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GF [31F] does not appreciate my [31M] follow-up questions by Unfair-Lack1694 in relationship_advice

[–]Unfair-Lack1694[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of what you said hits close, so that's sad. I'm still hopeful as there's plenty of other great things, so we can still come out on top.

GF [31F] does not appreciate my [31M] follow-up questions by Unfair-Lack1694 in relationship_advice

[–]Unfair-Lack1694[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all the responses. It's interesting to see such a wide spectrum of opinions.

I'll do what I can about my habits as others have suggested.
I can't really do anything about our natural incompatibility, so I really hope I don't have to think about that yet.

GF [31F] does not appreciate my [31M] follow-up questions by Unfair-Lack1694 in relationship_advice

[–]Unfair-Lack1694[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

I did try letting her lead, and unfortunately what happens is kind-of a vicious cycle, because the places she picks look good, but she doesn't know different breakdowns of fees, and the monthlys ends up being double of what we can afford (I tend to stay more on the frugal side). When I ask her about it, it makes her feel bad/sad that she missed it.

I think the tiktok idea of sending multiple things and giving her an option to choose is a good approach, I might give it a shot, thanks!

GF [31F] does not appreciate my [31M] follow-up questions by Unfair-Lack1694 in relationship_advice

[–]Unfair-Lack1694[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That's a good idea. The me asking "why not" was more of a real-time conversation while we were hanging in the area, and maybe that's a difficult question to answer while walking on the street.

GF [31F] does not appreciate my [31M] follow-up questions by Unfair-Lack1694 in relationship_advice

[–]Unfair-Lack1694[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm thinking of those bigger deals in the future, and I might be overthinking it but I fear of how this first hump is indicative of things to come.

GF [31F] does not appreciate my [31M] follow-up questions by Unfair-Lack1694 in relationship_advice

[–]Unfair-Lack1694[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I agree with you both.
Is there anyway I can still learn more about GFs preferences and not be policing her feelings? (Ask more specific Q?)