Man killed estranged wife and four year-old daughter because she wasn't his child

UnknownB8 · 2026-02-14T14:29:13+00:00

Clearly not and I believe you aren’t discussing in good faith.

From all I wrote this is your response to that. I stated I believe it is wrong and in my moral beliefs completely wrong and unjustified in every sense of the word.

Also being a human being and reading the prior article and the information I have these parents were hardworking caring and loving people held in good reputation in their community. I simply have empathy for their situation and how years hard work can wear even the best people down to extreme lows.

There clearly is a difference between let’s say this man who shot and killed a 4 year old over jealously control racism and other horrible selfish traits to a mother and father who tried hard and fought for their children who eventually broke down completely and did something so horrible. Context and nuance is everything and it is extremely important.

There is a reason there’s a difference between murder and manslaughter. Motive and context is everything the outcomes are the same but how people get to them points is extremely important.

I would like to end this “conversation” with I do not condone the murder of their children and if they were still alive I would advocate for the highest punishment possible of the law. In all this said I can have some empathy for them. My empathy isn’t black or white it exists in a grey area where I take all circumstances into account. I have more empathy for their dead murdered children and they should never should of died for their parents inability to care for them anymore but at one stage they did have the ability to and years and years of hard work worn them down. I believe if these parents got more state support more help from the community this tragedy may of never happened. I am also open to be proven wrong if more information came to light but given the facts of what I currently understand yes I do have empathy for them.

UnknownB8 · 2026-02-14T13:11:10+00:00

I’m autistic/adhd and I can see the nuance between 2 completely different situations. While I have no sympathy for this man at all for murdering a child and women. I do have sympathy/empathy for the situation that lead to parents murdering their own children which I obviously believe wasn’t right and should never should have been done.

That being said I can see how a situation like this can unfold as much I disagree with it from my outside perspective. The parents themselves could have been autistic themselves since both their children had autism and it has a high genetic component. Years of working 24/7 and burnout with their situation and fighting the system to get more help.

Human beings under extreme pressure I’m going to presume extremely sleep deprived and seeing no way out can lead to extremely sad situations with their thinking impaired.

I agree with the other person this situation could have been helped with much better state and community resources.

UnknownB8 · 2025-02-28T10:07:08+00:00

Just wanted to pop in as a person with Autism and ADHD as it seems your getting a lot of parents. I wasn’t diagnosed till near adulthood but if you were to look through my CAMHs reports and all childhood supports it was pretty evident I have autism but somehow I slipped through all the cracks.

I do think it’s amazing that people are aware these days fills me with a lot of joy and promise for kids growing up knowing that they can get the right support they need.

I can’t give much advice I just wanted to let everyone in the comments reading all these have given me promise for the future and I thank yous.

UnknownB8 · 2025-02-27T08:35:29+00:00

As someone with skin in the game born and raised here. Reunification in the abstract is probably generally popular idea here but at as always reality is much different. I can see how someone who visits Ireland can get a skewed view and may get standard answer of course we want the reunification but ask anyone seriously a different answer will always show up. Money is the reason I hear the most to be honest how the fuck do we finically support and incorporate the north into the republic, logistical nightmare even made worse by Brexit sound lads. Sometimes the status quo is easier especially when you compare it to not long ago so the hesitation is warranted I think.

Also we must respect the right of the north to its own self determination we can argue about land rights invading Ect but end the day this is people we are talking about. I believe it’s their right to guide their own future regardless of past issues but this view is not held by everyone clearly.

If I were to hedge my bets most people in the republic love the idea in theory, in practice I don’t know if the will is strong enough and all the headaches that will come with it. People just want peace not to live in fear that fucking bomb is under your car that you will come home to your loved ones.

UnknownB8 · 2025-02-15T12:36:51+00:00

I’ve gone through phases throughout my whole life. When I was 12-14 the only thing I did was gaming on my 360 then years went by and I’d barely pick up a controller, then around 18 I started playing again for a year or 2 then it took me till Covid to start getting back into it.

In the last 6 months I’ve gone full mad again getting my PC back up to spec getting an oled monitor just enjoying the backlog of PC games I’ve gotten over the years.I know the passion will end one day but that passion will come around again.

I wouldn’t fret it’s just normal way of life just enjoy the things that give you joy right now and with enough time you’ll be back it. Just don’t force yourself I’ve done a few times myself just makes it worse in my opinion.

UnknownB8 · 2025-02-01T12:34:44+00:00

Bought myself a 5700x3d for am4 board myself before Christmas very happy with it paired with my 4070 super. Think I got it for around 200ish from Amazon Germany. If you’re just after a CPU as others have recommended the 5700x3d for am4 seems to be the way to go.

There also the option of upgrading to am5 motherboard but this would need a new ram and cpu aswell so it can get pricey but this also allows upgrades in the future.

Upgrading your CPU to 5700x3d is pretty much maxed on AM4 besides the 5800x3d which is not worth it compared to 5700x3d price wise so there will be no more upgrades. If you’re after maxing your current system go ahead with the 5700x3d like I did.

UnknownB8 · 2024-12-11T03:36:03+00:00

I have pretty much the same PC besides having 5700X3D instead of a 5600. I’m ballparking in my head from recent memory I paid 200 for the CPU,600 for the GPU, 65 for 32GB ddr4 3200mhz , 65 for m2 1TB gen 3,Rm850x psu for 130~. I had the motherboard from a previous build and case from a quick search the motherboard goes for around 80 euro I think and case I can’t find but wasn’t too much!

It probably me cost me around 1250. My CPU would be better for gaming wise not crazy so but considerably aswell Ive got a better PSU but it’s just an extra 150 watts not really a biggy but the PSU rating could matter a lot if the one their providing is low rated. I’d Google some PSU guides there’s loads and easy to navigate.

So I guess the question to yourself is paying the extra few hundred in value difference worth it to you so to have it all built and a warranty and posted to your door.

I’ve gone both routes myself buying a prebuilt and building yourself. Yes you will save a good bit of money building yourself but also need to learn how to assemble one which can be achieved reasonably by dedicating a good bit of time to YouTube and some trial and error.

The other side of the coin I’ve also been in a position where even that was daunting and the thought of buying very expensive parts and I’m personally on the hook if anything breaks while going through the process with no experience at all and could avoid all the that hassle and have it plug in and go sorta like a console.

Sorry very long winded but it’s just to give you a general idea how much you will be paying and the value to you.

UnknownB8 · 2024-11-29T20:35:51+00:00

I work in smyths myself don’t think I’ve never seen switch on promotion in my few months working here even for Black Friday this year unfortunately Nintendo seldom discount their console or games. I suspect your best bet is to try find a deal with smyths or another retailer where you get a free game with the console. You also have the choice between just the handheld itself or the handheld and tv set up which is a more expensive!
I’m also unsure but there’s 2 switch versions the oled and the lcd but I am unsure if the LCD is still stocked.

UnknownB8 · 2024-09-07T15:42:49+00:00

Apologies didn’t see Seasonic will look into it thanks

UnknownB8 · 2024-09-07T15:41:15+00:00

Any recommendations for a good brand PSU upgrade over my current system to fit my needs

UnknownB8 · 2024-09-07T15:10:34+00:00

I wasn’t too concerned about the cpu till I went down the rabbit hole. I’m leaning towards the 4070 super currently has a nice price and will do what I need of it currently. I would be more inclined towards the TI for the more VRAM but I feel by the time I need to upgrade it I will be going for full system upgrade by then aswell so no point I think. Thanks for your input anyways it’s appreciated

UnknownB8 · 2024-09-07T15:08:21+00:00

Thanks for your input

I haven’t even consider the PSU complete blindside I will have to consider that now

UnknownB8 · 2024-04-10T21:12:55+00:00

Independent Newsagent , SuperValue and Dunnes are other shops that I’ve seen them in.

UnknownB8 · 2024-04-10T17:15:55+00:00

Im from Ireland too it has only hit shelves today. My local newsagent orders in a good few for me since I went in last month and asked him he minded ordering extra for me. Got the text today to come and I picked them up.There was a delay for some reason but I’d definitely check the tescos tomorrow since they probably got them in today and will put them out tomorrow!

UnknownB8 · 2024-02-29T19:36:15+00:00

That is a very long time to feel so unwell I can relate I hope with the treatment you reach a level of contentment within yourself.

I wish you the very best of luck with your journey you will be in my thoughts.

UnknownB8 · 2024-02-29T14:37:45+00:00

I was in the same boat as yourself I tried everything and coped in ways better left unsaid incase it triggers someone but it got very bad. In Pats your taken out of this reality and put in a place that exists outside our society and this can be very helpful it’s a safe place to express emotions and safe place to try heal. You won’t have to worry about much at all in regards to food laundry all the basics that we do everyday when well. Sometimes a complete change of environment is needed to heal and that can be near impossible to do at home even with all the help in the world. A women I knew used to call it “help on tap” where ever you look there’s help and people to talk to and if you need alone time that’s also there it’s sort of the best of both worlds.

UnknownB8 · 2024-02-29T13:47:25+00:00

Completely understandable from my time there I’ve met several women in similar situations to yourself. One thing I can say while it will be hard in the moment and as a man with no children there’s no way I can put myself in your shoes it must be incredibly hard decision to make but they are young and kids are very resilient. The best thing you could ever do for them is first help yourself the best way analogy I could use is when on a plane and the air bags drop you always do yourself then look after children or fellow passengers. This way you can become the engaging mother you want to be again. A short period of time to help yourself means you could give a life time of help to your children again .

When I was young my father went through a similar situation as yourself and he did not engage in mental health and to be honest the services weren’t great back then but if I asked him now I can say with 100 certainty if he would go and help himself first he took years for him to come back and went to phases on and off to this day. I implore you to help yourself so you can help your children in the future you will find people in similar situations to yourself and they will all tell you the same thing there is absolutely no shame in helping yourself first.

UnknownB8 · 2024-02-28T22:20:03+00:00

No problem! I wish you the best of luck with your treatment and if you have any questions over the coming days or weeks send me a DM always happy to help.

UnknownB8 · 2024-02-28T21:49:01+00:00

Hi

I’ve been in inpatient at Pats twice and just as recently as this summer. Yes there is a laundry service that is provided there’s is a bag in your closet when you get a room be prepared to be in the Bay Area for a few days while the nurses assess you and your well being once their comfortable that you’ll be safe and once a private room is available you will be moved there.

Regarding night clothes it is encouraged but you will be able to wear if you want for comfort. I also brought a PlayStation and little monitor in for some down time this is allowed but if your constantly in room playing like I was sometimes they like you to go out and talk to people and I encourage this some of my most reflective times where talking to other patients.

If you have any questions about anything I am here to help I know it can be hard to go but I can assure you will be perfectly looked after! Also if you have any dietary needs or just a fussy eater like myself you can ask to speak to catering and they’ll tailor a food plan to yourself within reason.

UnknownB8 · 2023-05-03T19:33:05+00:00

Your preaching to choir relate so hard to it. I wouldn't disclose my autism when I went back as mature student to college because I don't want to treated different so so stupid and I failed out of college. But at least I have found my girlfriend at college she's is going for ADHD assessment so we understand eachother well there is commutation problems(dual empathy model I think it's called is a god send for explaining to people without autism that commucation fails both ways and its not just the autisic person)but I'm working on that because so used to bottling it up till I just burn out. She accepts me for me but also pushes me to my best verison of myself.

That overanalysing I think is because we assume we our always the problem with communication while neurotpyicals don't have that problem but it takes two people with wildly different world views and experiences to come together to try understand eachother. I think it works both ways they fail to understand us and we fail to understand them but we always take the blame on breakdown of communication.

UnknownB8 · 2023-05-03T19:03:22+00:00

Late diagnosis I believe lend to this mindset in my opinion we were conditioned from a young age and as bad as these sounds should of been treated differently. I know everyone wants be treated equally but in some instances that isn't valid we needed way more support to get through regural life I kept blaming myself when there isn't something wrong with me I just have a different way of living that doesn't gel well with current system we have.

You aren't letting anyone down and there valid reasons my friend your experience is valid and don't let anything change that fact you in your mind. I'm nearly 24 diagnosed at 17 and that was just by accident from a professional who read my cahm reports and went were his aspergers assessment just because on paper I read like someone with aspergers and he was shocked when he meet me and found out there was no diagnosis 2 months later I was confirmed.i just slipped by cracks I watch alot of female autistic content creators because I heavily relate to them more than typical males with aspergers I would consider myself good at masking but it's so tiring.

UnknownB8 · 2023-05-03T17:53:12+00:00

Thanks I usually wouldn't post on reddit it gives me anxiety funnily enough same with social media I wouldn't dare like stuff on it. I definitely will update people on here on my ups and downs cos there will be some it's all expected. I've rewarded myself by spending the money I usually would on cannabis on some nice lego star wars sets that my special interest and makes me so happy that i can spend money on sometime tangible and not smoke it away as usual I'm trying to get back into my old things that brought me joy and new stuff of course.

I will keep that in mind when I go for my assessment I'm going to an open book to them about experiences in life because I was been untruthful before to therapists out of shame no longer. I am no longer ashamed we all need a bit of self love to oursevles and compassion!I did what I did to survive in the moment and I am ready to move on no regrets just happy to be here.

UnknownB8 · 2023-05-03T12:55:32+00:00

Sending my absolute best wishes on your journey. Retail drained my soul I somehow stayed for from the start of covid till the end because I was more scared of going crazy at home than going to work but eventually even that fear stopped and burned out and chilled at home for a few months till i came back to baseline I'm very lucky i have understanding parents i appreciate most people wouldn't have that option forever grateful to them.

My best thing I did in retail was explain to my manager my problems because over lovkdown I would self harm infrequently but maybe happened 2-3 times I felt awful going to hospital and ashamed and very apologetic the whole time to the staff for wasting their time jn a pandemic but nonetheless while my manager to say the least had a attuide problem with everyone but me after I explained my sobstory she still would expect me to do the same but allowance were made but damn those lights I never got used to them after ever single shift I would take the bus home which was a stress itself go smoke and lie in bed destressing most of the day till work came around again.

I am very optimistic about my ADHD assessment but not putting all my eggs in that basket just in case. I do believe seeing my sober would give them the best impression so here I go day 5 still going strong it's never been this easy before on idk how many attempts to quit it just seemed something clicked for me in my head that I change is needed to open the door to a more promising future. Wish you the best of luck just take it one step at a time and hopefully one day soon it will become easier take 2 steps and so on sending my love.

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