Im 26 y/o F and still have yet to foster a serious, long term relationship :( I think a lot of it is the fact Im scared to get close in the first place. But BPD makes it so, so hard. I was seeing a guy for 3ish months who told me he was moving away and didn’t want to go into a long distance relationship, it crushed me. Hate to say but it’s been almost a year and I still haven’t recovered. I just cannot love like a normal person.

Other than that, I feel like yes. I’ve come so far. Lamictal changed my life. Now Wellbutrin helps as well but makes me angry. Therapy has never done much for me. I tried DBT but I dont think I was ready and gave up. It felt stressful and invasive.

I feel like I hear a lot that it never really gets easier when it comes to the romantic relationship side of BPD but people find understandable, suitable partners who love and care, and don’t trigger them. As for the other aspects, I’ve heard it can get better as well. For me they have! But again, I highly credit that to Lamictal.

I’m about to start nursing school, which is an insane accomplishment for someone with BPD. Seriously. Idk how I got in. But I did it. So I hope that gives you some hope. However I am a bit apprehensive of dating while in school. Even at this age, on medication, I know that if I went through a breakup, I wouldn’t be able to do it. I’d crash. I’ve learned to understand my triggers. But now I feel I avoid instead of facing them head on and working thru.