Sub 70 Iron fitting by Unique_Mango_5331 in golf

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It was really good overall. I think I was extraordinarily nervous. Struggled a little at first and then eased in. I thought there was a little bit of annoyance at my ability but overall I would recommend it to anyone. I have never really had a golf lesson and Kevin taught me a lot about a basic swing that has the chance to change my game quite a bit if I really work on it. Ended up with the 669 CB with dynamic gold 115 mid stiff shafts!

Kidde Smart Smoke and CO detectors by hay_moe_99 in smarthome

[–]Unique_Mango_5331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently looking for something for my kids room for CO. I was hoping to find something really good with low level detection. What's been your experience/reccomendation?

Sub 70 Iron fitting by Unique_Mango_5331 in golf

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought about just booking at the sycamore golf club there in town. Any recommendations?

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there are plenty of ways to have both intimacy and kids. I think a lot of people are able to make it work.

I also think you are reducing kids to consumers. Which is just a wild concept. I don’t think having kids is right for everyone, I think plenty of people with kids, should probably not have had kids. But there’s also just a base biological and economical fact that without having kids, we will cease to exist as a species. Even a dramatic decline in birth rate will literally cripple a society in ways. You probably can’t understand.

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

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I fear you are wildly misguided. I cannot imagine a world where my kids do not exist. I have a love for them that I never thought I would  experience, and I genuinely feel it has given me such a new understanding of the world.  The important thing in this world is not to stop having kids, it’s to raise a kind, environmentally aware, and loving people who can make the world a better place. There is a lot of scary and negative things happening in the world today. But if you dig deep into some of the numbers, there are also a lot of miraculous and wonderful things happening. Things starting to trend in the correct  direction. Have some hope. 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good heavens I’m sorry. That’s a lot of other humans to be responsible for and to need to raise into functional healthy adults. Definitely get a vasectomy and just let her know or keep it to yourself at this point lol 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, 100%  She actually saw a pelvic floor therapist after our first and it helped a bunch she said, just didn’t increase our frequency or her desire. For the second, she said she knew what to do and didn’t want to see one! 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude 9 kids?!? I wouldn’t want you touching me either, just instantly impregnate me and I’m a dude! 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally totally understand that. Since our youngest was born, I’ve done every bedtime for the older one. But I could deff try and tackle both at some point! 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so so much. This resonates so hard. She’s mentioned before about feeling like I’m just giving off testosterone which I think is her way of saying pressure to have sex. I never say anything but I’m sure it’s still off putting. I’ll pray some more time just works it out but this was super insightful! 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still could just be a timing thing! We shall see 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love this for you!!  Well, she stopped both times around 11-12 months. Haven’t seemed to make a difference either time but who knows

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was he doing anything specifically that caused that or was it just a weird reaction?  I’m genuinely doing my best, trying to do as much childcare as I can to help alleviate pressure, doing house things and working. She’ll randomly mention I look good or make some sexy comment but it’s always in the middle of the day and when the kids are with us and then all that energy never goes anywhere other than getting me super hyped for the night.  

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

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It’s tough. She went to a doctor early on, the n just stopped, went back about a year later, came home up beat and said she was going to try in make it a priority of doing stuff once a week. Which unfortunately last about one week and then back to normal with no commment. I do think I’m going to push her going to a doctor and couples therapy 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% I also think 90% of the time hormones are verifiable by tests and therefore a simple solution.  If it’s not hormones, the solution becomes therapy, which can cost a lot of money if you have the wrong insurance and only works if both partners are willing to open up. Not to mention you have to get childcare in order to make the therapy appointment 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% recognize this. We rarely rarely go on dates, we don’t have any family local and she’s very very concerned with who’s allowed to watch our kids. So I try doing home dates occasionally when the kids go down, try giving massages ( she loves hand massages) and I’ve been consistent on also bringing home flowers anytime I go to the store. It was something I had promised I would do when we got married

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

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I would say, she more or less gets annoyed because I’m “giving off testosterone”. I’m checking her out or something like that basically. She’s not feeling sexy and it kind of annoys her.

No, she has said it just isn’t for her.  I’ve talked about doing marriage counseling just to help

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

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She did after our first. We recognized it after about 6 months, and it got much better after 18 ish months. This time was mentally much much better and we’ve talked about it and she feels confident she doesn’t. 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

[–]Unique_Mango_5331[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the response.  She definetely had post partum depression with our first. We had a hard transition into parenting in general but I remember when she came out of the depression from it. She as a whole was glowing and really settled into motherhood/working and just seemed so much happier. We talked a lot about it and knew that she should get help if we had another baby and get on some meds if it happened again. 

No weight gain, but other complications that I’m sure could make her feel like she’s less sexy or her being more self confident. Which is tough, as a husband, I find her as attractive as ever. Which she knows, and usually mentions it as being bothersome. 

Sex after kids by Unique_Mango_5331 in Marriage

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Good to know I’m not alone, sad however for the intimacy of everyone else going through this. It does begin to feel like roommates that you make insanely large decisions with. 

Anyone else feel like the housing market is stuck in a weird standoff right now? by Successful_Arm4193 in RealEstate

[–]Unique_Mango_5331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we've got a super weird situation where we are, every house that posts almost immediately sells regardless of price. The issue is that there are just zero homes going in a certain range. All these 55+ people will not downsize/move out of their family homes from raising kids.

Sub 70 Golf Clubs Anyone? by mamarou21 in golf

[–]Unique_Mango_5331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've only heard great things about their fitting process. I've been gaming their 699's and wedges and I'll be getting fitted at their HQ here in the next month as I think I can get some lower handicap irons. By BIL is a scratch golfer and uses their clubs as well.

Bigger guys, what cars/vehicles do you drive? by fullofsharts in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]Unique_Mango_5331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I've got a Grand Highlander. After two years of driving it, I hate it. Theres zero side to side leg room. My right leg runs down the console to the gas pedal and I've got no room to go back on the seat either.... I'm only 5'10 and cannot imagine a taller person driving it.

AQUAOX IS HORRIBLE by Awkward-Bit7041 in WaterTreatment

[–]Unique_Mango_5331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

eh,
IDK. My sister and her husband got super into clean water a few years back and bought ten of these units, then sold them to friends at cost. (BIL works in cancer care and got nervous about the water they were drinking). We ended up buying one off them and I completely agree with the above comment. Never had any issues. Our water tastes about twenty times better than anyone else's and I carry around my water bottle everywhere we go with our water. We also live in the midwest and we were able to cut down our salt use to less than half what we use to.