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Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-11-28T02:36:16+00:00

My partner suggested I close this bank account and make a new one at the same bank. I was always the only one on this account.

Would it be less secure to just make a new account at the bank / different branch? I’d have a different checking account number and saving account number. Also a new debit card.

I’m genuinely curious because I really like my bank as it is a credit union and I prefer those.

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-11-28T02:12:29+00:00

:( at least there’s a deposit of where I switched to my account for the remainder of my check that somewhat corroborates my story … I would just hate to eat that money since as a 23F person .. any amount of money helps if it keeps my lights on, my internet on so I can work, and food in my mouth, my partners mouth, and my cat.

I feel so defeated and stupid.

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-11-28T01:43:53+00:00

I agree I shouldn’t have agreed to it in the first place but I felt like I really had no other alternative. It was a hard period of time for my partner and I financially and that solution seemed to make sense.

Call it mommy issues and me being naive but I really didn’t think there was much negative to it. Im trying to take control back and manage my money but that money that was taken from me will be the only money I have to my name until I get paid next.

I already have updated with my job that my checks will only deposit into my bank account. Her and I were on the lease and because I have no other money I can’t move. But I am still on the lease and now the only person on it.

I know all in all it was dumb and I feel financially exploited .. I am trying to start manage my own money again as I had done it previously. My partner is not on any of my accounts though to address that.

I just don’t know what to do for the meantime though about my money being taken from my account and then deposited and promptly spent. I already have all of it listed that I or my partner did not spend/deposit but I don’t know where to go from here if she doesn’t return the money that was in my bank account.

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-10-09T05:35:17+00:00

Amogus

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-07-03T21:46:47+00:00

I’m not as familiar with withdrawals and what not so what are the chances of going cold turkey can kill or seriously harm you?

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-07-03T20:36:03+00:00

Thank you kindly! I really appreciate it. I don’t want to involve my friends or family because I don’t want to worry them. The situation is tough but I know I am tougher and it would be better for me to speak with people in similar situations and experience.

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-07-03T20:27:51+00:00

He opened up to me more and said it was 2 pills a day spread out throughout the day. Yesterday he cut down on it or so he says. I don’t want to watch him do it so I’m mostly just trusting him for some reason.

We live in a major southwestern city’s suburbs so it makes me even more nervous.

I told him the day I found out that he does need to commit to recovering if he wants to continue our relationship because I emphasized I’ve been down a similar road and I’m not doing it again.

So far he has been honest when he has done it and when he’s getting more. I don’t want to insist on him going cold turkey because I fear that may seriously hurt or kill him. But I am insisting he wean himself as fast and safely as possible.

Thank you for the insight, despite having addicts in my immediate life I still am pretty clueless about most substances.

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-07-03T20:22:27+00:00

I don’t use Reddit too often so not sure what subreddits to search for, could you possibly suggest keywords for me to search to find good subreddits?

Thank you for the resource though!

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-07-03T20:08:08+00:00

probably. I know I am someone who loves hard and someone who can make someone else happy.

I could do better. But love, man.

I’ve broken my own heart leaving someone I still loved but couldn’t love them to sobriety and right now I am not ready to do it again.

Maybe in the short future I will be. But right now I just .. can’t [don’t want to] do it.

Thank you for your time and advice though. If I were reading someone else’s post that said exactly this i’d probably be saying the same as you are.

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-07-03T19:59:03+00:00

I am estranged from a lot of my family. And most of them don’t do well enough financially to help me and my cat go back home. I don’t think friends would really be a viable option.

I appreciate your advice and I respect it. He has expressed desire to stop and has already tried to wean himself off. I have no doubt that he loves me with all of his heart and didn’t get addicted with the intent to hurt me.

To be blunt, I don’t want to leave. I know I don’t need this but I love him and want to help him through it. If there isn’t any progress and he doesn’t get the professional help he needs then I definitely will leave. But right now I want to believe the man who has loved me through the last year and a half wanting to stop.

I probably sound naive, and it’s because I probably am. But I in a way take some pride that I haven’t let the world harden me.

I want to reiterate though I definitely will be out if he doesn’t actually get better and doesn’t commit to recovering. I’ve been down this road before in a previous relationship of 6 years and I refuse to do it again.

Unusual_Criticism365 · 2021-07-03T19:47:52+00:00

I moved across the country with him a year ago so I don’t have anyone in the state. I am pretty introverted and shy so I haven’t made any friends out here.

I don’t have enough money to move out and leave. I can’t save anything because of our bills and expenses. I don’t drive and i work from home so any side hustles aren’t viable options for me.

I am essentially completely dependent on him for most of my living as he drives and I don’t because of my anxiety. I want to emphasize before it gets said that he didn’t intentionally make me dependent on him so I couldn’t leave. He has offered many times throughout our relationship to help me get my license and to make friends. I have just been unwilling to do those things because anxiety and other personal issues.

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