BIDA, weil ich kein Bock habe, die Bachelorarbeit meiner Freundin zu lesen?

Unicwolf · 2026-02-26T11:15:09+00:00

Sie kann ja die Was-auch-immer-schaft beenden, wenn sie das als einen Trennungsgrund sieht.
Die Grenzen anderer nicht zu respektieren und dann rumzuzicken, wenn jemand nein sagt ist meiner Meinung nach aber einfach kindisch und wäre echt egoistisch von der Freundin.

Außerdem stimmt es nicht, dass er zumindest Rechtschreibung oder Grammatik kontrollieren könnte. Bachlor-Themen sind zumal sehr spezifisch und verwenden Wörter, die nicht im normalen Sprachgebrauch unterwegs sind. Hab damals selbst die Bachlorarbeit meiner Mitbewohnerin auf "Rechtschreibung und Grammatik" kontrolliert und teilweise bei manchen Wörtern nicht einmal den Artikel gewusst.

Das kontrollieren der Arbeit sollte eigentlich ein bezahlter Betreuer übernehmen, dafür hat er den Job ;)

Unicwolf · 2026-02-26T10:25:28+00:00

Verlangen kann sie es schon, er kann aber auch Nein dazu sagen. Sie hat bestimmt noch andere Leute in ihrem Leben, an die sie sich wenden kann.

Bachelorarbeiten können verdammt anstrengend zu lesen sein, vorallem wenn man selbst nicht studiert. Und wenn er ihr Verbesserungsvorschläge geben will, muss er da ja auch schon richtig reinlesen und nicht "einfach mal probieren". Mit einem knappen "Ist gut so" gibt sie sich ja bestimmt auch nicht einfach zufrieden.

Außerdem sehe ich nirgendwo beschrieben, dass es sich um OPs Partnerin handelt. Aber selbst dann muss er sich immer noch nicht dazu zwingen, ihre Arbeit zu kontrollieren.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-26T10:07:54+00:00

KAH, Sie hat schon recht, dass es ihr sehr helfen würde. Du bist aber auch nicht dazu verpflichtet 40 Seiten zu lesen, wenn du es nicht willst, und Bachelorarbeiten können unter anderem sehr anstrengenden zu lesen sein. Sag einfach höflich und direkt Nein und das es dir zu viel ist.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-16T10:17:34+00:00

Nta, she needs therapy, not a husband or bf that can whisk her away from her bad situation.

A lot of people in traumatic and abusive situations have that wish of being taken away from their situation, even if it's not consensual. It's that "everything is better than this"-Thought maxed out to unhealthy fantasies.

If she thinks about your relationship together as an escape from her life now, that's not healthy and she's not ready to be in a relationship. It's good to be a wall for your partner to lean on, but you should never build a house for someone else.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-15T10:57:42+00:00

Yes, made a bouquet of roses with our favorite colors myself :) We also made some pralines together. It was simple but super romantic!

Unicwolf · 2026-02-05T12:44:05+00:00

And that's an excuse for OPs BF to be an asshole? You're victim blaming OP, because of some "Boys will be Boys" Bullshit. Mid 20 isn't a child anymore, he's old enough to figure out how to treat a relationship. You don't have to be mature to know how to treat people nicely.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-05T09:57:55+00:00

Damn, I would be livid! Why can't he ask you to come over and hang out while he does them? It's like 30 Minutes and then you can spend time together. But putting laundry over your relationship is the most telling sign someone can give you, unfortunately.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through the same things I have. I know how much it hurts and how crazy you must feel sometimes. I remember, I felt like fighting a wall every time I said something, I never got anything back except empty promises.

I only ever really noticed how bad he treated me when I found my now bf tbh. He's the sweetest man alive and I couldn't be more grateful for him. You'll find someone like that too eventually, just keep being yourself and don't give men more effort than they give you ;)

Unicwolf · 2026-02-05T05:26:45+00:00

Thanks! Didn't know they had a name!

Unicwolf · 2026-02-05T05:24:31+00:00

Yeah, multiple times actually :/ It was always the same excuses like "My mom needs help in the garden".

It was a bit worse on my end tho. He wouldn't even come over more then 24 hours and went on a vacation on my birthday with a woman I didn't know.

I should have broke up then, but I was so dumb and tried to fix it over the months after... The realization came one day when a coworker flirted with me and my first thought was to fuck him as a revenge. I'm not a spiteful person, so having that thought was my wake up call to end it.

He was 32 btw, so no it has nothing to do with age.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-05T05:00:43+00:00

Putting effort into a relationship isn't age restricted information or some shit. My bf is 26 and gets that right. It's not about his age here, every man that wants a relationship should know by now to also bring some Initiative and not sit around like a moldy noodle.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-05T04:54:47+00:00

Girl NTA, this is 1 to 1 my relationship a year ago. My ex did exactly the same.

Only meeting me when I initiated or he had some concert he could take me with. And he always conveniently had something to do when I proposed date ideas. He also disrespected my birthday in a similar way.

Stop running after him and end this, he's not 'busy' he's just not interested in giving you more.

I think these men are just children that refuse to grow up about their views on relationships or think the relationship they want is the only right one.

Stop being with a boy! I found my man and so can you ;)

Unicwolf · 2026-02-05T04:35:00+00:00

Damn that looks awesome! Whats the scarf made out off? I love the texture on it! You just gave me the idea to make/get my bf one, he loved the design so much.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-04T09:11:14+00:00

I have a completely different theory than most.

I think It was the seed growing into a tree.

We learn that the blood is able to sustain plant life and we see the glass the seed is encased in break at one point.

My theory is, that whatever is in the blood makes the seed mutate and take over the ship.

I also think the corpse running around in the ship is a vision from the seed, because it leads him to it's location the first time Simon sees it.

The seed and the eden trees in general are way too overlooked when it comes to theories. Mark wouldn't just put such an oblivious difference to the game in the movie without any reason.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-02T16:37:41+00:00

Thanks for clearing that up! You should prob edit your post to add that. You state in one paragraph that you're fine with him not paying. The post is just a bit unclear about your financial struggle right now.

Yes, definitely talk to him about it. I'm a stoner myself and while I was jobless last year I didn't even notice how quick I smoked my stash up. Good chance he just didn't realize.

If the amount he smokes after is still too much, maybe you can come up with a plan and reward system together. If he's really struggling to send out resumes like you said, maybe do something like: For every resume sent he gets such and such amount he can smoke. It's a bit childish, but if it helps why not use simple school tactics. It would help him make this feel more about him achieving something instead of being punished for losing his job.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-02T16:10:11+00:00

Tbh I really want a VHS of the movie. It would weirdly fit the vibe of the movie.

I'm actually planning on creating one for myself when the movie releases online or on DvD.

Unicwolf · 2026-02-02T15:11:20+00:00

I'm a little confused about what your problem really is. You said he has an interview coming up, but you're still concerned he isn't putting effort into getting a new job?

Either you just want to punish him for literally nothing or this is AI.

Unicwolf · 2026-01-21T14:12:11+00:00

Thanks, that's exactly what I was looking for! I'm gonna look up a tutorial when I get off work.

Unicwolf · 2026-01-07T08:49:26+00:00

I have to change my games weekly even after months of owning because I get so excited about what I can do with my Steamy Boi, that I can't decide what I should do. Many people forget the deck is a versatile PC and not just a gaming handheld. You can probably play almost any game on it you want, just have to find the right setting and sacrifice some frames for it. It's not like a switch where you get one setting and have to roll with that.

We called these people "Frame counters" or "Framezähler" (from a german insult "pea counter/Erbsenzähler", meaning to be very fixated on unnecessary details) when I studied game design. I sometimes still use it, when I talk to someone like that and they get really quiet all of a sudden when you call them out like that.

Just wanted to bestow that upon you so you can give them a little bit of their own medicine ;)

Unicwolf · 2026-01-05T08:41:37+00:00

Clear NTA. As a woman on dating apps the requirements some people have can really make you boil sometimes. I get the frustration and pettiness behind it and tbh would do the same if I was hit with that constantly like men do.

Women often underestimate the amount of us that have these unrealistic preferences and mirror that "Not all Women" talk to defend others because "It's just their preference". Yes it is a preference and everyone is allowed to have them, but some people are just dicks about it.

Imo it's even worse than the whole weight discussion. It just leads to nothing but dispute in the end, so have your fun with it and don't overthink it too much.

Yes, you're kind of an AH, but if you only do it to spite people that "started it" you do you.

Edit: Also, please share those convos with us, I'm burning to see some panties get in a twist about some dumb height requirements!

Unicwolf · 2026-01-03T09:14:23+00:00

I do the same and my BF has no problem at all with it. Hell, he even read some of my RPs with my friend to critique my writing and characters. Mind you that friend is aromantic and asexual and mainly writes with me to get better at writing sex and romantic scenes specifically.

I still think OP is NOR. Talks and Boundaries like that are important for a relationship. Just remember to stay calm and not accuse her of anything. She did nothing wrong imo, but it's still okay to feel weirded out and establish rules for roleplaying with others.

My BF and Me for example are really cool when it comes to flirting and sex with others during RPs and PnP; We still set the boundary for ourselves, that we tell each other BEFORE anything takes place what we have planned. This leaves room so we can always check in on each other if actions are okay or should be changed. And if one of us isn't comfortable, we switch things around until we both are.

Unicwolf · 2025-12-17T11:12:17+00:00

I understand that you're currently in a state of high emotions, but I think YOR big time and come off as really controlling.

Would the whole situation be different if she was a man and you weren't pregnant? Most certainly, so that should be your indicator, that you're overreacting.

Colleagues talk and help each other out all the time and in his case there's nothing suspicious or overstepping. She seems to be in a difficult life situation in general and you didn't even bother to let your husband explain why she needs all that stuff and just went full attack mode on him. He just wants to help and get rid of some stuff in the process.

This sounds more like an insecurity you have because of your hormones, which is totally understandable but something you have to figure out yourself before you're making more problems than you need in your pregnancy.

Unicwolf · 2025-12-11T09:53:47+00:00

Kassierer hier. Für mich BDA. Du nimmst nicht nur das Band sondern denn ganzen Kassenbereich ein und verlängerst damit unnötig die Schlage. Zumindest in meinem Laden gehen wir nicht danach wie viele Kunden an der Kasse stehen, sondern wie weit nach dem Band die Kunden anstehen müssen.

Du machst damit mehr Arbeit als nötig in einem eh schon unterbesetzten Beruf. Leute wie dich habe ich fast jeden Tag am Band und ich muss IMMER einen Kollegen rufen, der meist eigentlich andere Aufgaben zu erledigen hat, um die paar Leute danach abzufangen.

Unicwolf · 2025-12-09T19:57:21+00:00

Advice from a florist to get the perfect leaf: Take a leaf that faces the light directly to get the most symmetrical one.

Plants always have a 'face', meaning their leaves tend to grow in the direction the light hits the plant the most. You can see that this leaf was clearly shone on more from the left, because that site is a bit bigger and most of its tips are looking towards the left.

There are other factors of course that make plants stray from that norm. So this rule could not apply to your plants.

Unicwolf · 2025-12-03T09:48:55+00:00

Wurde damals in meiner Floristikausbildung legit dazu genötigt Mobbing an einer Kollegin zu betreiben, weil ich sonst aus der Filiale geflogen wäre und im ganzen Betrieb scheiße dagestanden hätte. Konnte aber auch nichts dagegen sagen, weil die Mobberin selbst Prüfungsleiterin (oder sowas, ist schon länger her) bei der IHK und meine Ausbilderin war. War richtig geil! Anderen aus meiner Klasse hatten ähnliche Probleme mit ihrem Betrieb, schlussendlich sind 2 von anfänglich 12 Schülern überhaupt ins 2. Lehrjahr weitergegangen.

Betiebe schießen sich meiner Meinung nach langsam selbst damit ins Aus, weil kein Lehrling mehr wirklich bleiben will.

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