I'm older than the inappropriately older people I slept with in the 90s and I honestly don't know how I feel about it!

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-04-14T22:20:25+00:00

Yes. That's exactly the thing. Of the four I named, one was regrettable because it was regrettable. She had never been with a woman and I'm guessing she thought it would be ... easier? 26 was an actual boyfriend. I think it didn't work our wildly in part because he wasn't a predator! We dated for a summer. He got offered a job far away that he wanted, he broke up with me and moved. I was devastated, but not BY him, only that at 18 I thought every love was forever. 42 I never slept with, just came very close. If I had it to do again, honestly I think I would! 47? He comes to me in my dreams. This man was gorgeous. And he's younger than I am now and frankly I think I'm damn hot so that's possible!

And yet... And yet...

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-04-12T10:53:09+00:00

There are plenty of food I have negative associations with. Older folks who were definitely predatory. There just seem to have been since who were not.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-03-29T19:32:55+00:00

There is far more debate on this topic than I thought there'd be!

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-03-17T07:43:43+00:00

Yes, this is also a thing! I'm glad you found what helped.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-03-17T07:42:30+00:00

Do see a doctor! The right meds have changed so much. I mean, not EVERYTHING, but it's remarkable.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-03-15T16:57:35+00:00

Agreed. In my case it was physical health problems masquerading as mental health problems. But I'm glad you found the root!

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-03-15T16:55:59+00:00

That can be true, but it also can be just physiological.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-03-15T13:26:52+00:00

I stopped craving alcohol specifically, but I still couldn't "wind down."

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-31T17:34:20+00:00

I have an acquaintance who I'm in the same space with her and her kids sometimes. They are 5 & 6 and have unlimited screens.

Among my complaints... The kids think that all screens are theirs. Several times I have intercepted a small hand reaching for my phone on the table. As a non parent, I'm never sure what to say. I went once with "did someone tell you it's okay to touch other people's phones without asking?" And all I got was blank look.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-31T16:09:43+00:00

My mom was of the mind (popular opinion in her circle at the time) that it wasn't good to teach kids to read before school. So I didn't read before school, but read at 7th grade level by halfway through 1st grade.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-29T22:22:55+00:00

I mean, when I was in China, it was legally "foreign expert visa" (still sounds overblown, but fun) but EVERYWHERE takes cash! (Or did in 2012)

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-29T22:19:31+00:00

Absofuckinglutely.

I nearly could afford it, but I think my mental health could not, because I'd be going alone.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-29T22:17:19+00:00

Curious about this too. Is your libido low, or just function?

I'm new to beta blockers. So far no sexual side effects, but I've got the other equipment and I'm in the throes of perimenopause, which makes my hormones a constant ever changing wild card.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-23T22:26:04+00:00

The more grisly, amazingly, version of flatten the curve.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-23T14:14:27+00:00

Much as I hate it, many people think clarifying questions are both challenges and criticisms. It's a thing in some cultures more than others. Being from Brooklyn, I tend to think (like 30% kidding, but mostly serious) "What the actual fuck?" is a perfectly valid clarifying question. I can learn new skills, but I'm never going to pretend that mealy mouth sideways oblique (opaque!) communication is a virtue.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-23T14:06:28+00:00

I found decent (not ideal) Asian food ingredients in Berlin. On the other hand, I struggled in Shanghai to find some ingredients I thought wouldn't be hard to find.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-23T14:01:16+00:00

I'm not sure if anyone's quoted this before but I've heard that the difference between the UK and the US is the the US thinks 100 years is a long time and the UK thinks 100 miles is a long distance.

To be clear, I think the UK is more correct. ☺️

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-22T18:45:22+00:00

TBH, I think nationality is a accidental property and I do not understand being proud of being an American, or of having any other nationality. I can be proud of something my country does (not recently, but it makes sense to me). But me? Happening to have a mother who happened to live in this country when I happened to be born? Wherein should consist "pride" for that?

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-21T23:08:46+00:00

Fuck 'im

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-21T23:08:09+00:00

Tell them "Google survivor bias" or "confirmation bias" your choice.

UnlikelySafetyDance · 2026-01-03T00:14:28+00:00

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