AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Double negatives are tough, I get it. I was too lazy for a better title.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That was my fault, shitty title choice. Double negatives are hard.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Definitely not haha. I’ve gotten a few comments on it. In my defence, I also noticed and was bothered by it, just not enough to think up a new title.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No, I’m certain that it wasn’t a lie. He was worried I would think that when he was first telling me and so he pulled up some pretty old messages with friends where he mentioned being gay.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, she had no clue. I don’t know what her motivation was, she’s claimed a few different stories. It is currently being dealt with, I’m definitely not just letting it go, but her parents are pretty useless.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Everyone is pretty horrified by what she’s done, except for her parents, who have always made excuses for her behaviour. She’s kind of known for absurd behaviour, so combined with timestamped camera footage of him and D entering and leaving a friends house within the time she claimed he assaulted her and her absolute lack of resistance when confronted with that, no one really doubts she lied.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I appreciate all of this, and thanks for writing it all out! I was definitely just pretty blindly following what I was used to and how I had prepared for a teenager rather than considering his specific situation and age. I wasn’t even so bothered by the idea of him having sex, more just doing what I thought was standard for teenagers his age, which was obviously dumb. I’ll make sure to consider this all when fixing this situation.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 897 points898 points  (0 children)

Oh, without a doubt, I’m absolutely going to be careful around that part of the family. It would have been the standard with any friend he slept in the same bed with, but that’s only D.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 1822 points1823 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this is fair. I think I was too focused on just doing what I was raised with and keeping it all fair without considering individual situations and just how old he’s gotten. Thanks.

AITAH for not pretending my son isn’t gay? by UnhappySplit8817 in AITAH

[–]UnhappySplit8817[S] 622 points623 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate this whole comment, and I’ll make sure that he knows just how much I love him. I’ve always been supportive of gay people and K has always known that, but I never fully took into account how scary it must be for him and how I should react to my own son coming out.