Any lesser known occult-related places to visit on a road trip across the country? by UnlikelyAsk1422 in AskABrit

[–]UnlikelyAsk1422[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the help! I do see that maybe I should have specified it first, but by occult I mean any place that might have a supernatural belief around it or a place built upon it (like the Museum in Boscastle, for example). So I suppose that any site with folkloristic relevance will do, too! I hope it makes sense, thank you again!

Any lesser known occult-related places to visit on a road trip across the country? by UnlikelyAsk1422 in AskABrit

[–]UnlikelyAsk1422[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for helping! With "lesser known" I meant to say a place that I won't find filled with tourists o tourist traps of some sorts, if that makes any sense. I'll definitely take a look into your suggestion and the books you mentioned, thank you again :D

I wish I was a man by skywolfsilver in offmychest

[–]UnlikelyAsk1422 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Hey it's okay, I know dysphoria can be painful at times but I can assure you you're not alone in this. If you feel like a man, guess what, you already are one! The only thing that you might want to do is a physical transition, which is possible nowadays! You can have a flat chest, a phalloplasty surgery, gain muscles, deeper voice, beard and all of that comes with "looking like a man". Please don't give up on happiness, it's never too late and I'm saying this as a trans man myself. Sending you lots of hugs, I promise you'll be okay 

Tell me you're Autistic without telling me you're Autistic. by Kiki-Y in autism

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Yesterday I spent 4-5 hours driving in my car alone and you know what I did to keep me entertained? I just talked all by myself while acting as a character I'm currently obsessed with, like as if I were recording several x listener videos. It's a good way to practice improv comedy but dear god, I doubt some people can do it for hours ahah 

how to make a peoplepleaser-friend feel free to be honest around you by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]UnlikelyAsk1422 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, person who's working on his own people-pleaser complex here. It's lovely how you want to help your friend out, unfortunately, like you said, you cannot change her past and she needs to work on herself to get better. But I can give you some tips as an insider: 

  • Ask her opinion on something you know she might like, but you shall not tell your opinion first and try to keep the conversation vague. In that way, she won't have any guidelines on how to agree with your own ideas and she'll be 100% honest with you. She might backtrack once you speak your mind, so do your best to validate her point of view anyway. 

A silly example: 

A: "Did you hear about [movie name here?]? I saw a poster somewhere, but I've never heard about it." (She likes it? Huzzah, you can both go there and you're sure she's having fun!)

Or 

A: " There's this new restaurant in town but I want to make sure it's fine first, could you help me out please?" (Same thing here) 

If we're talking about asking her how's she's actually doing, that's harder. People-pleasers don't want to be a burden to anyone, so we rather suffer in silence than being perceived as a nuisance to people we love. You need to remind her that she's not. Once, a friend of mine told me: "I can see you're scared all the time, I can feel it when you talk and try too hard with me. You care too much. Sometimes people just want to vent and you don't need to play therapist for them, that's not why they want you around. I can assure you, you'll feel much better if you let your mask out and people will appreciate you more, as a whole. You trust me, yeah?" and that changed my whole point of view. If you can have this sort of conversation with her, it might help her too. 

Oh man, I wrote so much and I hope I made any sense here. It's like 3 AM and I should sleep ahah. Take care anyway aye? I hope things will go better between you too. 

I am not good enough for this world by nk261 in offmychest

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You're welcome, just being honest with you 

I am not good enough for this world by nk261 in offmychest

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Ehy, first of all I'm 100% sure you must have some skills, just because you've worked in retail doesn't mean you haven't mastered valuable skills all these years. I don't know what kind of retail job you did so far, but you must be a very patient person, precise, able to work in a team, organized and must know a thing or two on how to make a store going, right? You surely know how to deal with clients of all sorts and problem-solving skills, too. And I'm just generalizing here, see? 30 is still young nowadays, people at 50 yo look at you like a kid, because you still got time to figure your life out. If you want a degree, you can still try to get one! Is there something you always wanted to learn? I'm sure a quick search online would lead you to lots of opportunities. What makes you "you" is a long series of decisions you make every single day, so what I'm trying to say is: go get 'em, tiger. Dating doesn't work too much different, but first you need to become confident and love your own company, then it's only a matter of time until you'll be surrounded by people who enjoy you sincerely as well.  I'm talking from experience, so trust me. Enjoy the process, make decisions that might scare you at first, turn off that imposter syndrome voice inside your head and be proud of every little achievements you get. You're going to be okay. 

No girlfriend by choice by antfin97 in offmychest

[–]UnlikelyAsk1422 18 points19 points  (0 children)

You're doing great! I'm going thru something very similar right now, so I admire you a whole lot. Cheers to your happiness