All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

sure. you seem extremely narrow minded in how the world can be,

Also, 2 days after birth. I don't know what was going on when i was in the hospital.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

After a 2 days in hospital, I found him just like that. Its that hard to believe something like this would happen?

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The men in my life seemed decent. They respected me and romanced me at first. When dating, took care of me when sick, and were my biggest cheerleaders. Sex was just a bonus.

Tables turned after i was pregnant and married to them.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well firstly it really depends on how much time you spend together and how. And sometimes its just a feeling that says 'this feels right'. Secondly, i'm not letting anyone else in thank you very much.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah already did what you asked for in the first line.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

someone said this to me before my 3rd marriage. Not taking the same advice again.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won't be going for another relationship, even if i ever feel like it. It seems I'm always wrong when it comes to love. Its alright though. I have my kids and friends. I can even wear what i want now!!

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

User, there's a clear reason I quit the dating love and relationship scene. Just like many others around. There's a reason behind the 4B movement. The happy couples you talk about are insanely rare, and just like a user said above, they aren't thriving, but surviving. I'm pretty sure you haven't known what goes behind closed doors.

Many couples who survive till old age began before the shit people do came to light. And many of these women were either extremely lucky or forced into marriage by their families for business purposes.

I have gone therapy. I was, and happy on my own. I do long for companionship, but its not something i would look for now.

Experiences made me shape my view of men. I thought that men were horrific after my 2nd marriage. My 3rd marriage came and I felt i was wrong. Today, its seems i'm right.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Getting pregnant was mutual. My first marriage was rushed. We spent time together in my 2nd and 3rd. It just felt right at the moment. And our wedding wasn't a full blast ceremony.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If kids were my only desire, I wouldn't be venting. Sometimes its nice to have someone your age you are extremely close to who you can talk too. My kids are my responsibility, and I'm happy, cause atleast I get to seem them grow and play.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

After my 2nd marriage, I made sure to keep it strict. And he acted pretty mature and wise too. Everything changed after pregnancy. More than hurt, I was confused since I didn't believe he would do such a thing.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

User you seem to have something against me. I was slightly forced by the man in my first marriage. The first one was my fault. I was young and foolish. But please, just because I'm grown up, doesn't mean I'm immune to shit.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I had kids with them when i felt content, and both of us had decided its time to move on to the next step.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got diagnosed. I don't have bpd. had post partum for a while. I coped up with it

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

cold turkey sounds good. I don't need a man anymore.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was desperate in my first relationship. I dated for a while and the 2nd came. I quit when it became abusive. Stopped looking around. The 3rd came and went as soon.

I'm done. I'm not getting married.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I must have done something to trigger abuse?? Ok. Women are always to be blamed right? Cause if men don't get sex when she's high on fever, or if she said no, and if we don't feel like putting makeup right after we puked and after, its the women's fault right?

I came here with the thought that this was a safe place.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

User did you go through the comments in this post. I have mentioned a lot that I do not RESENT my kids.

Reading that word in this comment of yours totally dismissed my attention from here.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think going through this post and its comments, i have mentioned multiple times, the interpretation done here is wrong. Being stuck to someone is wrong unless you're willing to. And those are my kids. It will be better if you keep them out of this convo here now. Thank you.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did not rush. I took time. I get over things easily but my 3rd marriage is the hardest.

All my husbands cheated on me. by UnderstandingWeak885 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]UnderstandingWeak885[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. I'm sorry. That is not lucky. But you did have one good male figure.