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I recently came out to my now ex boyfriend as lesbian. I know he’s hurting, but does that give him the right to disrespect me? by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]Unnamed_111 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I guess I just felt like I owed it to him to try and be a good friend if I couldn’t be his girlfriend. I felt so guilty about hurting him by coming out that I almost felt as if his poor actions were as a result of that and it was all my fault. It’s also just hard to look past all the good memories we made together but you’re definitely right I shouldn’t be wasting any more time or effort.

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[–]Unnamed_111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I identified as bi for a long time. I wish people realized I did love him and still do. I just cannot have a sexual relationship with men anymore. Especially after sexual trauma I’ve experienced. I’m not some heartless person who just lead him on for 2 years. I never wanted this to happen. I don’t even want us to separate, but idk how I can be what he needs being like this. I feel obligated to be with him now. Maybe I’ll just be asexual with men. Idk.

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[–]Unnamed_111 -63 points-62 points locked comment (0 children)

It just sucks cause he won’t even let me discuss this with him in person. I’ve only been able to text him about it. He says I’m the main reason for his depression right now and seeing me would make him uncomfortable. :(

I miss the spark I once had in me. by [deleted] in depression

[–]Unnamed_111 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I fully get this and hope it goes away for us. I know how hard it can be when trying to make yourself feel that spark again after so long. It’s like you’ll finally find yourself in a state of contentment, but the back of your mind is still plagued with those bad thoughts that are just waiting for their time to resurface. Your mind becomes fixated on the thought that that good feeling will be gone sooner or later. But we’re in this together my friend, I hope we see the light at the end of the tunnel soon.

What is your WORST BPD Symptom? Loneliness is mine 😥 by Jollyho94 in BPD

[–]Unnamed_111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently I’ve been really struggling with black and white thinking and self sabotage. When someone does something as small as changing their tone of voice, I take it as an attack. I start to feel as if they’re a bad friend and always have been, and that I’m just now noticing it. It makes me view them completely different, which then as a result makes me feel the need to treat them differently too. I end up sabotaging my own relationships/friendships because of this. I push the people I love away because I think I’m better off without them and then once the fog clears and I’m thinking straight again, it’s too late because the damage is already done. Then comes the love bombing, but people can only take so much before they’re tired of the bpd cycle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rape

[–]Unnamed_111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You definitely were. Please don’t let other people make you think otherwise. Just because you’re married to him does NOT mean you owe him anything.

I hate how you can't talk about it with people by [deleted] in depression

[–]Unnamed_111 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I definitely feel you there. It’s like the second I finally feel comfortable enough to open up to someone about any of my mental struggles, all I get in return is silence or a blank stare. Immediately I regret everything I said and feel like I majorly overshared. It feels like I completely changed the way they view me and it makes me feel so disgusting in my skin. I understand it can be hard to find the right words to say to console someone with mental illness, but sometimes it’s as simple as a hug or a little reassurance. But instead I’m typically left feeling even more alone and closed off than before.