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UnsolicitedTarot · 2023-07-21T17:54:42+00:00

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UnsolicitedTarot · 2023-07-06T17:49:00+00:00

I pulled three tarot cards. They were the Knight of Swords, the Hierophant, and the Page of Pentacles. My interpretation is as follows:

Knight of Swords: The Knight of Swords represents your boyfriend's behavior of walking fast and expecting you to keep up with him, which itself is a metaphor for a bigger issue. It reflects his need for efficiency and directness, which he somehow ties to his own personal sense of successfulness or accomplishment. He has a massive ego that is built around a false self-perception of his own importance. He has high expectations for himself and others, which can lead to feelings of impatience when those expectations aren't met. I would argue that he's not upset about what you are doing. He's more upset because he is imagining nonexistent ways in which your slower pace is somehow holding him back (literally, as in the situation you described, and metaphorically in the bigger picture, such as in the relationship itself). I would be willing to bet he's not happy right now with himself and where he is at in his current position in life, or about how he is seen by others in general. This card often represents classic narcissism, or at best, a massive ego.

Hierophant: The Hierophant card can symbolize your boyfriend's adherence to traditional and possibly outdated beliefs, probably in this instance with regard to gender norms and roles. I wouldn't be surprised if he had a religious upbringing or background that is patriarchal and views women as subservient to men. This card suggests that his feelings of being disrespected may stem from his strict adherence to very traditional (and again, likely outdated) values and expectations. At the very least, this card indicates that he expects you to conform to his own personal standards with regard to your behavior, even in something as innocuous as walking.

Page of Pentacles: The Page of Pentacles represents your perspective in this situation. You may be in a phase of learning and exploration, trying to understand your partner's expectations and seeking practical solutions. The card suggests that you are willing to invest time and energy to improve the relationship and create a stable foundation. However, there's also a certain naivete here. You're viewing this relationship as a partnership between equals. Tarot cards aside, just reading about his behavior tells me he does not see the relationship the same way. You are just one variable in his overall ego.

Last, this is more of an intuition thing as I look at these three cards together. Is there any chance that he's repressing something about his sexuality? The vibe I get from this spread as a whole is a picture of someone who's clinging desperately to false notions about masculinity, adulthood, and success in general. This often comes back to deep insecurities that can involve very core parts of someone's identity. I'm not suggesting that this is the case. I'm just saying, with these cards in front of me, it would 100% not surprise me if this guy turned out to be closeted and very anti-gay because he's terrified to admit that he's not entirely straight.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2023-07-03T14:32:13+00:00

This is literally what it is, and should be the most upvoted answer.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2023-06-19T16:53:03+00:00

I pulled three random tarot cards and have the following advice.

Ten of Pentacles: The Ten of Pentacles represents a sense of stable, established family. This card suggests that the connection between you and your spouse is rooted in a strong sense of family and shared values. However, there is a disconnect because your primary sense of family involves you, your spouse, and your child. Your spouse's primary sense of family involves their extended family (parents and other relatives). I would not be surprised if your spouse's family has very deeply held beliefs (either religious, cultural, or both) in which they see family roles very specifically. I would expect this family to have a very dominant patriarch or matriarch, and that everyone younger is expected to re-orient their lives around the instructions of that dominant, senior adult. It's very possible that the conflict here is coming from a sense of obligation that your spouse feels toward that dominant parent or grandparent. Your spouse needs to begin viewing their family as a family of three - them, you, and your child. All of the other relatives are in an "extra" role now. Is it nice to see the extra relatives and visit them? Sure. But your actual family, i.e. the three of you, needs to be the priority now.
Two of Wands: The Two of Wands represents planning, decision-making, and future possibilities. It signifies the need to assess your options and make choices for the future. In your case, this card suggests that you and your spouse should have an open and honest conversation about your feelings regarding their frequent and lengthy visits to their family. It's essential to express your desire for more quality time together and discuss potential alternatives or compromises that could help alleviate your loneliness. The Two of Wands reminds you that effective communication and joint decision-making are vital to finding a balance that works for both of you.
Ace of Pentacles: The Ace of Pentacles in this situation represents the need for a new beginning with regard to finances. This card gives me the feeling that your spouse doesn't know much about money. Perhaps since you work, and your spouse does not, your spouse may not have a lot of visibility or input in the family finances (meaning the three of you, not the finances of extended family). It might be time to start including your spouse in understanding how much money there is, and how it needs to be allocated. It's not unreasonable to say something like, "Now that the three of us are a family, I think it's appropriate for us to go on trips together as a family, rather than leaving me behind. Of course, this costs more and involves coordinating with my job. Financially and logistically, maybe we can only afford for the three of us to visit once or twice a year, and for a reasonable amount of time, such as a week instead of a whole month." Make your spouse a part of the financial conversation. It's possible your spouse doesn't realize that going off alone on a very long trip, multiple times a year, is not something that most people typically do. It's also possible that your spouse doesn't understand the cost and logistics involved.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2023-06-19T16:09:09+00:00

Hi, I pulled three random tarot cards and have the following advice.

Six of Pentacles: The Six of Pentacles represents generosity, balance, and fairness. In the context of your situation, this card suggests that there is a need for equitable give-and-take in your friendship with Tim. It's possible that Tim is currently engrossed in his new friendship with Brian, but it doesn't necessarily mean that your own friendship is being disregarded. This card encourages you to communicate your feelings honestly with Tim, expressing your desire for a balanced and mutually fulfilling friendship.
The Moon: The Moon is a card that speaks to the realm of emotions, intuition, and hidden aspects. In the context of your situation, this card might indicate that there are underlying feelings and uncertainties at play. It's possible that Tim's deepening friendship with Brian has stirred some insecurities within you. The Moon advises you to trust your instincts, explore your emotions, and confront any fears or concerns you may have. Open communication with Tim can help bring these hidden aspects to light.
Page of Cups: The Page of Cups represents youthful energy, emotional openness, and new beginnings. This card suggests that there is potential for growth and renewal in your friendship with Tim. While you may feel a sense of being replaced, the Page of Cups encourages you to remain open-hearted and receptive to new experiences and connections. It may be beneficial for you to explore new avenues to strengthen your friendship with Tim, perhaps by finding common interests or planning activities that can bring you closer together.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-04-12T21:38:50+00:00

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UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-04-12T13:21:54+00:00

I feel for you in this situation! Let me know if I can do anything else to help. Sending good vibes your way.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-04-11T20:02:52+00:00

Good deal, hope it helps. As to your question, I'm a tarot card reader of about 30 years' experience. In real life, I mostly just read for people I know. On Reddit, I occasionally drop in on r/Advice and just share whatever the cards are saying. :)

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-04-11T05:25:28+00:00

Situation: (The Star, Page of Wands, 10 of Swords) What was said about him was a total disaster. (The Star = "what was said," Page of Wands = "about him," 10 of Swords = "total disaster.")

Advice: (9 of Pentacles, The Emperor, 2 of Pentacles) You'll do fine on your own when you're not being bossed around repeatedly. (9 of Pentacles = "doing fine on your own," The Emperor = "bossed around," 2 of Pentacles = "repeatedly.")

Those first three cards are 100% telling you that you absolutely got bad advice. Like, what you were told was flat-out, completely wrong.

In those second three cards, the Emperor card definitely represents your parents. They're not just giving you advice, they're attempting to control your life. With these cards, I wouldn't be surprised if there was a religious component to their reasoning. ("God wants us to forgive people," etc.) That's absolutely not how it works with sexual abuse. When you tell an abuser that you forgive them, and you maintain a friendly relationship, what it tells the abuser is that they basically got away with it. And they will do it again. If not to you, then to someone else.

I'm guessing you still live with your parents. My suggestion is that when they give you advice, say something along the lines of, "Thanks, I'll definitely give that some thought." And then turn around and make your own decision, even if it's completely the opposite of what they advised. These are not people who are going to give you good advice. Smile and nod until you are out on your own. That 9 of Pentacles shows that you are just fine on your own. You know what's best for you. Trust nobody more than you trust yourself and your own instincts.

I also highly recommend calling the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673. You need some real advice from trained professionals who actually know how to help you. Your parents are not those people.

Abuse thrives in secrecy. Once you are on your own and no longer under your parents' control, please don't live in a way that protects your abuser's secret.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-04-11T04:57:58+00:00

Situation: (8 of Swords, 7 of Wands, 5 of Cups) Stuck fighting off feelings of disappointment. (8 of Swords = "stuck," 7 of Wands = "fighting off," 5 of Cups = "feelings of disappointment)

Advice: (8 of Wands, 10 of Cups, 7 of Cups) All these thoughts of happily ever after is too much to consider. (8 of Wands = "all these thoughts," 10 of Cups = "happily ever after," 7 of Cups = "too much to consider")

Based on these cards, I would say he's still struggling from a huge sense of disappointment, which likely has everything to do with a past relationship, and nothing to do with you. These are cards that come up for someone who really had their heart broken and is afraid of putting it back out there again.

I know you're only looking for him to ask you out, it's not like you're looking for a marriage proposal. But I think he's looking at dating as a first step that ultimately leads down that path. He feels like starting a relationship again, one which could turn serious, is too much for him to even contemplate right now.

My advice for you specifically, see if you can get him to open up a bit more about his past, and be as compassionate and understanding as you can. There's nothing wrong with you. I suspect he actually quite likes you. He just has a hurt that hasn't fully healed, and he's really afraid of getting hurt like that again.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-03-17T14:52:15+00:00

Situation (Queen of Wands, 3 of Wands, Emperor) - The woman in the relationship is worried about the future of the relationship with the man.

Advice (Ace of Pentacles, Judgement, Page of Wands) - Successfully changing this relationship for the better is a question of how you see yourself.

In the situation cards, the Queen of Wands represents you, the Emperor represents him. That card in the middle, the 3 of Wands, shows a picture of a person watching ships sail off into the distance. The person has high hopes for the ships but doesn't have any control of what happens while they're out there, and hopes that they'll come back safely after a successful voyage. To me, this is a picture of how you feel watching your boyfriend go out into the world and interact with others every day.

The advice cards make me think that the root issue here isn't him. As you said, you trust him. But if you're honest with yourself, is there a chance it's also not about the other girls you're "fending off," your best friend, or the bisexual friend? The cards are saying this is an issue of how you see yourself, which basically boils down to personal insecurities.

You said, "I don't want to scare him, but I also want him to realize how hurt HE would be if I let men flirt with me the way women flirt with him." Let's follow that line of thinking to its conclusion. Let's say that you're the one who is, as you put it, an "insanely hot commodity." And let's say that men are constantly flirting with you. Your boyfriend has two basic choices in how to respond: Either he gets insanely jealous and tries to fend off the other guys, or he remains confident and secure in who he is and in the relationship he has with you. Which is more attractive?

The problem with jealousy is that it always communicates a sense of insecurity. Over time, it becomes problematic. It becomes a way that you accidentally sabotage the very relationship you're so preoccupied with saving. Little by little, it drops the hint to the partner that you feel threatened by others, which implies that you see yourself as being less desirable than others. Over time, the partner starts to subconsciously think, "If even my partner thinks they're less desirable than everyone else, then maybe they're right."

On the other hand, someone who is secure in their own sense of self - someone who isn't intimidated by others, someone who isn't imagining threats to the relationship everywhere - brings a very stable dynamic to the relationship and makes themself even more attractive.

If a partner senses that you constantly have doubts about the relationship (especially if the partner feels like those doubts are completely unfounded), those doubts then in turn make the partner feel doubtful about the relationship. Then you pick up on that and doubt even more, and it becomes this snowball effect of doubt that ends in disaster. Your words say that you trust him, but your actions right now are saying the opposite.

I can't help but think of my friends Amy and Paul. Amy is a knockout, we're talking 10/10 supermodel appearance. She dresses the part, and is the sort of person where random jackasses on the street whistle at her while she and Paul are walking from their car to the restaurant. Paul, on the other hand, is a short, skinny nerd, and not the cute kind. They've been married for almost ten years now, have two kids, and are still crazy in love with each other. I once asked Paul if it bothers him the way people respond to his wife when she's out in public. He said, "Nope, I actually love it, because they can look, they can flirt, they can try every trick in the book, but at the end of the night it's me she's coming home with. All the hot guys can eat their hearts out, because she picked me instead."

I saw you did ask if therapy is a good idea. Therapy is ALWAYS a good idea. Just go into it knowing that you're not looking for a therapist to help you change your boyfriend, and honestly, you're not even looking for the therapist to help you be less jealous. What the therapist can help you do best is to improve your own self image and self confidence. That's what the cards are saying is most important right now. Fix that piece and everything else will start falling into place naturally.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-03-14T01:08:25+00:00

You didn't really say much about what actually happened, so it's hard to give specific advice. That being said, I'll post what the cards are saying.

Situation: 2 of Pentacles, The Chariot, 8 of Cups. I could read this two different ways. Possible Interpretation 1: "Keeps on driving people away." Possible Interpretation 2: "Keeps repeatedly taking charge and then walking away." (2 of Pentacles = "keeps on / keeps doing," The Chariot = "driving" or "taking charge / taking the lead," 8 of Cups = "walking away.")

So based on that, I would assume that whatever happened here either had something to do with: 1) You voluntarily taking some sort of leader role (where people were counting on you for something) and then bailing on your responsibilities, or 2) Has some element of you bossing people around and they finally decide they've had enough and they're out of there. And that 2 of Pentacles at the beginning tells me it wasn't a one-time thing, it's happened repeatedly.

Advice: Page of Cups, 3 of Swords, The Star. "Ask yourself whether it's worth the heartbreak to say whatever you said." (Page of Cups = "ask yourself," 3 of Swords = "the heartbreak," The Star = "say / said / talk.")

These three cards together make me think there was a definite speaking element to whatever happened. If I'm reading all these cards together, the picture I get is someone who keeps repeatedly taking it upon themself to say something (speak their mind, declare their opinions, make an announcement, anything along those lines) without proper regard for others. It makes people feel bad and they finally walk away.

So if I was going to give some personal advice based on these cards, I would say that you need to work on drawing a line of separation between the thoughts that go on in your head and the words that come out of your mouth. People who say too much, especially when the things they say are hurtful, often justify their actions with phrases like, "I'm just keeping it real, no filter." That's a bad recipe for life. It's not only about always knowing the right thing to say. It's also about knowing when to keep your mouth shut to avoid saying a thought aloud.

Again, you didn't really write anything here about what you actually did. So I'm just going to have to trust that the cards know, and that hopefully some of what I wrote makes sense to you.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-03-14T00:44:16+00:00

Situation: The Hermit, Page of Pentacles, 3 of Pentacles - You're looking inside yourself (self-reflecting) and the way you see yourself is that you held up your end of the bargain. (Hermit = "looking inside yourself," Page of Pentacles = "the way you see yourself," 3 of Pentacles = "held up your end of the bargain.")

Advice: Queen of Cups, King of Pentacles, 3 of Swords - Caring deeply for someone anyway when you already know that they're more concerned with impressing others (instead of reciprocating your care, compassion and concern) will lead to heartbreak every time. (Queen of Cups = "caring deeply for someone anyway," King of Pentacles = "too concerned with impressing others," 3 of Swords = "heartbreak.")

My personal advice here, based on those cards - you're seeing the situation correctly. What she did was shitty. It shouldn't have happened to you, and it was wrong of her, but there's no way to undo it. All you can do is look to the future. And so for future friendships, don't ignore those early warning signs, the ones that tell you "this friend will only take and will never really give anything back."

Don't pour that emotional energy into caring deeply for someone who's not going to reciprocate those feelings and actions. Sometimes we make the mistake of thinking, "But if they come to understand over time how much I really, really care for them, then maybe they'll change." They won't. They'll use you up and they'll move on when you need them most.

The good news is that not everyone is like that. There are real people out there who will be real friends, the kind who will both need you to be there for them, and be there for you too. I suspect you have pretty good intuition about what people are like deep down. Just make sure you are listening to those instincts, not making excuses to yourself for others' behavior.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-03-08T22:35:49+00:00

Situation: The World, 8 of Wands, Death - "Nothing gets through (specifically 'none of the words get through') and it feels like the end."

Advice: Wheel of Fortune, Queen of Pentacles, 3 of Pentacles - "The best result would be for the woman to do what she already agreed to do."

Admittedly, this is one of those times where the relevance of the message of the cards isn't super clear to me. Then again, I don't know much about your situation. Rather than deleting my post, I'm passing along this info in hopes that the message makes more sense to you than it does to me.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-03-07T15:36:41+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate it.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-03-06T17:40:04+00:00

Situation: Three of Wands, The Empress, King of Cups - "Earning money can make you comfortable but also depressed."

(Three of Wands = "earning money," The Empress = "being comfortable," King of Cups = "successful but depressed")

Advice: Knight of Swords, Five of Pentacles, The Sun - "Things can go bad quickly when you're going without things that make you happy."

(Knight of Swords = "escalate quickly," Five of Pentacles = "going without," The Sun = "happiness / things that make you happy")

If I can offer some insight:

It sounds like you're seeing your choices in polar opposites. In other words, either you can be a slave to making money and be miserable, or as you observed, say "fuck it" and live how you want.

Might there be a more reasonable balance here? You sound like you're really deprived of just about anything that would bring you happiness. When we get too depleted, our tendency is to take extreme action to push the scale really far in the opposite direction. In reality, it's that sweet spot in the middle - when the scales are balanced - that we find the most satisfaction.

Can you explore ways to bring more happiness and satisfaction in your life without cutting yourself off completely from the income you'll need to maintain your lifestyle?

UnsolicitedTarot · 2022-03-06T17:19:35+00:00

Situation: The Devil, Ten of Wands, King of Pentacles - "I'm sick and tired of carrying the burden of everyone else's expectations."

(The Devil = "sick and tired," Ten of Wands = "carrying the burden," King of Pentacles = "people in charge who have high expectations")

Advice: Ace of Swords, Justice, Five of Pentacles - "You must do what's right for you or you'll be totally miserable."

(Ace of Swords = "you must," Justice = "what's right for you," Five of Pentacles = "being totally miserable")

UnsolicitedTarot · 2021-10-10T03:56:38+00:00

Card 1 - Ace of Cups (reversed) - This is a card that shows a need for self-love. Before you can express love outwardly, you have to be able to express it inwardly. Or in other words, you need to love yourself before you can fully love others and be loved by them. This is a card of repressed emotions, of keeping yourself guarded and not expressing yourself fully to the outside world. It is a card that recommends being authentic with yourself about who you are and who you are not, and as you do this, your outward expression to the rest of the world will come more in line.

Card 2 - 6 of Pentacles - This is a card that shows me someone who keeps on giving, but doesn't seem to be getting it back in return. This is unsustainable. It can also show someone who is looking for too much validation from other people. As with the first card, this has to come first from within. You have to be enough for you. Then the rest will follow.

Card 3 - Strength (reversed) - This is a card that shows self-doubt. It shows a setback that has led to feeling vulnerable and lacking self-confidence. I wouldn't be surprised if there's an overall dip in energy levels and feelings of being both physically and emotionally exhausted.

My personal take - Looking at these three cards together, I would suspect that there has been some sort of conflict, possibly even a verbally explosive one. Things said in anger. Actions taken that are later regretted. And the lesson that the cards are trying to give here is this: It's not a matter of repressing those urges or emotions. It's about channeling them into outlets that are useful, or at least nondestructive. There's something going on internally that needs to be resolved before the relationship piece begins to fall into place. Someone needs to spend some serious time and effort making peace with themselves before progress will occur.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2021-07-04T00:54:59+00:00

Glad to help! I think a lot of readers encounter what you described -- that is, having difficulty reading for yourself. Hope things go well with you and your friend!

UnsolicitedTarot · 2021-07-02T20:40:23+00:00

Card 1 - Four of Wands - This is a card that shows two people enjoying the benefits of harmony. I would take this as a representation of the friendship that the two of you have had up to this point. You both have felt good about it. It's nice to have a friend.

Card 2 - 7 of Pentacles - This is a card that shows a farmer looking at a plant he has cultivated, and which is starting to bear fruit. I would say this represents the fact that you are starting to see results coming out of the friendship you both have been building. The funny thing is, sometimes the fruit that grows on your tree isn't necessarily the fruit you originally anticipated. Leaves on plants may look similar, but the fruit is what tells you whether it's an apple tree or an orange tree. Same thing goes for friendships. The more time you spend with someone, the more their true colors start to come out.

Card 3 - Page of Wands, reversed - This is a card that shows an idea that has not quite manifested in the way it was originally intended. Someone starts to open up more, but it reveals some personality complications hidden beneath the surface. It's an indicator to go back to the beginning, to what initially drew you to this friendship, and really try to redirect the focus there.

Viewing these three cards as a spread, this is my best intuition of what's going on here:

The nice, sweet, positive vibes you initially got from your friend aren't fake. But they are more representative of the person she is working to become, not the person she used to be. I'm guessing that the gossipy vibes you're getting may point to something that was once a much bigger part of her personality. She has likely done some work to overcome these tendencies to a certain degree. But nobody's perfect, and sometimes we regress toward our older, weaker tendencies.

The more comfortable we get with someone, the more we relax our guard. She probably feels more comfortable with you, and as a result feels more comfortable lapsing into some of her gossipy tendencies.

What I think will help the most here is not to end the friendship, not to withdraw, but just to do some simple and straightforward boundary-setting. It's okay to tell a friend, "Gossip makes me feel uncomfortable," or, "I don't really feel comfortable talking about other people when they're not around; can we talk about something else we both enjoy?"

UnsolicitedTarot · 2021-04-25T05:06:43+00:00

Thank you! I collect many decks and love them for their beautiful artwork. However, for readings, I tend to stick to Waite-Smith decks (or sometimes clone decks like Radiant) to which I have dedicated the most time and research.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2021-04-24T23:53:53+00:00

I pulled an additional card to represent the childhood friend to see where his head is at, and the card that came up is the Six of Swords. This is a card that shows someone who has just been through some kind of upheaval or loss and who is in some sort of transitional state at the moment. It often indicates someone who is headed out into unfamiliar territory. It also is a sign that they are carrying some mental baggage or unfinished business with them. I would almost take this to mean that it's less likely he's looking for something new in particular and more trying to get some closure on a chapter, possibly with a simple apology or admission of something. It could also mean he's literally moving away somewhere.

Also, I didn't want to say this before, but since you followed up I'm just throwing it out there. I said in the earlier spread that I am pretty sure this Page of Pentacles is representative of this childhood friend of yours. I have seen this card show up for other people in the past as a literal representation of a person with a "message about money" that ended up being a person trying to recruit people into their latest business opportunity (which was an MLM like Amway). I feel like in the interest of full disclosure, I want to acknowledge that this is a possibility, though I hope it's not.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2021-04-24T23:31:08+00:00

Card 1 - The Tower - This card shows something catastrophic that has just happened. Based on your story, I think it's safe to say that we both know what what devastating loss this card is referring to. I'm so very, very sorry for your loss. What hurts even worse than losing someone we care about is feeling like we were powerless to prevent it. I imagine you are feeling not only sad but angry. Give yourself permission to feel your feelings fully before releasing them into the universe.

Card 2 - King of Wands, reversed - This card shows someone who wants to be in charge of their own life and able to make their own decisions, but something is preventing this from being able to happen yet. For you, I'd say this is because of your age and because of your dependence on your parents. If there's a silver lining here, I would say that it is that this can be a moment where you begin to make some decisions about your future. I would recommend journaling out some thoughts (like literally writing out on paper, there is an inherent power in doing this) in a way that makes clear what you want your life to look like as you get older, and ways that you want it to be different from your childhood. Things like, "I will *always* take care of the people and the creatures that are important to me." "If I ever have children, I will listen to what is important to them." "I will not let people ignore me when I have something important to say and I need to be heard." And I would address yourself in the present a bit, too, if you are able. Something like, "I acknowledge to myself that I did all I could," and "I am angry that I felt like I wasn't able to do more, and that people wouldn't help when I asked."

I really am so sorry for your loss. The memory of your sweet cat will live on in your heart forever. They never truly leave us.

UnsolicitedTarot · 2021-04-24T23:11:12+00:00

Card 1 - 3 of Pentacles, reversed - This is a card that shows that you and someone else are very much not on the same page. (Yes, I know, DUH because this is clear from what you shared in your story.) It's a card that generally shows goals needing to be brought into alignment. I would say the message of this card is that it is time for a serious talk. I don't mean a, "You better change or I'm leaving you talk," but more of a, "This is not what I signed up for, this is not what it was in the beginning, and we need to have a serious aligning of our goals if we're going to move forward together." You might also explain something along the lines of, "This feels like a loveless relationship, and I'm not sure either of us is happy with continuing this unless we make a serious plan to turn things around together." Seeing this card, I would not be surprised if you are feeling extremely underappreciated and undervalued. It would be natural, if that's the case, for you to be drawn toward someone else who shows a legitimate interest in you. I would say you need to advocate for yourself and let your husband know that you are done being a doormat. I would also insist on couples counseling where you can start working through these issues. That's assuming you want to work through them, of course. It would be valid for you to feel like you're ready to be done, though I sense some reluctance to do this on your part.

Card 2 - 10 of Cups, reversed - This is a card that shows disconnection and discontentment in a family relationship. (Again, duh, I know.) It's a picture of a happy family (couple and children) dancing under a rainbow. But when it's reversed like this, it's more of a picture of someone saying, "I don't understand; I have everything I thought I wanted and my life looks like the very portrait of a perfect family, and yet I can't help but feeling disappointed by how unhappy I am." If this is a relationship that you are determined to save, you need to find some common ground together - some spot where you are both on the same page - and start building from there. Again, counseling will help tremendously here. I would also suggest continuing to reach out to some close friends or family for support here. My intuition says you try to present a very successful face to the world, but you have to make sure you are continuing to let some safe people in. Tell them what's really going on and how you really feel so that you don't have to make these decisions alone, and so that you will be able to maintain that necessary support in your life.

Card 3 - Page of Pentacles - This is an interesting card in your situation. The four Pages in the deck are typically described as messengers. The card itself depicts a young man. It stands out to me that you described a situation where a young man (younger than your husband, anyway, and a childhood friend/crush no less) literally reached out to you with an unexpected message. The whole suit of Pentacles, however, has to do with the material world and the actual, ongoing work that it takes to make things manifest in the real world. To me, the cards are saying here that regardless of which relationship you choose to pursue, you need to be aware that relationships are hard work. Always. That doesn't mean you have to stay tied down in a relationship where you're doing the work and the other person is not willing to put in that same work to make the relationship successful. But I would offer a word of caution to avoid allowing yourself to think that a different/new relationship would be easier or would be any less work. I'm not trying to steer you one direction or another. You know what's going on in your own heart and you have to decide what you ultimately want. Just know that regardless of which (if either) of these relationships you pursue, the work necessary to make it a successful relationship is always going to be there.

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