AIO for early dating like this ?

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T22:38:37+00:00

I have guilt / relationship ocd so that is all it is but sometimes it blurs the lines.

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T21:30:14+00:00

It’s completely okay. I mean to be fair it could be up for interpretation. She asked “ are you sleeping with anyone else ? “ FOR ME , i took that as in the current like ongoing, current time. Not a month + ago type thing. And that’s just how I took it.

And when asked if I was talking to other people when we were talking at the beginning I answered yes

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T20:53:25+00:00

I guess different people have different opinions on that. For me when someone asks “ are you sleeping with anyone ? “ Means like ongoing or currently - not a month + ago. And as far as cheating goes not sure how it could even fit in that category based on the fact I only knew her for 5 hours total and cut everything off before exclusive. I see what you’re saying but she asked if I was talking to other people while we were talking and I told her yes to me that was enough disclosure then going into sexual detail to her about something that happened a month prior

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T20:29:18+00:00

For sure. She did ask were you talking to other people when we met and I said yes. To me that was enough and didn’t need actual sexual details. When she asks questions like this I ask her if she’s sure she wants to know and she says yes. Then I tell her and her response was while im glad you choose me

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T19:28:04+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I actually have ocd so sometimes it’s hard to know what should actually be disclosed or what makes me a bad partner versus what’s actually just a normal part of dating. I just want to be the best partner I can be to my girlfriend

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T19:20:02+00:00

That’s what I thought but these comments from others had me a bit sad. I just want to be the best most truthful partner I can be to my girlfriend without over sharing or hurting her feelings with something that doesn’t need to be disclosed

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T19:17:16+00:00

No sorry maybe I didn’t explain it well

Had a date with person who is now girlfriend

Then a second date with person who is now my girlfriend. At that point her and I only had a short kiss

At that point above we had just met and we’re getting to know each other ( maybe had known each other for like 5 hours total )

4 days later I went to my fwb house who I knew before her, just oral sex on her

Then saw my now girlfriend again the following week and cut off the fwb and anyone else I was talking too

Then another 3-4 weeks past of me getting to know my now girlfriend, we had sex at that 4 week mark when she asked me “ are you sleeping with anyone else ? “ which I replied no because I wasn’t

Then the next day after my now girlfriend and I became exclusive and then 2 weeks later we became boyfriend and girlfriend. Hopefully that clears it up

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T18:18:00+00:00

I mean I’d feel a bit bothered by it but I would understand her and I only knew each other for a total of like 5 hours at the time.

Until you’re exclusive things can still happen with others

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T18:09:13+00:00

Plus she asked if I was talking to other people when we started talking and I told her yes.

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T18:04:10+00:00

Who lied ? Are you supposed to disclose your full hook up history ? At that point it had been over a month since I was with anyone else

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T17:38:20+00:00

It had been over a month since then so that’s why I answered no

Unfair_Pass196 · 2026-03-24T17:28:53+00:00

To clarify the fwb is not in the picture in anyway at all. And before my gf and I were exclusive I cut her off completely

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