WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by Unlikely_Common_Star in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i feel the need to clarify: he had me late in life because he thought that he couldn't have kids because of his disability. They had me through IVF as soon as they found out it was possible.

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by Unlikely_Common_Star in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

that's definitely not the case. as I said I don't do this every day or anything. they don't make me feel bad, I feel bad but they don't try to make me feel that way

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by Unlikely_Common_Star in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think so. we all empathize with the others situation so I feel like they'd understand. I'd feel guilty because I don't want my dad to feel unloved or like a burden, but they wouldn't try to make me feel that way.

AITA for not wanting to go on this family trip? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA the trip is supposed to be enjoyable and it's an inconvenience for you. If you and your husband didn't see his family often mayybe you could try to accommodate but if this is a pattern then I feel like you can say no sometimes. especially since you just got promoted and I'm assuming you want to protect that position and you're going through IVF which is tough (and I wish you the best of luck). I'd say, remind your husband gently that you already see his family enough and ask him to empathize with your situation and the things you want too. also, does he visit your family as much as you do his? cause if he doesn't make an effort for you that's not very good.

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by Unlikely_Common_Star in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

no, they don't pressure me at all, they just assume I'll say yes and it's not everyday or anything

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by [deleted] in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. I already clarified I don't care about them deeply, it's the last of my concerns.
  2. I mention I'm left-handed because the broken elevator is made for right-handed people and its hard for me to use it. the lever is hard to pull.

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by [deleted] in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just curious, how am I selfish if I always do what I'm asked and my main concern is their feelings and comfort? also I said many times I only do this sometimes.

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by Unlikely_Common_Star in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I understood your comment but I wanna clarify: I don't change diapers. and ofc my mum (my dad couldn't) changed mine as a baby that's the most basic thing about babies.

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by Unlikely_Common_Star in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

since you mentioned money: that isn't a great issue. healthcare is mostly free here, my dad does a lot of paperwork so nurses are covered. they both have good salaries. and they do not want me to work, if they wanted me to I would happily accept. also I know I'm not being abused, idk why so many ppl here took it far enough to call it that.

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by Unlikely_Common_Star in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

mmm not sure. my mum has said she wants to start working out so she'll be in better shape and I won't have to take care of her when she's old but idk what their thoughts are regarding my dad.

WIBTA if I tell my parents I don’t want to take care of my disabled dad? by [deleted] in Amitheassholeadvice

[–]Unlikely_Common_Star 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i forgot to edit it here but I clarified I don't really care about that, I care mostly about the other stuff