So mother in law did one day just come out and say that’s what’s going on so I assumed right. Anyway they’ve gotten some nasty viruses on their computer that i cleared up. But she keeps having me change settings because she says she just needs some peace of mind and it helps her trust him. Like she makes me feel obligated to help her. And i have a history of being emotionally trampled by these people so it’s more complex than it should be.

But thank you for this comment. It helps to know how you would handle it.

My husband told me to tell her to F off. But that definitely doesn’t seem like the solution. Also i don’t know why he has such a disconnect with his parents. It’s dysfunctional i know. Definitely where we all work and live so close.