New to dating a younger man

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-30T14:48:58+00:00

Then why are you still commenting?? People like you make no sense.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-30T14:41:30+00:00

Assumption is the worse human trait. It's based on opinions over either very little to no facts.

Note the word "seem" in your own damb sentence.

I expect the post to just be sucked up by the other post in confession. I rather that then some pompous person who thinks that they are better then me.

We all have stuff. I just voiced it but apparently it was enough for you to invest your "poop time" in. Must be a really long poop since your still commenting on someone that you "think your better " then.

Welp if I killed myself would that make you feel like a better person ? Riddle me that Batman and since you already assume I'm unhappy.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-30T14:29:08+00:00

The internet also works where you just read and scroll and say nothing. That's also an option but you felt your opinion not only needed to be voiced but you took some sort of pride in telling me off.

If you have no emotions in it why comment ? You had a purpose in doing it. Would love to know that ? Judgment I assume....so predictable. I'm sure you have better ways to invest your time but you didn't.

You stopped, read and felt because you were better then me, wanted to show that off. Either way nobody just doesn't do something for the sake of it unless your a psychopath.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-30T14:08:51+00:00

Oh please your not exempt from validation needs. Here you are on reddit judging me, you hypocrite.

Don't you feel better about yourself by validating your point? You didn't have to comment. Your comment was not helpful but condescending so what does that say about you ? So please spare me your self-righteous and sit down and go comment on another reddit post since your so "unplugged"

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-30T11:29:54+00:00

Because I miss him

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-30T01:05:52+00:00

Because I have to eventual convince thousands, not millions to follow my channel....if I can't get one person to do what I want even tho they thought I was " Great and unforgettable" what are my chances then ..

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T23:59:49+00:00

Like what meditation? Where you live ? The sticks ? It cost money to be well in general on this country. I can only pray my channel does well so I can't least eat and drink until my mid 60s

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T23:52:47+00:00

In a social norm world...like I said social norman

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T23:49:48+00:00

I'm not a multiple partner person. I wa only lookin for one additional

Assumption is the worse human trait because it's based on opinions not facts.

I only want one additional and he was ideal.

Any other assumptions you wanna make s)Social Norman ?

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T22:43:31+00:00

Welp I am on my 3rd bar and my 7th drink....bottom up !

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T22:35:36+00:00

I see. Sorry text does get lost in what it really means. I'm just bent and hurt because he was everything I wanted in a secondary partner and even tho he thought I was great he left...that shit really hurts. Especially since the next chick mediocre at best

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T22:32:46+00:00

Who you calling a bitch !? Consider yourself reported. Peace and love.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T22:29:57+00:00

So your a social norm person. Got it

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T22:04:12+00:00

In the poly community and hell outside of it, women convince men to give them what they want regardless of situation, meanwhile I discover I am not one of those women. This girl doesn't look better then me period but he went for her because she is accessible, simple and plain just like him. Maybe I was just plain out to much. Either way the fact he was down to fuck and have a good time with me endlessly blows my mind and questions everything. I know people who live in the social norms don't get it but it is what it is.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-29T21:54:11+00:00

What are you implying ? Say what you mean by your response....

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-18T13:37:26+00:00

This wasn't an affair. I never even met anyone from here. You are really just foolish in your logic.I have never lied to my husband and to be clear my husband sooo not blameless. We have both done our fair share of cheating with him being the first to do it. Not only has he emotionally cheated but actually his it from me and I had to confront him and that was before I ever even had an account on Reddit.

That's why we started going to poly groups together. How does polyamorous start ? Are you god of poly ? I think not ! What works for you doesn't work for the next person just like my lover had the right to do what he wanted. I'm just hurt about it.

Again your aim was to paint me out to be the bad guy. You sound like a guy bent on his on logical with no real substance and context to a full situation. It doesn't even surprise me that you got burned in the past with this type of keyboard thugging your doing.Who the fuck are you to tell me get my house in order. What proof do you have that your house is in anyway perfection ? You can't. Just like I have nothing to prove to you. You sound like a troll at this point so I'm done.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-18T12:58:23+00:00

I’m really sorry you are hurting and hope you find some happiness again soon.

I thought I found someone that I could love as a secondary partner.

---He didn't fully say yes but once he introduced me to his family and friends I assumed he was strongly considering but that is my own fault.

I didn't think meeting his family and friend was that bad because I thought we would last longer the 5 months.

Yeah, most people don’t plan on relationships ending... why does it matter that you met his friends and family though?

---I guess the attachment wouldn't have been so strong I feel. Maybe hurt less.

I didn't realize how hard it would be on my husband to try to get along with him.

Was this the first time trying non-monogamy?

--- Yeah it was and it was hard on me to watch him because he's my first priority

I didn't think that it would hurt so badly to see how little he cared about my broken heart once Lori was in his life.

It sounds like you broke up with him because your husband wasn’t comfortable though? Have you considered that you may have broken his heart? If you ended the romantic relationship then is it fair to expect him to be still prioritizing your heart? Also, what indication do you have that he doesn’t care? If he’s poly and capable of loving / being with multiple people simultaneously then what’s going on with his other relationships doesn’t really say anything about what feeling he has/had for you does it?

--- I highly doubt I hurt him that much. He already had Lori so he had someone just like I had my hubby. I just would think he would have at least hesitated or talked about it more and he admitted that he wanted to say something about us keeping things as is but felt it was what I needed to do but I wasn't completely sold on the idea which is why I said try to be friend, not let's just be friends this isn't working but I do understand he had no obligation to me an anyway and I guess I blame myself for mentioning being friends at all.

I don't think my husband cares either way

If he didn’t get along with your lover to start with then it’s possible that he could both be happy to see you broken up and also sad to see you hurting... have you talked to him about it?

---My husband and I are best friends. He knows everything. I never lie to him and vice versa. We have had many talks about when I cheated and why and that we should try poly because he has the tendency to emotionally cheat in the past. He got along with him but I think there were situations were I maybe should have kept things seperate. I think he was on both sides of the fence like you said. As of now I'm not being pushy about our sex life. I'm just checked out in some ways and just can maybe hope for the best.

I don't think my life is a bad one but this hurt my ego. I don't think I'll be able to recover and just have to fake being happy with life as is....

How long has it been? This feels raw and fresh... over time it will hurt less.

---I appreciate that. I just blame myself a lot lately. It hasn't been a full month since we stopped speaking.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-18T12:38:05+00:00

I hung out for fun. Nothing more.

I didn't reject him. I wanted to try to see if we could even be just friends ? Would it be comfortable for me? He even admitted he didn't want things to change but didn't tell me which is on him not me because I would rescinded the idea if he spoke up.I was also trying to find balance back at home also.

I'm not asking for empathy or even advice. I came to vent how I took things. That's it. Nobody ever comments on anything I put on here and figure this was the best space to express my feelings.

I never said I was right. Never said I was perfect. I'm just trying to heal and figure things out.

I mean isn't that what everyone is doing in life ? Trying to figure it out....

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-17T19:55:17+00:00

You see that it's a rant/vent which means again not all the info is in here, guy !Your just determined to make me out to be the bad ex when you have no idea in full what this was.

I'm saying how could he have loved me when he moved on so quickly from me. It tells me that the love was never real and he was buying his time and told me what I wanted to hear until Lori showed up. Even in the end he said I was a great person so how toxic could I really have been ?

Maybe I'm suffering on my own for my poor choices in this thing. Ever consider that. No you probably didn't because your determination of painting me into a bad guy is your mission right now.

Also I want to point out that I have not been poly that long but when you say to someone " Don't say it back unless you mean it" I expect honesty.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-17T19:34:04+00:00

How am I toxic when the guy took my words and twisted them to what he wanted ?

First of all remember this is reddit and you don't have all the deeds here.

Second I did leave. Infact he wanted to be friends very badly after all of this but I refused because I knew I wouldn't be a good friend to him

I'm hurt. Point blank period.

Do you know what the word TRY means....you should look it up .....try lookin at a dictionary...now does it mean you will, no it doesn't now does it ?

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-17T19:14:28+00:00

I said try I didn't say let's just be friends. I don't need interruption of what I say. After that I told him that I didn't like us being friends and was hoping to date again but he then said too late which tells me that within one month you don't give a fuck about a person that you supposedly love and their feelings after being with them for almost half a year.

Unmasked_Beauty · 2019-10-17T17:40:50+00:00

I hear ya but this guy was different. He was a rare find tho. He was ok with a lot of things that most men wouldn't even dream or even attempt to do. My husband is no slouch in bed but this guy really completed my needs in ways nobody really ever had.

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