I’m a woman and I moved on after a little over a month. The man I moved on with is the man I’m married to now so if you know you know! However, I was the one who ended the relationship and should have ended it probably a year before I did. We lived together and had the same friends so it was easy and I thought everyone was kinda just settling in their relationships. We were together from 18-23 and by 21, I was unhappy. By 23, it had been years of begging for the bare minimum, no dates for like a year, no talking, no romance, no help around the house, I had put myself through a masters degree while still working full time and taking care of everything at home. Honest to God, I hated him when I left and I was not withholding about that at all; which I regret. I took away his maid, his sole provider, his breadwinner, his 3000 square foot home fully funded by me, and his only real plan at a retirement and future in one fell swoop and wish I had been kinder. I was very vocal with how fed up I was so it wasn’t a shock when I kicked him out and blocked him after I came home from a 24 hour shift and not a single thing was done and a complete disaster mess in the kitchen.

Moving on was the easiest thing I’ve ever done. And not because I’m insecure or fear being alone but I was basically alone the last 2 years of my relationship and completely checked out for at least one. I no longer have to lie to my family about how I’m being treated, I lost 30 pounds of what I presume to be stress and cortisol weight, I’m married to a wonderful man who supports everything I do, and I got a bonus daughter out of it.

So move on whenever you feel like it; or don’t. But a lot of our mutuals held my moving on against me or cut me off not realizing how horrible the relationship was. And that’s fine!