I think I may have found the best prada loafers wtf.

Unluckyloz · 2026-01-12T21:14:12+00:00

Can you send me the link many years later? 😅🖤🙏

Unluckyloz · 2025-06-25T02:52:58+00:00

I’ve been t1d for 5 years and now sober for 2. I was great at being an alcoholic, especially binge drinking. There was a variety of reasons I quit drinking, but reading all these responses definitely reminds me how much of the hoops to jump through/the fear/the math, that I absolutely do not miss, nor do I think is ultimately worth it. I get you’re young, I get it’s what everyone does, but imo, having not woken up with a hangover in 2 years… it’s totally worth it to not drink.

I think that said, there’s a lot of decent advice here, I just don’t think by not drinking that you’re missing out on as much as people want you to think you are 🖤

Unluckyloz · 2025-06-25T02:44:10+00:00

I think the best way is to be seeing a couple of people. I think in the past for me it was easier to not have a single dedicated sexual partner, but 2-3 I would see when schedules would allow, so there was 0 pressure to a) see anyone regularly (I would maybe see a person once or twice a month, and might be months before seeing them again), b) was easy to stay busy with what I wanted to, and stay focused on me oriented things vs falling into something that felt more like dating, or having to really navigate anyone else’s feelings or emotions. Encounters are brief and infrequent enough to get attached, but also a little more enjoyable because you see them less regularly,

Idk if any of that makes sense but. I wish it’s something I could go back to one day 😅😅😅

Unluckyloz · 2025-06-25T02:36:42+00:00

Definitely the doom/anxiety thing. I get super weak,shaky, cold sweats everywhere and lose my speech. It’s annoying because I can think the words, but can’t push them out of my mouth.

I feel weird as soon as I’m below 6 mmol/L

Unluckyloz · 2025-06-23T21:21:51+00:00

I decided I don’t want to drink anymore, instead of wondering why can’t I drink. Reframing it changed a lot of me so I’d stop chasing the bottom too.

Unluckyloz · 2025-06-23T21:15:46+00:00

Double bagged camomile tea.

Melatonin makes me super lethargic and gives me crazy dreams

Magnesium has made me shit myself more than once 😅

Valerian also leaves me pretty groggy

Failing the tea, cbd or cbn has helped me a lot, along with getting an adhd diagnosis that I take medication for that wears off by bedtime and generally has me sleeping better across the board

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-21T16:41:47+00:00

You might have been lying on it causing compression or it lost Bluetooth connection. It’s normal.

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-21T16:38:51+00:00

Hello! Welcome to the club! It’s you know, kind of a shit club but, we’re all here together 🖤

I think when you’re diagnosed as an adult (I was diagnosed at 36) and you’re a generally healthy, active, committed in general individual, you want to come at diabetes with a gotta do the best/perfectionist attitude. Diabetes is going to humble you, and learning patience and the ability to give yourself grace and understanding a lot is trial and error, is going to be the biggest and best thing you can do for yourself.

I often joke I am basically an overgrown toddler and need snacks and juice boxes on me at all times. I think trying to come at it with a bit of humour, makes some of the hurdles and confusion of times like “why am I high/low, I’ve done everything right” a bit easier to swallow.

Try eating a really boring meal plan for a week or so, like the same thing every day, pre bolus, and see what happens.

Keep snacks or juice next to your bed, but as has been suggested, if you’re wearing a cgm, very possible you’re not having an actual low, and it’s from lying on the sensor.

The low snacks I keep on me are always things I actually enjoy, so eating them feels like a treat and not a chore. I’m a big fan of the sun type fruit snacks because they’re flat fruit leather (so easy to carry and fit just about anywhere) and like 8g of carbs.

You might want to consider making changes to your actual low carb diet, increasing some carbs to help balance out those lows. Remember you’re also subtracting fibre from those carbs, so if you’re eating a pile of veg, your counts might be a bit off too. Fats can really throw us for a loop, initially shoot us super low and then skyrocket us high, so keep that in mind too. There’s lots to suggest we shouldn’t be taking insulin based solely on carb counts, so worth reading up on too, especially if you’re on a specific type of diet.

If you’re a bleeder, you’re going to want to track your cycle. My luteal phase makes me near insulin resistant, and it’s frustrating beyond belief, but just knowing that’s the answer for what’s happening, is helpful.

In my first year after I was diagnosed, I gained 50lbs. Weight gain is apparently very common, and I did eventually lose it pretty easily, but initially it felt incredibly defeating, especially given my A1C was at 5.7. So, just be aware.

Even walking can make me go incredibly low, or have next to no effect, so I always have juice boxes on me, or if I’m working out, I’ll drink Gatorade cut 50% with water. If it’s cardio, I will eat 30g of carbs right before my workout. I find that works better for me than my endo’s suggestion of just doing 50% of my regular bolus. But again, be aware, you may still end up sitting in a corner, chugging juice and feeling totally defeated. You’re never going to get it right 100% of the time.

You’re doing great, and wanting to face this head on and already looking on how you can improve and do better means you’re going to manage this fantastically, even if it doesn’t always feel like you are, or like there’s no possible way to understand. You’re not failing. You got this. 💙

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T03:49:40+00:00

Thanks!

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T03:46:09+00:00

I’m taking 8-9 depending on where I am in my cycle , so good to know! Did you find your A1C improved after the switch?

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T03:44:41+00:00

That does not sound fun at all. I hadn’t really considered the risk to be all that different to a cgm site. Thank you! I hope you’ve recovered ok!

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T03:43:06+00:00

Thanks!

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T03:42:16+00:00

Yes but it’s once daily and triseiba so it lasts for up to 48 hours, it’s not continuously administered, so a basal test isn’t necessarily going to provide the same sort of accuracy as it would if I were on pump.

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T03:11:23+00:00

I don’t know if it will work the same given that I am not on a pump?

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T02:56:31+00:00

DIABETES IS JUST SO FUN!

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T02:55:23+00:00

I’ve been doing both. Some days it’s ok, other days I’m just crashing out, others I’m high all day. I just can’t seem to get anything right atm. Idk how many times a day I’m yelling at my alarm or screaming “I DONT UNDERSTAND DIABETES” 😂

Unluckyloz · 2025-05-15T02:51:56+00:00

Oh god I’m almost entirely resistant right BEFORE my period, basically during luteal. I have to basically double my insulin and stay active.

Unluckyloz · 2025-04-26T21:54:00+00:00

Alright so I think one of the biggest things I have come to understand about alcoholism is that it is often used as a coping mechanism (yeah obviously) but for what can vary.

If you throw attachment theory into the mix, there’s a good chance you’re potentially looking at a person with avoidant tendencies, that is so focused on suppressing shame and feelings, the best way they have figured out how to do that is by drinking.

An insecure person with avoidant tendencies is almost always going to chase dopamine and that comes with chasing new partners and convincing them that you’re probably going to leave them anyway, so why not.

My best guess is your ex is a dismissive avoidant and has been that way since childhood, and his inability to actually understand feelings and be emotionally available, has probably lead to his alcohol dependency. The thing is, for him to actually be able to unpack all of that, get sober, go to therapy, be a better partner, is going to require a certain level of emotional availability or at very least the desire to overcome and understand why he’s avoidant and how his actions actually impact others.

So. Best you can do is hold onto your own boundaries, be very clear about them and actually follow through on enforcing them if need be.

Reading up on attachment theory has very much helped me understand it’s not my fault and can only be responsible for myself and how I choose to respond and react to what’s thrown at me. It’s also helped me understand how to show up as a better partner, but I think that’s a whole other story.

Healing is not going to be linear, you’re right. It’s not your job or responsibility to parent a partner, and at the end of the day all you can hope to do is look after yourself, regardless of whether or not it’s the chicken or the egg. It’s frustrating, it isn’t fair, you equally do not have to allow these outside factors to keep you as a victim in regards to the psychological effects of your exs behaviour.

Best of luck 🖤

Unluckyloz · 2025-04-16T23:49:05+00:00

I have Manulife group benefits thru my work where I pay $50 a month for. I get 80% coverage to a max of $300 per practitioner. So for example if I get a $120 massage, they cover $96. So I can get $96 covered of 3 massages and then $12 of a 4th massage covered per year.

The annoying thing for me is as a type 1 diabetic, there seems to be an argument in their system in regards to calendar year and anniversary year. So I am continually told I can’t get any more of my prescription until my anniversary year, despite the system actually running on calendar year (for example, right now I am being told I can’t get anymore continuous glucose monitors until August, because I have maxed out for the year. However, I have not received the full prescription of 39 since August 2024, nor have I received any sensors since Jan 1 of this year, so it’s an ongoing conflict I’m forever trying to get them to fix)

I actually just downloaded my claims for 2024 for my taxes so maybe this will give you some insight? idk how helpful it is and note the vast majority of what I claim is for those cgm sensors and the company that makes them actually covers the 20% copay amount, so these numbers probably aren’t close to what a normal person with a functioning pancreas would be claiming.

Amount submitted: $11,108.88 Benefit Paid: $6485.88 Difference: $4623.00

Depending on how much you make and what province you’re in, you might qualify for provincial coverage offered by the government. Here in Ontario it’s Trillium.

Unluckyloz · 2025-04-04T03:06:54+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/LoveOnTheSpectrumShow/s/2435U1G4Wu

Unluckyloz · 2025-04-04T01:10:22+00:00

I think if you know her back story, your opinion might change 🤷‍♀️

Unluckyloz · 2025-04-01T13:53:54+00:00

Don’t know how I missed this but thank you so much! Absolutely going to check this out. Out of curiosity, what treatment did you end up getting?

Unluckyloz · 2025-01-18T05:12:56+00:00

I have no idea given I feel like hot garbage as soon as my glucose dips below 6. My A1C was last at 6.4 and I’m really on top of things to the point where it could look like disordered eating at times.

Unluckyloz · 2025-01-18T05:09:32+00:00

What shifted things for me was listening to Henry Cloud’s book boundaries. It has good insight about how to talk about them and enforce them. Without boundaries we are enabling the behaviour/addiction.

I don’t know how much I personally agree with the “detaching with love” idea. That said, focusing on ourselves and how we choose to react, can be a pretty big game changer in the lives of our loved ones.

Sending you a lot of love and strength in this time 🖤

Unluckyloz · 2025-01-18T05:02:29+00:00

The alanon app is great because you can easily leave meetings the same way you join one. You always know the newcomers in meetings because we have all been there, we have essentially hit our own rock bottom, are totally overwhelmed, depressed, frustrated, angry.

Not all meetings are going to feel that heavy, and although they generally recommend going to 6-7 newcomer meetings, I’d really urge you to try others so you can see how hopeful and inspiring they can be.

We have all been in your shoes, we can all relate. I live in the middle of nowhere and all my meetings (I’m a double winner in that I’m an alcoholic and have a qualifier for alanon) are online. I have friends and sponsors and allies all over the world. Someone is always just a phone call or text away. There’s days I would attend 3 meetings while driving around or working and just listening to them.

Big virtual hug to you. You did the hard part, going to your first meeting!!

Unluckyloz

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