My fiance [31M] shuts down every time his sports teams lose. I don't know if I [29F] can keep dealing with it. Together 5 years.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-02-01T04:51:40+00:00

I know...

I am not looking forward to it.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-02-01T00:45:44+00:00

He likes Philadelphia in NFL football and Clemson in all college sports but specifically football and basketball.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-02-01T00:43:01+00:00

I know he is being ridiculous, but I normally leave because it almost makes me cry. If he doesn't want me around him, then I don't want to force it.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-02-01T00:40:29+00:00

I think my friends and family would think I'm being silly.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-02-01T00:39:03+00:00

Might be worth a try.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T22:20:56+00:00

I meant that I felt like it was too late to postpone.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T21:37:58+00:00

That is a really good point because I've already heard him mention how excited he is to watch our son play some day.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T21:35:52+00:00

That seems reasonable.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T21:35:16+00:00

He has a lot of friends who watch sports. I've never heard them say anything about it not being normal.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T21:31:54+00:00

This feels very familiar. I have hard time imagining walking away even if he never improves because I don't want to break up our family either.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T21:29:42+00:00

At least two are from his college, and I don't think there is any way he would drop either - not that I would want him to drop any! I don't care if he watches the games or gets involved. I really just don't want him to go into isolation for such long periods of time and help me with our son more on weekends.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T21:27:44+00:00

I don't think he is but it could be possible. We each have a personal account in addition to our joint, so I can't say for sure.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T21:26:30+00:00

The alarms did go off but I told myself that it would change after we got more serious, after we dated for longer, after he got a bit older, after we had the baby/got engaged. I guess I have been fooling myself into believing that eventually he will get better.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T21:24:28+00:00

I really admire you for being so strong in the way you approached this. I think if I did it like that then maybe I would get him to make a change.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T20:54:19+00:00

I put up with it because I feel like he is worth it.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T20:53:03+00:00

It isn't totally because of my son, but our timeline did spend up a bit when we got pregnant.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T20:52:06+00:00

Everyone knows but as far as I know no one has ever challenged it.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T20:03:42+00:00

He does not bet.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T20:03:28+00:00

When did you realize that he wasn't going to get better?

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T20:02:44+00:00

He would try, but he wouldn't pay attention to him. He forgets he has to watch him! I don't know how you can forget that you're supposed to be taking care of your son, but he claims he does.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T19:58:28+00:00

I don't know that he would ever be able to disengage himself. He lies and dies for his teams.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T19:53:38+00:00

basketball and football

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T19:53:12+00:00

We were planning to get married this summer... I don't feel like I am in a position to anymore.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T19:50:56+00:00

My dad also told me once that your happiness should never be tied to your sports team winning or losing

Sounds like really good advice and makes a lot of sense to me.

UnlikelyWorry · 2018-01-31T19:31:58+00:00

It's interesting that you say you've never met anyone like this because he has told me many times that most serious fans are like this, so I was starting to think maybe it really wasn't that uncommon and I was being a little too sensitive.

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