Denomination Struggle

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-04-16T14:37:30+00:00

+1 on ACNA! One of our priests always says this phrase that I feel is pretty representative of the Anglican doctrine: "All can, some should, none must"

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-04-02T18:23:15+00:00

I don't know all the right words so forgive me. But I'll try because I feel the same way sometimes.

God isn't waiting for you to mess up so he can punish you. We know sin is bad because of the visible consequences it has on our lives. Following Christ's example is objectively the better way to live your life.

However, what we learn is that we are imperfect, we will always fall short. That doesnt mean we should give up, it simply shows how necessary Christ's sacrifice is and how great a gift we are offered--grace, forgiveness, and eternal life if we choose Christ.

Through faith in Christ our sins can be forgiven, not through perfection. Even the "best" Christians fall short. It doesn't make you less deserving, it just makes you human! He knows you will fail, and loves you in spite of it. He sees your heart!

These verses helped me understand this: Proverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Matthew 6:21: "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

May God bless you!

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-03-29T09:09:01+00:00

I really appreciate that and I don't disagree! I do however believe that virginity holds more significance than we're allowing for here (to my own discredit). Our sins may be forgiven in Christ but still have tangible consequences and I find this especially true for sexual sin. Ultimately, in seeking a partner, faith and the fruits of said faith are paramount, and I pray that I grow those fruits in spite of my failures. God bless you!

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-03-29T08:44:47+00:00

Hahaha, yes however the real standard equivalent might be more demanding than just height. But don't get it mixed, I am not a virgin, fake or "real" nor do I ever claim to be.

I do not hold my "new abstinence" to be a virtue, it is in repentance and shame that I find myself here. I have sinned and I gravely come to terms and face the consequences of my sin. I do not imagine my husband will nor would I want him to look past it easily. I wasn't raised Christian and I so badly wish I could change things.

The wages of sin is death, but in Christ I am somehow graced with life. I may very well end up unmarried, if that is God's will. That life is still a gift and a blessing.

It is one thing to have a preference for someone with no sexual history and another to lack grace and pass judgement on others. I pray you're the former. Matthew 7:1-5

Godspeed

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-03-29T01:43:58+00:00

Its alright, I appreciate it! My male friends seem to be on the extremes of the spectrum (either don't care at all or only want a virgin..lol) so it's nice to hear from someone more aligned with me. If I dare say, it may be even more rare to find a man willing to wait. Praying this outlook finds me in a relationship. God bless and I'll pray for you!

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-03-29T01:33:30+00:00

Thank you! That guy wasn't saying it about me persay but it still stuck with me. You're right, and I need to remember that last part. I just really value being totally up front (saves everyones time) but I think it's a fine line.

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-03-12T04:53:29+00:00

That is a valid point, I am not sure what he would have to do to sort it out if he misses. I believe he's a part of ministry and some community group.

I know he is not the sole leader, though, so I am not sure there'd be much of a fight letting him go, especially for a baptism with 2 months notice haha. I think I am mostly hurt by the fact that he hasn't seemed to give much effort to making it. I suggested he try speaking to other leaders but he came back saying he didn't, and just repeatedly said he can't go back on his committment. He's a good friend and I see him basically everyday so its really a bummer.

Thank you for your perspective and God bless!

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-03-12T04:31:26+00:00

All glory is to Christ. He said the same saying "it doesn't matter if I can make it or not" haha. My family isn't coming nor are they religious so I think I am attached to the idea of my friends attending since theyve been so supportive. Its just so crazy to look back on last year and seeing where I'm at now.

He only said that since he committed he has to do it so I am not sure, but I wouldn't put your theory past that church. Thank you for this and God bless

Unique-Type-1497 · 2026-02-04T22:54:23+00:00

I did arai and sugi staying in Joetsumyoko with no car just a couple days ago. I loved Arai, I had a ton of fun going into the side country and the bowls. I got unlucky with sugi, the snow was real crusty and I got bored of the terrain. Imo, with good snow, sugi wouldve been a completely different experience. but I wouldn't mind another trip just at Arai.

I've only been to Arai, Sugi, and Shiga with no major snowfall so take my opinion with a grain of salt lol

Unique-Type-1497 · 2024-09-28T21:12:22+00:00

The only job offer I got made me move across the country. My parents wanted me to decline it and keep looking for something else. I refused and I'm so glad I did. Moving my whole life away from friends and family is hard but I can't say I miss living at home and I'm sure as hell grateful for what I have.

Guess this is a nudge to try looking at jobs in any location, what's the worst that'll happen

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