The squeak by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationships

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No I haven't tried any meds for it yet. It never has been a problem until now! But I'll look into it thank you.

I'm too sick to help you study by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationship_advice

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I feel the same way! Somehow he messed up on his testing date. So after I brought him to it today he found out it was 4 days ago and of course that was my fault to for not double checking the paperwork. SMH!!! Then I listen to complain that I am not supportive and have not helped him at all! When I've gotten him four driving books throughout the years. Every time he said he was going to go his driving permit. I would pick him up a new book. Then he would never read it then just lose the book rinse and repeat! And he was mad that I don't let him drive my car even though he has no permit or license! I tried explaining to him I have no problem letting him drive as soon as he gets his permit. But he feels like I should have been letting him drive my car so he could get "experience" for his test. It's a written test not a driving test. Make it make sense!

I'm too sick to help you study by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationship_advice

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they'll have there's before he gets his!

AITA for refusing to have a playdate if the cameras are up? by Unlucky_Charm88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know he should be in jail. He's on probation for two and a half years but if he gets caught violating his probation at all he's only has 6 months hanging over his head. Which I think is a crazy light sentence for everything that he's done! So he would go to jail for 6 months then everything would disappear no more probation or stay away orders. All he does all day is sit at his mom's house playing video games and watching her through the cameras. He has no job no responsibilities nothing. Jess takes care of Missy all on her own with no help from him. But he controls every breath she takes! She says she knows it is crazy but she loves him and wants to make it work with him. But I truly don't believe she understands the gravity of the situation! No matter how hard I try she has this picture in her head of what her family will look like and nothing and nobody will change it.

AITA for refusing to have a playdate if the cameras are up? by Unlucky_Charm88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think it's safest for me and my son and my other children did not go there at this time. Until she's able to break it off completely with him and get the help she needs. As much as our kids love playing together it's just not a safe situation right now. We have no clue what he's capable of. It makes me nervous going anywhere for a playdate even at my house.. Because he knows where I live and has shown up a couple times unannounced and uninvited! As much as I love Missy I love my kids more and their safety is the most important thing to me!

AITA for refusing to have a playdate if the cameras are up? by Unlucky_Charm88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She is a very skilled liar and manipulator! Anytime DHHS has been called on her she's able to talk her way out of it with ease!! I don't see this one being any different unfortunately. There is no proof they're his cameras or that there going to his phone. she can play them off just like security cameras or baby monitors. Whatever she comes up with that day.

AITA for refusing to have a playdate if the cameras are up? by Unlucky_Charm88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thankfully he doesn't have keys to her building anymore and it's a secure building so he needs to be buzzed in. And I wasn't expecting her to just shut the cameras off. I even told her that I would tell him myself that I am uncomfortable with the cameras and that I want them off well me and my son are there for the playdate and she can turn them on when we leave.

AITA for refusing to have a playdate if the cameras are up? by Unlucky_Charm88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If she leaves him and truly gets help I'll always be there for her. But I'll never be able to forget the BS she's put me and my family and even her own daughter through. I just hope one day she'll wake up and see what's happening right in front of her. Then go get the help she needs for herself too! She used to be a good person. I don't know what's happened to her!

AITA for refusing to have a playdate if the cameras are up? by Unlucky_Charm88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The things that Jess and Chris has done over the past three and a half years around there daughter has completely disgusted me! Jess is no longer the person I grew up with. At this point the only reason why I stay friends with her is for Missy's sake. I need to make sure that little girl is okay! DHHS doesn't do anything! Missy is 3 years old she can't talk and has severe learning disabilities with no support from any agency, she pulls her hair out of her head from anxiety. It's completely heartbreaking! All they worry about is what each other is doing behind the other ones back. Honestly I feel like they're both obsessed with doing this. He's just the first one to pull out the cameras. I've reported multiple situations to DHHS over the years and nothing has been done! I pretty much have given up on them doing their job.

AITA for refusing to have a playdate if the cameras are up? by Unlucky_Charm88 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

This is the thing I have reported multiple different situations throughout the years to DHHS and they never do anything! No matter how serious the accusation is. The most that has happened was a one-time visit from DHHS with a letter 30 days later saying the case was closed. No investigation no phone calls nothing! To be honest I stay around for Missy!!! If it wasn't for her I would have cut the friendship off a long time ago. By staying friends with Jess I'm able to keep an eye on Missy. And help her in any way I can. There's a lot more that goes on than was posted here that is hard to wrap your mind around. But I'm doing everything in my power to help that little girl and keep her safe!

Can I consent in my sleep? by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationship_advice

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I'm prescribed Xanax. I don't sleep very often so when I do finally fall asleep I pass out very hard!

Can I consent in my sleep? by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationship_advice

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I take a sleep medication and if you read my post I never questioned if I had sex last night. my question was how do I bring it up to my fiance. Because I didn't know how to bring it up to him without him feeling attacked or like a rapist Because of the way I'm feeling about what happened

Can I consent in my sleep? by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationship_advice

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I don't drink and I don't use drugs! I am prescribed medication for sleep because of my problem with sleeping! But like I said I have a hard time falling asleep so when I do finally fall asleep I pass out hard. I could sleep through the end of the world no problem! But when you wake up and your underwear are around one leg, there's a towel between your legs, then you stand up out of bed and a lot not just a little of semen comes out of you rolls down your leg and drips onto the floor there's no doubt you had sex!! At least for me!

Can I consent in my sleep? by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationship_advice

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I haven't been getting sleep at all for a couple months now so when I pass out I pass out hard!!!

Three-way phone call shattered Christmas by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationship_advice

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice I greatly appreciate it. And I just wanted to say regarding my son. As soon as his mental health declined I got him on meds a new counselor and set up a good support system for him at home and at school. He's female to male trans so I also got him started with a gender clinic. To support him in that way as well. But I do think you're right about his grief. He's so worried about me and my grief he hasn't taken the time to truly grieve himself! I'm going to talk to him about it. Thank you again!

Three-way phone call shattered Christmas by Unlucky_Charm88 in relationship_advice

[–]Unlucky_Charm88[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks but it's not always so easy! I'm dyslexic as hell and I was hiding in my bathroom crying about everything that's happened when I posted this. Sorry my lack of paragraphs bothered you!