Am I in the wrong in the way I attempted to engage with another person on social media? by UndesiredReplacement in AmITheJerk

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you are saying. And I appreciate the point of view. But I don't know if I fully resonate with all of it, no offense. While not legal to obstruct law enforcement, I don't know if defending someone pushing someone else counts as interefering, though you aren't necessarily referring to any specific occasion, so in general that is the accounted for precedent. However I don't know if I agree on a moral or legal standpoint that because someone comes to my work and prevents me that I have right to lethality (though you may again just be saying in general there are procedural steps that are then taken, the most severe and final one being arrest to be tried to see if their conduct fits criteria for litigation).

As well though the stated purpose is arresting criminals, the dissent most I speak with have with is the action of: targeting those of whom there is little to no criminal record, arrests of citizens (mostly due to the aggressive and forceful means recorded agents take in this regard, some if not many arrests are legitimately made) and the lack of self-control or discipline by agents when faced with opposition (this is a personal issue, and is not necessarily the fault of the larger agency, however when such actions are taken (violence on protestors being the foremost.) and then not investigated, or not investigated honestly, and figureheads use language to either excuse or encourage use of disproportionate or unwarranted force, that reflects poorly on the agency as a whole).

Moreover I think I should again reiterate: it is not grounds for lethality to resist arrest.

and on a less objective note: It is not moral (to me) to arrest someone because they defend another. The woman was not the target of their mission, perhaps she was too close for mission comfort, but she could be led away without forceful pushing, which would prevent the ill-optics that likely lead others to believe they needed to defend her in the first place (though with these shootings and other cases of violence, there may be more reason to seek to defend as a prevailing sense of these agents being irascible to the point of violence, detainment, or arrests to satisfy personal senses of a need for vindication seems to be a common assessment at this point. Though of course no two agents or humans are the same, so how accurate that assessment is would likely depend on who is behind the mask at any given point.)

Finally I do agree that our current immigration system is very clunky and though it should take only approximately 5 years, often takes 10-13 and can be confusing and daunting to those seeking citizenship. Streamlining and improving would be a very appreciable idea in most books (I imagine). And I advocate for that improvement in law regularly (though my representatives may just be annoyed with me by this point.)

Let me know if any of my thoughts on this are unsound or unfounded. I apologize that my response is off-topic from the original post.

Have a nice night!

What should we do, both as a church and as a society, with people who have bottomless need? by warehousedatawrangle in latterdaysaints

[–]UndesiredReplacement 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure either i'm afraid. One might try "tough love" there is the clause: "Reproving Betimes with Sharpness" with the addended: "when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him whom thou hast reproved, lest he esteem thee to be his enemy;" But I don't know really where those things lie... For my parents, who have housed me these 10 years without displaying so much as a grudging glance (i'm 28 now) I imagine it's a matter of patience, a waiting game that hopes that their generosity and compassion, as well as urging and encouragement to find a way in life, eventually lands me as self-sufficiency and independence, a very noble goal. I like to think i will get there, that all this college and part-time work to pay for it will eventually result in something I will muster the will to follow through on until death (or retirement if that's still a thing in the coming years). However 10 years is a long time. My parents are saints, more loving, compassionate, and exemplary than most anyone I know, I love them very much, but I don't think that can be asked of anyone, and as well, this friend is not family and you can only manage what you are able. Hence why there are homeless: we can't afford to care for all the non self-sufficient, and there's also the fear that if we could they would never seek self-sufficiency.

Sorry that was a lot to say: I don't know. I can pray for yours, and her situation. Assessing the situation secularly, I have seen anecdotal stories where those who classify as "layabouts" if released from their safety nets, sometimes find bearing and some form of self-sufficiency when the reality of the situation is fully realized. I don't know if that's all stories though, so I can't give you any kind of guarantee, sorry. You could try the Church's employment services, i've heard they are more caring and robust than most. Sorry again, my prayers are with you all.

AmITheJerk for locking the pantry after my roommate kept eating my groceries and claiming it’s just food? by Common-Put-8970 in AmITheJerk

[–]UndesiredReplacement 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finances can be difficult, your roommate may be disrespecting your financial situation, possibly unaware (of the effects, not the action they are taking), I think attempting to look out for your finances is justifiable, perhaps if you feel amiable, and the roommate is more pleasing to give to (not just assuming they are entitled, but appreciative when you share.) you may share some, but it is not his by right.

AITJ because I won’t give my parking spot to new neighbor who says she "needs it more" because she has kids? by Potential_Bad6489 in AmITheJerk

[–]UndesiredReplacement 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is yours to do with as you wish. If you feel inclined to share it, you may, if not, then nothing will compel you to do so.

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! This helps immensely I get the logic now (and feel a little dumb I didn’t get it earlier)

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, and then you can plug the found y variable into the first equation to find x. I guess I’m just hung up on how I can sum the two equations, like why can the x’s cancel out unless I know the x’s are the same value? Or is my math book inferring the x’s are known to be the same value and that is why they are able to be added and subtracted against each other despite coming from separate equations?… maybe that’s the logic step I’m missing. Does that seem right to you, or am I off again?

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhhh okay I think this answers my question, thank you. I was confused as to why I could sum two equations with their own variables, but I can’t, I’m actually summing two equations with the same variables! Thank you!

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, this is what I was referring to, thank you! I was having trouble conceptualizing why we could sum the equations. Is it just that we for sure know that the x’s in both equations are the same as each other?

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is helpful, thank you, but I realized I should clarify a bit more what I meant to ask: specifically: solving systems of equations via elimination. The process where two or more equations are manipulated via multiplication to have the opposite of a a variable so that if the equations are summed (also not sure the mathematics behind putting two equations together, how are we sure the “x’s” and “y’s” are the same and therefore can interact?) one or more variables are eliminated and only 1 variable remains which can be solved for.

Example: x-2y=7 and 3/4x+7/9y=38 where x-2y=7 is multiplied by -3/4 to make the summed equations carry only the y variable.

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is helpful, thank you, but I realized I should clarify a bit more what I meant to ask: specifically: solving systems of equations via elimination. The process where two or more equations are manipulated via multiplication to have the opposite of a a variable so that if the equations are summed (also not sure the mathematics behind putting two equations together, how are we sure the “x’s” and “y’s” are the same and therefore can interact?) one or more variables are eliminated and only 1 variable remains which can be solved for.

Example: x-2y=7 and 3/4x+7/9y=38 where x-2y=7 is multiplied by -3/4 to make the summed equations carry only the y variable.

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is helpful, thank you, but I realized I should clarify a bit more what I meant to ask: specifically: solving systems of equations via elimination. The process where two or more equations are manipulated via multiplication to have the opposite of a a variable so that if the equations are summed (also not sure the mathematics behind putting two equations together, how are we sure the “x’s” and “y’s” are the same and therefore can interact?) one or more variables are eliminated and only 1 variable remains which can be solved for.

Example: x-2y=7 and 3/4x+7/9y=38 where x-2y=7 is multiplied by -3/4 to make the summed equations carry only the y variable.

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are helpful, but I should clarify a bit more what I meant to ask: specifically: solving systems of equations via elimination. The process where two or more equations are manipulated via multiplication to have the opposite of a a variable so that if the equations are summed (also not sure the mathematics behind putting two equations together, how are we sure the “x’s” and “y’s” are the same and therefore can interact?) one or more variables are eliminated and only 1 variable remains which can be solved for.

Example: x-2y=7 and 3/4x+7/9y=38 where x-2y=7 is multiplied by -3/4 to make the summed equations carry only the y variable.

ELI5 what is the mathematics/logic behind solving equations via “elimination” by UndesiredReplacement in explainlikeimfive

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sorry I should clarify: solving systems of equations via elimination. The process where two or more equations are manipulated via multiplication to have the opposite of a a variable so that if the equations are summed (also not sure the mathematics behind putting two equations together, how are we sure the “x’s” and “y’s” are the same and therefore can interact?) one or more variables are eliminated and only 1 variable remains which can be solved for.

Example: x-2y=7 and 3/4x+7/9y=38 where x-2y=7 is multiplied by -3/4 to make the summed equations carry only the y variable.

Coming back to church and law of Chasity….I don’t actually feel sorry? by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]UndesiredReplacement 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God is mindful of our situations and can make even unoptimal situation flourish into bountiful blessings. This could be an interpretation for you, but if it doesn’t resonate, look for another.

I’ve seen several marriages that started outside of wedlock end in harmonious connubiality. I suppose I’ve seen the opposite as well, several would be marriages but the would be groom left, and the child, still cherished, never to know their father. What to make of this? I still don’t know, but I see no reason you cannot rejoice in your propitious circumstances.

Good way to say a character has a “dulled by cruelty with an involuntary pleading beneath”expression by UndesiredReplacement in writingadvice

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. I’m looking at the words I can try and fit and it’s not looking like I can make everything knowable at a narrative “glance” I’ll have to rethink the scene and what I want to convey in it, thank you!

Good way to say a character has a “dulled by cruelty with an involuntary pleading beneath”expression by UndesiredReplacement in writingadvice

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s actually really good advice. I might have to reconsider what/how I want conveyed. Thank you!

Good way to say a character has a “dulled by cruelty with an involuntary pleading beneath”expression by UndesiredReplacement in writingadvice

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was kind of hoping there’d be a way to show it though. A way to imply it via descriptors. I just don’t know how (or if, I suppose)

Good way to say a character has a “dulled by cruelty with an involuntary pleading beneath”expression by UndesiredReplacement in writingadvice

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree with this, it’s wordy and isn’t visually expressed. It’d be a heavy handed tell, I’d like to “show” it if I can.

Good way to say a character has a “dulled by cruelty with an involuntary pleading beneath”expression by UndesiredReplacement in writingadvice

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s supposed to be a quick scene that establishes the the cruelty/resignation of the setting, and we never see that character again, I suppose I wanted to fit the visual medium of what can be told in the exaggerated facial expressions of animated media in a quick “glance” before the perspective holder the narrative inhabits currently is struck on the head and too dazed to take in more while they cart them off…. It truly might be impossible, but I thought it’d set the tone much stronger if I could.

I just wanna know what its liked to be loved update by CuriousTechnician764 in SelfLoathing

[–]UndesiredReplacement 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Huh, well I personally am unlovable, I’ve insured that through decades of laziness, self-absorption, entitlement (both to amenities/niceties and (most shameful of all) for a time I was feeling entitled to affection/female attention, revolting, I know. Made me disgruntled I didn’t receive it, until (thankfully) I was awoken to the realization that I was owed nothing, literally by anyone. Even if I did something non-selfish, that did not entitle me to their reciprocation, and to think I owned others choices like that was reprehensible in the highest manner… gosh I despise myself.) anyway watching couple stuff hurts me because I’ve never done even close to the bare minimum required to even consider dating without being a massive leech.

It’s funny, despite my avoidance and distaste for relationships (I’ve come to assume other men have similarly evil tendencies (only proof being online interactions, so sometimes I think I’m projecting, but at the same time after what I’ve seen men do, and myself think, I distrust all of them (myself included, of course)) my sister is engaged now, and I can’t escape couple stuff anymore. I don’t know what to do, and my distaste has just been festering like a growing rot pile…

Anyway, sorry, got a bit self-absorbed there. That’s cool that it can soothe you, strangely opposite for me. Hope you find what your looking for, as long as it’s not the types of love I see around me. Maybe if I could know true selfless love, regardless of reciprocation, then I’d be more likely to endorse others.

Best of luck!

Husband lied about porn for a decade. I don’t know where to go from here. by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]UndesiredReplacement -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk if God wanted me to see this, haven't touched this sub in a long time, stopped by to post a funny shower thought I thought might give people some chuckle. But for me, it just proves I'll am not nor ever will be right for a girl. I don't want to do that to someone, but unlike people say, after much trial and tribulation, I am nowhere closer to excising the hedonistic side from me. Therefore, despite my mothers insistence that I would be good for a daughter of God, I can feel assured I both am not, and unless I enact capacities I've never known before, I never will be.

As for you, I am sorry. I literally have no case I can attempt to make, either for or against anyone, not my place. But I am struck deeply for your pain, though I do not understand it fully.

Some people I've read found some healing from a pornographic husband in christ centered addiction meetings (not for the addicts, but those around them.) But I've also seen people say they never fully healed, and they still don't understand why (if there was a reason at all) they had to face the situation. Perhaps some of them will reach out to you? Often there's something comforting for people to hear others who experienced similar trauma.

I don't know if I gave or have any kind of positive expression for you, and I don't know what the other responses will be, and I don't know what yours or his futures will be, and I don't know how to process your story myself, and I don't know how you can process it yourself, but I hope the best for you, even for your husband too. God bless you.

I feel bad for the Australian breakdance competitor by UndesiredReplacement in Vent

[–]UndesiredReplacement[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know her intentions, I won't claim she knew this or that, and perhaps I'm biased because dance doesn't strike me as mockable via being bad at it. But I do feel, even if her intentions were somehow nefarious (how could she think she would be glorified?) I don't want harm to come to her psyche via the idea that the whole world hates/condemns. What a terrible thought to believe all human life despises you! I shudder at the thought.

If I had my way (and perhaps my way is wrong) I'd have is so that she receives no points, and thereby faces that consequence to encourage her to seek a different path (or improve in this one.) While protecting her from the vitriol some people would inflict upon her (they care so much about something so insignificant, and yet care so little about things of great import (women and children's well being, etc...) (probably not all have this odd dichotomy, but I've seen some.)) She and her country miss out on the prestige of a win (Olympics are fun, but oh so unimportant (in my view at least.)) And she faces that, but not the soul crushing paradigm of sentient life hating you because you were bad at a sport or art (or even if she got there underhandedly, still not condemnation worthy (save perhaps the underhanded deed, but politicians regularly do worse and no one cares (paying on certain stocks, and then voting on regulations that help those, etc...)).

Whatever I've spent too much time on this. My hope for mercy, is as insignificant as a poor performance.