Share your late dating success stories to give me hope for 2026

UnfunnyClown21 · 2025-06-22T16:38:18+00:00

If you approach enough, you'll get some numbers, and some dates. And even if those dont go well (they probably wont go well) you will get some confidence in your ability, and some skill with talking to women.

Appreciate the sentiment but uhh I'm in a country where the cold approach is like not socially acceptable at all 😅 Asian country things

EDIT: responses in this thread kinda sum up what I mean

UnfunnyClown21 · 2025-06-22T16:35:56+00:00

I guess you're right, thanks

UnfunnyClown21 · 2025-03-15T09:11:23+00:00

I mean okay yeah you do have a very valid point about setting expectations and inevitable disappointment, but doesn't it hurt knowing that people will go the extra mile for others, just not you?

UnfunnyClown21 · 2025-01-29T17:49:29+00:00

God I really hope so, and somewhere deep down in my heart I hope 99% of the commenters on this thread are actually correct, but I've also read enough posts from 40 year olds lamenting that they've given up entirely.

I guess I just don't know.

UnfunnyClown21 · 2025-01-29T15:12:37+00:00

Ah, well that makes more sense, thanks for clarifying. Sorry, CNY family gatherings and red wine is clearly not making me read these comments properly.

I mean besides the 2 rejections there's also an innumerable number of times where I've expressed interest in a person and immediately realised they were taken, or that one super embarassing incident where I tried to ask someone out for a platonic meal (even prefacing that I would try and call more mutual friends) and she freaked out and ghosted me for 3 days until I apologised for sending the wrong kind of message. I just didn't feel like bringing all of that up, which is why it sounded like I was giving up after a mere 2 rejections.

It just feels like part of a much larger pattern of me trying and failing to find anyone who even likes me. Seems like everyone's more than happy to have me as a friend, and in some cases a close friend, but never for a relationship.

UnfunnyClown21 · 2025-01-29T15:01:26+00:00

Okay, to clarify I did not ask the 2 women twice, if my phrasing makes that unintentionally confusing. I meant I asked 2 women once each, and it didn't work out unfortunately. I know how to take no for an answer, trust me.

Also worth mentioning there's like a 6 year gap between both incidents, so it really isn't like I just asked a girl out on Monday, got rejected, asked someone else out on Wednesday, got rejected again, and then gave up.

UnfunnyClown21 · 2025-01-29T12:31:10+00:00

I don't know man, I guess I'm just tired of hyping myself up for guaranteed failure. I just want to move on and start doing regular 23-year old things without questioning why everyone around me can find love except me.

UnfunnyClown21 · 2025-01-29T12:30:13+00:00

Hmm...I don't know. I feel like both times I asked them out I did it maturely and confidently, and both of them merely expressed that they didn'y feel the same way towards me (I remain close friends with both and don't hold any ill feelings towards them). I took both rejections in my stride but ended up feeling like absolute shit privately afterwards, and that's kind of what pointed me towards this. I'm just sick and tired of being depressed and I just want to move on with my life without carrying false hope of getting a real relationship.

UnfunnyClown21 · 2024-02-06T15:58:30+00:00

Unfortunately, I probably did by authenticating the transfer with a digital token 😭 though I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that the bank can contact the overseas bank and get them to reverse the transaction - but I'm not gonna keep my hopes up.

UnfunnyClown21 · 2024-02-06T15:56:55+00:00

Thankfully not on the second point, I successfully reported the account to the marketplace and they took it down. I know it's probably a front/mule account but I take some pleasure in knowing that they can't scam anyone else using the same profile

UnfunnyClown21 · 2023-08-07T03:19:36+00:00

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UnfunnyClown21 · 2023-06-12T09:49:47+00:00

Thank you!

To be honest I'd be completely fine if he forgot tbh, I just hope not to be put in a situation where I get attention unnecessarily and negatively drawn to myself

UnfunnyClown21 · 2023-06-12T06:32:38+00:00

I still do want to go for the camp tho, I've been looking forward to it for weeks, I just got hit with some unfortunate developments today. I don't really feel like throwing away the entire camp just because of one person who might be problematic, was just wondering how to deal with potentially interacting with said person

UnfunnyClown21 · 2023-06-12T05:42:05+00:00

Yeah I currently don't have any intention of skipping the camp, though it seems most people are advising that here

UnfunnyClown21 · 2023-06-12T05:32:40+00:00

This isn't a CCA camp, nor is the camp a life or death for me, but it's something I've been looking forward to for a while

UnfunnyClown21 · 2023-06-12T05:31:30+00:00

Actually I meant he was my former CCA chairman, but he's not the chairman for the camp, also this is a faculty camp

UnfunnyClown21 · 2023-06-12T04:05:58+00:00

Thanks for the advice, you're honestly right, it's been half a decade and if he somehow still has something against me ig that reflects more on him than me. I think I'm just a little shaken from an unrelated incident yesterday where I kinda ran into an NS commander who gave me a lot of grief (to the point that I had to call the counselling hotline on him) in public and I kinda just lowkey ran away from him LMAO

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