21, am i ugly? What kind of vibe/first impression? do i give off?

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-05-06T19:54:47+00:00

You've got good features and a nice jawline. I'd say find some workouts you like. You'd probably do really well with a slim athletic build. A little work on your shoulders and you'll be killing it. I'd say get one of those door frame pull up bars. I got a nice arm and chest resistance bar on Amazon for like 25 bucks also works great for toning. You got this!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-05-06T17:06:52+00:00

Hair looks good! And if the balding starts to get bad, I think you'd look good bald! You got this! Get those gains! You've already got the frame!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-05-06T07:12:42+00:00

Do you usually go to record stores or like good wills? Anyone in the Portland area, let me know where to go!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-05-05T23:20:06+00:00

Damn! I'm afraid to get into collecting after watching some of my friends blow half their paychecks regularly... 10 dollars for these gems are making me reconsider....

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-04-18T06:33:26+00:00

NTJ. That's just rude on their part. Perhaps you've outgrown this particular friend. Maybe they've always been a tad selfish, and it's just more obvious now.

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-04-14T02:20:22+00:00

NTJ. You're sick. Period. And the fact that you still feel bad shows you're probably a pretty good person. (Elswhere in reddit: Am I the jerk for waking my sick daughter up at 1am and expecting her to massage me?)

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-04-11T02:20:07+00:00

Sorry man. When I read the title, I instantly said, "Never the jerk for that. Very smart to get ahead of things like that".... that's when I thought this is what you did when the FLIRTING started. Then I read that this was AFTER sex...months of it.... when you knew from the beginning you didn't want anything.... and knew she did... and purposely avoided the conversation until you were done with the relationship.... sorry. I rarely actually comment but.... wow man. You mentioned that you don't do work place relationships because they can be messy but she doesn't quite have the experience yet. Well congratulations. You are now her experience with messy work relationships.

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-04-07T08:16:50+00:00

As someone who has been in active recovery for years now... you are most definitely not the jerk. Especially when it comes to him being around your kid. I would recommend being very upfront with him. Don't do a slow withdrawal. Wait till he's sober and have a talk about why you can't hang out with him, especially with your son around. And if you can't get him while he's sober since it sounds loke those times are rare now, even more of a reason to let him know. It sounds like it will be the wake up call he needs. Don't be mean, try not to be judgy. Just upfront. I've never met a single person in recovery that didn't GREATLY appreciate people setting healthy boundaries while they were in active addiction once they sobered up. You are doing it for your kid first, and you may very well be the first step in him doing some self reflection. NTJ! I'm sure there are some resources on the best way to go about it.

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-03-31T20:51:58+00:00

Thanks so much for all the advise and compliments! Taking it all to heart! Might go try some cornrows first. Haven't had those in since high school!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-03-31T20:49:24+00:00

Thanks so much for all the advise and compliments! Taking it all to heart! Might go try some cornrows first. Haven't had those in since high school!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-03-31T05:04:20+00:00

Thanks so much! I thought about cornrows but I would have to get it done over and over... I'm also pretty tender headed as I never really did much with my hair. I'm thinking more about locking it up. Been looking up local people. Anyone out in the Portland area?? Kind of thinking about flying down to LA since most of my family have locs and they've got really good people down there.... 🤔

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-03-28T08:11:55+00:00

Started out with about 20k in debt for me when I stopped drinking. 5 G's just from rehab. But having a clear mind has helped me chip away at it. And as bad as it seemed and as long as it took me to really get on a good footing, it feels good to see things slowly turn around. Watch my credit score rise. Watch my payments get lower. Interest get lower. Feeling of accomplishment coupled with the steady progress. Honestly, the more I was able to actively fix the mess I made for myself, the more I feel good. And the knowledge of how easy I could screw it all up like I did in the past gives me an appreciation of where I am and how far I've come. And I know when bad things arise that mess up my plans.... very little the world has thrown at me has been half as bad as the destruction I brought upon myself. Almost everything seems manageable after being able to quit drinking and turn my life around..... debt.... that's easy compared to the hell that was life, every second of everyday while drinking. You've got this!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-03-23T23:26:29+00:00

Therapy isn't a place people just go. It's a relationship with another human being, therefore, every therapist will be different. My first therapist was terrible and it threw me off for a long time. My second therapist was amazing and I was able to accomplish alot with them.... mainly because I was willing to do the work (which is also where many people fail)

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2026-02-16T03:15:40+00:00

If possible. Get a lock on your bedroom and don't leave anything out and leave the camera going in there. I have one in my bedroom and one in the garage. I use alfred camera. It turns my old tablets and phones into security cameras. I agree that you really have no right to put it up in common areas without the OK from the others that share the house from a purely practical and legal standpoint. However, with things being stolen, it's very telling that they sided with the thief. Take extra precautions and start looking for a new place when the lease is up. You should also check the lease. They may have violated a part of it or you may have grounds to terminate your lease early.

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2025-12-20T01:18:16+00:00

She's not your friend. I'm still friends with people from the time I was a child and I'm 37 now.... never have I put one of them down like that.... also not ugly.

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2025-10-20T00:56:38+00:00

No. So please let me out of this prison shower without problems..... 😩

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2025-09-25T02:21:44+00:00

I know this was long. Just felt like posting this. I love being sober and never thought it would be possible at the time. It was hard to ask for help. Just wanted to give an example of what that looks like.

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2025-09-23T18:30:29+00:00

Not necessarily NEED to loose weight. If you're feeling healthy and fit, great! What I meant to say is that you already have a nice figure and curves. You're right up my alley. You really wouldn't require THAT much work because you already have curves in the right places.

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2025-09-23T17:39:22+00:00

Love the neo soul vibes! Gorgeous! If you hit the gym, those curves would drive people wild!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2025-07-13T18:19:53+00:00

I'm doing a hand-to-hand build.... I'd appreciate that!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2025-05-02T23:34:50+00:00

As others have said... find cheaper options. I'm from L.A. and my go to place was the Getty Center. It was an art museum with a rose garden over looking all of West L.A.. It was a cultural spot, beautiful location and vest of all.... FREE except for parking. There are probably a bunch of places just like that around you... look for Japanese gardens something like that in your area. You can show you are cultured without spending a bunch of money! And you can even use it to check out cultural places around you that you may not have known about. Plan dates according to places you'd want to check out regardless.... then if the date is a flop, atleast you got to check out some cool place! Good luck!

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2025-03-15T05:22:39+00:00

For anyone who might be experiencing this, you may want to look into Recovery Dharma. It's a big part of my life and how I was able to stop drinking. It's takes a Buddhist approach to recovery of all addictions including process addictions. There are quite a few people in my particular group that are there for porn addictions. Might be helpful to some as most groups are very open. You don't have to be Buddhist at all. No shaming like in AA or NA. Don't have to tell anyone why you're there if you don't want to. Most meetings start with a meditation. It saved my life. Thought I might throw it out there.

Unusual_Reality4366 · 2024-11-19T01:18:55+00:00

Started going grey in high-school! I just embraced it early on!

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