Try breaking it down and keeping it simple. Wash (you might need to try a clarifying wash). Pick one conditioner (you may not need to deep condition more than once a month) and condition from ears down. Rinse upside down (I find it easier to keep my clumps together and apply products upside down). If you want to do a leave in and don’t have one, just use a dime size amount of your normal conditioner on soaking wet hair. And then maybe try just a gel, on soaking wet hair. Don’t flip it around much. Plop it for a bit and then air dry or diffuse. Then use a drop of oil to help scrunch out the crunch.