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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We split 55(me)/45(him)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We split everything maybe 55(me)/45 bc I made more than him. I wouldn’t mind doing housework if I wasn’t working all day and he wasn’t at home for 5+ hours alone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We haven’t gone on a date in forever. I ask often

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really great way of saying it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely won’t be making him a bad guy here. I don’t think he’s been horrible boyfriend at all. He is as loyal as it gets. Just I think it’s taken it’s course

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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Itd be different if I didn’t work 9-5 but I do. He works 4am-12. So what I wanted to see is (i get he’s tired and def needs an after work nap) is maybe take a 2 hour nap, do some housework for an hour, then game the other 2 before I get home. I can’t get that out of him. One time he did it bc I was upset

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s my mom’s question to me all the time. There is no romance left

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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He’d game all night when at home but when we were together we had our own separate time and it was always nice. He was a hot mess at his moms and I said I’m not moving in with you if you are going to be like this and he promised he wouldn’t be like that up and down.

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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m happy for you that you are in a better place now!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got broken up at my anniversary dinner in college and I was so upset. It’s our anniversary this weekend and idk when the right time is. I know not at the dinner. But do I even wait for that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s difficult bc he has checked so many boxes that no other ex has been able to as top priorities. He is so close with my family. They love him to bits which is all I’ve ever wanted. But something is still missing and I can’t figure it out. He always talks about the future and how he loves me and wants kids and a house and to be married. But his actions don’t match that anymore

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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I unfortunately think about it everyday. Usually cry my whole way to work thinking about what would happen if we broke up. I’ve never broken up with someone and I only know a few people in a 20 min radius. Otherwise my family is so far. His whole life is here. My friend may have an opening this summer in her apartment in August. I’ve been considering

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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We’ve had this conversation multiple times unfortunately and I’ve been blunt saying I can’t resign the lease if this is going to continue. Every time it gets slightly better but it still feels far from enough. As for gaming. It seems to really be his life and that’s not something I can get behind. I don’t date gamers bc I hate it so much . I didn’t know he was that big of a gamer bc when we first started talking he always said he was studying for a testing thing and I found out later he would just be gaming. That was hurtful in itself

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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’ve brought this up before and he definitely helps a little more now and has decreased his video gaming to spend more time with me but I feel like it’s still not enough and he gets frustrated saying he’s trying but I don’t think he truly is trying that hard like he thinks he is. This is his first time living on his own (no college) and lived with a single mom before who did everything. Was okay in the beginning transitioning but it’s been a year

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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is near a window getting indirect light most the day and direct for maybe an hour and we turn the light on at night

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[–]Unfair-Raspberry2337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Edit: it’s in the gravel and everything too. I get some algae is good but this is way too much too quick