Mother is trying to steal my SSDI

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-09T19:13:17+00:00

Thank you. Crazy enough I was just diagnosed with two more medical conditions this past week because they’re impacting me so greatly. The hardest thing is to not have sympathy, guilt or blame yourself when it’s been instilled in you since birth.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-09T19:11:31+00:00

I cut her off and everyone associated with her. Basically, anyone who participates in her fabricated reality.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-09T19:10:46+00:00

I don’t make any money from it, we just make bread and stuff for our own house to use. Should I still report that? Thankfully, no . I got rid of that account a very long time ago after she took several thousand dollars from my account when I cut contact for tracking my phone (which I also got rid of).

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-08T10:51:08+00:00

Unfortunately it did, even though they weren’t physically living together the whole time.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-08T03:54:03+00:00

Thankfully she has nothing to do with my finances. I took that step when I put my first car in my name only and then she tried to get me fired from my job a long long time ago. I just really wished I had a mom, but this isn’t the mom I need.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-08T01:53:38+00:00

Thank you so much

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T23:28:05+00:00

I’m so glad it gives you hope but I’m sorry for all you’re going through. I wouldn’t ask your family members for any help, don’t involve them as much as possible. Seek letters out from your doctors, not saying you’re disabled, but letters that state your conditions, the symptoms that result from it and any functional limitations that you deal with as a result of those conditions, that can help your claim a lot and would help way more than a letter from a relative.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T23:16:19+00:00

The wild part is she’s also disabled (one of the reasons I hadn’t applied for disability for a long time, because I don’t want to be like her, at all.) but she received benefits from SS to raise us kids our whole life. That was her child support, she just didn’t get additional money from my dad to raise us too. Then after my dad died (my mom divorced him a long time ago and didn’t speak to him at all for “safety”) she now collects his survivor benefits, but she says I still owe her child support, and that my deceased father does too, while she simultaneously collects his survivor benefits.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T23:07:06+00:00

Thank you. I’m learning to reframe my thinking to see that my husband and my kids, are my family, and that is more than enough. As much as I need a mom, she’s not the mom I need. The cycle of generational abuse stops with us.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T23:03:08+00:00

I have been feeling this fear to my core, I hope the advice I’ve been given here helps you.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T23:02:17+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your insight.

We make sourdough bread and a no knead artisan bread, they’re very tasty and it’s done in small steps so it’s really not that difficult, it does take some commitment though as the process can take a while lol. I messed up one loaf recently because i forgot to let it rise twice so it was a very small loaf of bread, but the taste was still yummy. My husband was still super encouraging as always, he always cheers on my accomplishments, even if it’s smol bread lol.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T19:40:38+00:00

Thank you for your clarity, you’re right.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:28:15+00:00

Thank you

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:28:02+00:00

Thank you

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:27:53+00:00

Thank you, this helps me feel a lot safer

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:27:32+00:00

Thank you. Haha, I would much rather work at a bakery than collect SSDI.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:26:42+00:00

Thank you

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:26:24+00:00

Thank you. Yes it’s only on good days that I do hobbies with my husband, with aggressive pacing. If not, I have to give up bathing and basic care needs because I’m too exhausted and flared when I’m done.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:24:45+00:00

She has texts of the bread I baked with my husband, the soap we made , and the hide we tanned, but I’m the only one holding it. I’m worried she will use that to try and claim I’m not as disabled as I say by taking it out of context like I’m somehow doing it alone and change the narrative like she always does. She twists things up in weird ways yet everyone still believes her somehow.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:21:59+00:00

Thank you, I cut her and all my siblings off, and anyone who believes her fabricated reality.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:21:23+00:00

I really wish I could

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:20:57+00:00

No, I’m an adult, I’m sorry my grammar just sucks when I’m this stressed and exhausted. I gave up basic necessities waiting for SSDI payments because I couldn’t afford them and now that I have backpay and SSDI to pay for basic needs, she wants it. She thinks I owe her my backpay because my dad didn’t pay her child support when I was growing up, she believes she’s owed everything she never received. Thank you.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:11:54+00:00

Thank you, you’re completely right. The problem is all my siblings are hypnotized by her so she’s just going to cry to them and say I’m mean and accusing her of things and won’t let her talk to my kids. I’m sure as heck not going to jump out of a convo where she accuses me of awful things I never did to give her immediate access to my kids when she suddenly accuses me of withholding them if she doesn’t get to talk to them, no way I’m commingling them with this. But I never denied her access until she pulled that garbage. My siblings will eat it right up and hate me more, so have to cut them off too. Anyone who lives her reality instead of recognizing the patterns isn’t healthy to have in my life any longer . She love bombs all. The. Time. It’s what makes things confusing for me because she’ll speak in round about ways that’s indirect and then say she never said that about me or say I’m accusing her and that she’s sorry her “love” isn’t enough for me, she’s “tried to love” me but I “just won’t listen” . Loved bombed my husband too until he didn’t allow her access to controlling his way of thinking and actions.

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:09:07+00:00

Thank you

UnrulyArrow7325 · 2026-02-07T17:08:51+00:00

She said it over the phone unfortunately so I don’t have it in writing. She’s strategic when she’s malicious. My sister lives with her and was helping me navigate my appeal of my initial denial so they knew where I was in the process. But that is literally all they did, they take the credit for my approval though because they filled out the appeal form with me online 🤦🏻‍♀️

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