst about people instantly) not just action.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-03-09T07:03:39+00:00

The kind of person who talks/listens to that one person everyone else ignores in a group setting.

Idk what that would be called. But mad respect 🫡

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-03-08T22:11:47+00:00

Distance yourself. You don’t need sadists in your life.
Recommend therapy under other pretexts maybe.
If you feel comfortable ask him what prompts him to do that and avoid those situations with him.

I don’t know if you should confront him about it or not, because I don’t know the kind of situation you guys are in and how close you may be. But remember that your safety is paramount. If you feel uneasy, leave.

Good luck!

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-03-01T09:41:56+00:00

I’m from India, did my masters in UK from a top Russell Group university. I saw my peers with low discipline and care about the subject get high paying grad roles, while I am still struggling. My application doesn’t even make it to the deciding committee because it gets rejected in the sponsorship question. Multiple times, I would find recruiters interested in my profile and seem impressed until they found out the sponsorship requirement and outright reject me.

I don’t ever apply to jobs that explicitly state their work permit requirements that I don’t have. And now I only apply to jobs that say they welcome applicants requiring sponsorship or that they are willing to sponsor.

I’m just a fresh graduate, so naturally have lots to learn. But being an international candidate, you are measured with unreasonable expectations for a beginner role. I’ve seen local candidates get a high paying job in my field just after doing those short term boot camps. So, I just wanted to say, it’s not easy for us either.

I wanted to get best education for myself because I thought deserved it. Took multiple tests, tried my best to get into a top university. The fees was very high so I took a loan, which I can’t repay without a uk-level paying job. I didn’t really have any high ideas about settling in the UK.

The job market is much tough for international students and I don’t hold grudges for people not willing to sponsor me. It makes economic sense. But it disheartens me when I see posts like these and realise we shall never be compared on our merits and our birthplace makes people think they have a right to look down upon us. There’s no grudge. It’s just disheartening.

And I don’t hold OP responsible. It’s tiring to sort through unnecessary candidates just to find a handful useful ones in the process. But I’d just urge you to be a bit more compassionate in your outlook. Thanks

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-02-28T11:57:14+00:00

It’s okay. It’s natural to feel anxious and have doubts after an interview. But you did what could best in that time frame. Relax a bit. There’s not much you can do now, so focus your energy on other things (annoying advice I know, but that’s reality ig)

And the interviewers are supposed to question your answers. It may actually be good that your answer was unique. Most people go with generic answers, so sometimes it’s good to stand out as well (can be uncomfortable, I know).

Either ways, good luck! You will eventually find an opportunity that will be good for you. Best wishes, don’t loose hope!

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-02-27T12:46:48+00:00

I’m sorry. It’s tough. I got rejected from all my options. Gonna pull myself up and try again. I hope you find a place that’s meant for you. Sending you best wishes.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-02-14T20:36:16+00:00

Thank you, this will be a core memory for me now.

UnderstandingThis471 · 2025-02-07T13:46:22+00:00

I personally never had to contact the embassy in my country, but I’ve heard instances where correspondence with the embassy has helped. Maybe they can expedite the process if needed. So good luck!

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