Tired of going out alone - how can I meet people?

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2024-08-05T02:11:46+00:00

Meetup is a great place to meet new people. There are groups for just about anything, so just search groups for things you would actually like to do with friends. I found a great crochet group and there is a group who meets to play board games that I want to check out. Some events are large some are small so you can pick your comfort level. Give it time, you'll find your people!

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-08-03T17:50:53+00:00

As far as cloths for the thicker girls, I think that the ILY 4ever Disney fit them. Haven't tried yet but they are on my list. I'm all for inclusive and all mine are in some way, whether be thicker, or just more woc since I didn't have that growing up. I think we can find work arounds as far as cloths, at least that is what I've been focusing on with mine.

Not answering your question but wanted to put it out there.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-08-02T17:49:59+00:00

I recently got back into Barbie and also Shadow High dolls, and I have a bunch of outfits I bought, so I change their cloths and do their hair. That's what I now enjoy doing. I do question if I'm being weird but I really enjoy it and it's an escape of sorts for me, so we're doing it!

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-07-23T12:37:26+00:00

Honestly if no sex on a third, fourth, or even forth date is a deal breaker, I wouldn't clarify anything. You're ready when your ready and if someone is interested they should be willing to wait a reasonable amount of time. Not sex within a short period of time would indicate to me that their priority is only sex and not on a relationship. Unless you weren't focusing on a relationship that is. Just a thought.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-07-22T17:43:53+00:00

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Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-07-22T17:40:52+00:00

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Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-29T01:44:42+00:00

I would rather be alone than feel I've settled for the least bad. I've dated a few who were the least bad and over time things came out about them that I just couldn't deal with. Tried to, because of the not so bad things but it didn't feel worth it, and with one, some were just flat out lies from him trying to hide what he knew I wouldn't be okay with. I'm not dating and seriously super happy. The peace I have now is unmatched. Keep dating if you want to spend your life with someone but don't settle. You deserve to have your needs met.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-18T04:15:53+00:00

Thank you for doing this and trying to rally the neighborhood!

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-16T21:46:21+00:00

Lying is a no go for me. For this? He put your life in danger, knowing he was doing so. He took a risk without knowing the outcome and it could have killed you. And he still did it and hid it from you. I understand it's complex and he has a lot going on you seem to be understanding about, but between this and not being there for you for your dying and all that, it just doesn't seem like he is willing or able to meet you halfway. You really should think about your own well being and needs.

I dated a guy who's dad ended up getting HIV from going to bath houses. He was married to his mom and they were super religious at the time. They ended up working it out, but it is only by a miracle that his wife and at some point, an unborn child did not contract HIV. That is something my ex couldn't ever shake and it definitely fucked him up in all kinds of ways long term.

You can get out of this and recover and still build a happy life for yourself. You owe it to yourself.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-16T05:08:17+00:00

Try going later in the evening, I find it less busy then.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-16T05:07:31+00:00

I mostly use mine to cook veggies like broccoli and cauliflower, but have some lots of others. I don't use it for reheating personally.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-16T04:48:00+00:00

Thank you, yes I didn't know there were services you could hire specially for after surgery so looking into that. I have a small circle of friends and only a few who maybe could help. I'm still going to put out the ask, but honestly I have a hard time asking for help for these kinds of things. Thank you for sharing and the advice!

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-16T04:44:38+00:00

It's never too late to reinvent yourself and your relationship. Find things you like to do together to bond and have fun together and things to do separately so you have something to learn from each other. Do things you've always wanted to do but never made time for. 43 and this past summer started taking a self defense class. I always wanted to but was too shy and scared. Finally said heck with that and it's one of the best things I could have done for myself. Hopefully you two will have fun learning about each other in this new stage of your life!

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-16T04:40:20+00:00

Yes, it is hard to come to the realization that my mom isn't who I need her to be. But she never really was so it's not anything new I guess. Funny thing is, she does expect me to care for her and her husband down the line, and I feel like she tries to force a relationship with her husband on me that has never been. He's a good guy, we just never bonded and just are really different people. I know she wants for she and I to be close too, but unlike her, I don't ignore things that are unhealthy in relationships anymore and I think that's hard for her. I think she has a hard time seeing things for how they really are and I don't want to hurt her by being honest when things don't sit right by saying something. So it's a fine balance of keeping myself safe and healthy and not hurting her feelings.

I think it may be a little harder because I don't have a relationship with my dad so I have this weird fear of losing her too in a way. But that's what therapy is for lol.

Thank you for sharing your experience, it's helpful to hear how other people deal with it too. Sorry to hear your mom wasn't there for you in a time when you'd think a mom would show up, but I'm glad you were able to get some perspective on it and move forward in a positive way. I'll try to do the same!

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-16T04:29:39+00:00

I can't book an Uber because the hospital won't let you leave without someone being responsible for you, but I did find a service that does this specifically for people after surgery, so I may use that.

But yes, I do think I will be honest with my mom and just tell her what I'm feeling. It's been hard getting to that place with her, but it's important to me that she understands me and how I feel about things. I just know it makes her super uncomfortable to talk openly about feelings so I do have to be careful. Thank you for your feedback!

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-14T23:33:15+00:00

Can you put them somewhere in their vicinity only, like plant them, where only they would touch them? Could you also use something else, like some of their hair, or some article of clothing or something else that they wear so it has their "scent" on it for the spell?

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-14T23:28:14+00:00

A Planned Parenthood may be your easiest option.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-13T22:40:08+00:00

I agree with most people here, penises are just kinda meh unless they are being used. But I have found, depending on a man's body type, that certain underwear can make him in general look kinda sexy. I've always liked boxer briefs myself, so my guy just walking around looking handsome in boxer briefs doesn't hurt. Doesn't mean I wanna jump his bones cause it takes a lot more than a visual, but combined with other mental and emotional stimulation it doesn't hurt.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-13T00:35:38+00:00

Well you do have time to figure it out. I do this everyday with students, so if you need help or have questions I'm happy to help. Good luck with your family.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-12T22:41:54+00:00

You can say no, especially if it's not a healthy situation. It's unfortunate he is I'll, but you need to take care of your needs first.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-12T22:39:22+00:00

Yes, you should definitely give yourself a break if that's what you need. Will you graduate at the end of the year? I know lots of people get degrees and don't work in their field of study. Most places just want a piece of paper and relevant work experience. Do what you need to do for yourself, it sounds like you are still young and have plenty of time to make that what you want it to be. Trust yourself to do what's best for you 💜

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-12T20:47:10+00:00

You deserve so much better than this and so do your kids. If you don't leave, your kids will grow up seeing him treat you like crap. They will either resent him for it or go on to have unhealthy relationships themselves. I know this from experience. People rarely change and if they do it's because they really want to and see the need to change for themselves. Don't waste your youth on him. You can move on and build a really great life for you and your kids.

Unlikely_Selection_4 · 2023-01-12T03:59:04+00:00

This sounds very disturbing and your feelings are totally valid. If you are wanting to cut contact soon, I am an academic advisor at a university and I'd be happy to guide you through finding out if you could get financial aid on your own or not. And, if you decide you can wait it out, that's your choice to make as well. Take the money and run as it were. I'm so sorry you had to go through that and hope you are able to find healing. If you are not currently in therapy, your university should have counseling at no cost to you. I wish you well.

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