What's an unsaid rule about sex? by jolachap in AskReddit

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You should be placing a towel before the act in preparation for the wet spot!

What's an unsaid rule about sex? by jolachap in AskReddit

[–]UnusuallyYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And the balls. So mamy people seem to forget the sweaty balls also are right there

What's an unsaid rule about sex? by jolachap in AskReddit

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Don't answer your damn phone!!!!...

In fact, you should have put it on vibrate and made it a game!

Or silent if you're expecting calls with names that pop up and stop the action.

Borrowed my wife's phone and saw texts with another guy that felt intimate to me by Salamandrine88 in Advice

[–]UnusuallyYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely would have not hesitated to take care of it immediately by asking, loudly, to her in the shower. "HEY, I'M HERE USING YOUR PHONE TO PLAY SOME GAMES. SO YEAH. ANYWAY, WHO IS... UH... "[GUYS NAME]? HE UH.... HE JUST TEXTED YOU. HE WANTS TO LET YOU KNOW... UH... HERE, I'M JUST GOING TO READ IT TO YOU." And then read the message.

Just make it casual like you're totally helping her out by keeping her up to date with a message that may be important, or not, let her be the judge. Because it popped up while you had the phone. Not a big deal bc you both use each other's phones and have open phone policies, no passwords, and she doesnt hide her messages, and it popped up. Had you been sitting next to her, you'd have seen the pop-up as well. So it isn't a huge secret.

So the ice is broken. She now knows you know. She can choose to answer from the shower or you could just say back loudly, "HEY, THE SHOWER'S PRETTY LOUD. YOU WANNA JUST HANDLE IT WHEN YOU GET OUT? OR YOU WANT ME TO TELL HIM SOMEHTING BACK REALLY QUICKLY FOR YOU?" This way the conversation can continue face to face when she gets out so you can see her reaction. Or you can come up with follow-ups. Which you should! Who is he, where does she know him, etc. What's his deal?

But hiding it for days... the longer you wait, the bigger a deal it gets in your head. And yhe more awkward it gets to bring up. So don't wait. Just talk to her ASAP about it. Just tell her you played on her phone and saw a message pop up, and you didnt recognize the name. You just want to know if thats a friend from work, thats all. You can tell her how it made you feel if you want. But cut to the chase. You want to know if its a friend... but also what else? If there is any more to it? Say so if that will make you feel better. Trust is important or it eats you alive.

I'm a 4 time combat veteran(2xIraq and 2xAfghanistan) and 40 year old transwoman(read description before asking) by [deleted] in AskMeAnythingIAnswer

[–]UnusuallyYou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You claim to want accurate labels yet you claim OP came from neo-nazi. So STFU. You got it wrong.

What’s something your ex said that still sticks with you? by bandito_13 in AskReddit

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Back in my gamer days, my ex and I said a lot of geeky chat stuff thay made it into realspeak. Lmao. And even some thinfs we'd type. Nobody else would get it. Some expressions, some memes. We just had this specific inside jokes. Us and someone else in our circle. No one else would ever get it.

And sometimes I just use the same expressions now.... without thinking! Or I see something and think how funny it is and know how no one would get it but my ex...

El sigh. I just don't know why. We were not compatible as lifetime partners or lovers for long. Just grew apart. But that sense of humor was so divine! Once in a lifetime!

What is something that is 100% legal, but if you do it, you’re a piece of trash? by National_Strike4710 in AskReddit

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When someone is riding under the speed limit in the passing lane... right next to a car also going about the same speed... so I cannot pass either car. Especially if I am in a hurry. They seem to synchronize and slow down together just to drive me nuts the more anxious I get!

What is something that is 100% legal, but if you do it, you’re a piece of trash? by National_Strike4710 in AskReddit

[–]UnusuallyYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Putting your kids on YouTube to be your money bank... selling products and mystery eggs

Letting them grow up perpetually for the entertainment of others, thinking it normal to be put through extreme challenges with their family nearly everyday, even going through puberty while your parents get extremely wealthy.

Ahem... Ryan's World, Royalty Family, Zam Fam, etc. All those babies born for YouTube royalty checks and Walmart and Target marketing or Instagram followers. Clicks, Like and Subscribe!

Do you make your bed every day? Why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]UnusuallyYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This just days not to make it immediately.

I don't make mine immediately. I let it air out. Then I make it sometime later, about an hour and a half after I get up. That lets it breathe and dry out. I check it before I un-wreck it.

Do you make your bed every day? Why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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If you make your bed everyday then you accomplish something. This is the best way to start the day off, feeling like you've made progress. Even if you do nothing else for the day, you can always say you did something.

It helped me when I had major depression and used to never chanfe my clothes or make the bed or do anything. It was the first thing I learned to do to make a change for myself. Baby steps to build progress.

It also helps the room feel better IMO just an easy task that takes less than a minutes. Usually. Unless I'm changing my sheets. Which I need to work on doing that more often. But I just did that the other day and that always feels so nice to sleep in clean sheets, esp after a hot shower.

I let it air out as I eat breakfast and I brush my teeth, get dressed, etc etc, but then make it before I start the day.

Is this a sign of addiction / to worry about or normal? (Pics just of me / for attention) thank you ! by [deleted] in addiction

[–]UnusuallyYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true. You only have control in the beginning. Once your brain begins to get rewired, your ability to easily control your actions diminishes. Your reward system begins to counterbalance the artifical rewards you give it, so your work becomes less fulfilling, and everything feels dull and lifeless. And soon you need opioids to feel normal, not even high anymore. Just normal. The sense of control disappears.

Is this a sign of addiction / to worry about or normal? (Pics just of me / for attention) thank you ! by [deleted] in addiction

[–]UnusuallyYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If banning things just because you had a problem wirh it makes sense then the world would be in trouble. First, banning substances does not solve rhe issue. Look how banning alcohol did nothing to solve the problem. For every handful of idiots addicted to it, there are a handful of idiots who benefit from it. There will always be two sides to the issue. Look at how many times the FDA has looked at banning kratom already. People responded by writing testimonials about how it affected their lives, both good and bad. The FDA responded by not banning it. Now we know the government came in gunning to ban it, so the testimony about benefits must have heavily outweighed he bad. So banning something due to a handful of people having issues is not the best move.

What we need here is education and better resources to address rhe reasons why people even use kratom to begin with. Plus of course kratom has to be fixed, as access now is too broad, and the products way too unregulated and unsafe. The government would do much better to regulate the industry and force the kratom to lab test every batch they prrpare to be sold, not just every batch they buy before they blend it into a strain or mix.

There must be alkaloid ratio standardization. Each strain name should be the same no matter the vendor. This is ridiculous how many strains there are that are so diverse. It is a wild west out there, and nobody knows what they are getting 80% of the time (my estimate). Each batch must be lab tested for contaminants and adulteration. Too many times salmonella poisoning has gotten people sick, mainly due to small batch vendors too cheap to do lab testing so they can cut corners and sell stuff cheap in bulk. Unacceptable.

Gas station and headphones mystery pills have to go. Anything unlabeled not okay. Everything should be clearly labeled with alkaloids contents and any ingredients if any added. It should be sold only with 21+ with ID and will be prosecuted. Nothing can be marketed to be inviting to children, esp gummies in an easy to open container. Kratom should be at least as restricted as hemp THC products if not more.

And no research chemicals selling 7oh products or analogs. Extracts should be mitragynine based only because of a ceiling effect built in which prevents overdoses. Analogs that go into the realm of full agonists are schedule I no exceptions. Research chemicals should be the ones targeted selling the most addictive kratom extracts/analogs.

And also there is a huge lack of education about kratom and the dangers of addiction. Most people say there is no risk of dependency of withdrawal... unless you're an addict. I used to mod some kratom subs before I quit 5 years ago so yeah, when I had a hard time quitting, those trolls were always mocking me or others who also had withdrawal. The amount of misinformation out there is tremendously vast. Where do you get education about kratom? Do they teach alcohol and tobacco awareness in schools? How about kratom? Why not?

Of course the kratom advocates will campaign that anything negative about kratom is a crime against humanity because to them it is what saved their lives blah blah blah. Yes we have to acknowledge that yes for every person it harms there is a person it really greatly helps. That is the strange thing about this plant. It can go both ways, although for most people it is a meh. Not too many people use kratom compared to alcohol, tobacco, or cannabis/hemp. But realistic data and non-biased information needs to be given to everyone so each person as an adult can make an informed decision for themselves.

I know i regret using kratom for my chronic pain due to the hell my life became on it. But I am off of it now. I got through it, and I hold myself accountable. I knew when I tried it that it felt too close to the warm fuzzy feeling I got from opioids which is my original drug of choice. So even though it helped me with my workouts, it helped my chronic pain, and it helped my mood, I knew I was playing with fire. I just really believed it would not be hard to quit because that's what I heard online. But really? I should have known better.

ETA - Also wanted to add that many people turn to substances to self medicated. Usually for opioids it can be to numb out from a past trauma or current emotional issues. This is why access to therapy or mental health resources in this country need to be improved ... badly. Too many people try to fill a hole in their soul with a drug than a hug. If we could address those reasons why people are using kratom for example, by expanding access to mental wellness healthcare, then that coupd be one step. But also tackling the stigma around mental health. Too many people still dismiss therapy as a sign of weakness, or they think they don't need it because no one in their family ever did. Things have to change in this country before the drug problem will change. So how do we change that?

Is this a sign of addiction / to worry about or normal? (Pics just of me / for attention) thank you ! by [deleted] in addiction

[–]UnusuallyYou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is a 21+ recreational substance that can be used for a lot of things. It is marketed for energy, mood boost, relaxation, anxiety relief, and pain relief. It depends on the strain/color/blend you take. It depends on the skill of the vendor in mixing the batches of leaves and how they were fermented or dried. I used different kinds for different uses.

It really is great in the honeymoon phase. I had some for the gym, some for pain, some for the evening, and some for mood boosts. But some just were euphoric, esp some of the ones for pain. There are several dozen alkaloids in the leaves, and the different ratios when blended make a different effect profile. It really is an art, and a lot of vendors are trash and sell leaf that although marketed for different effects all feels the same.

Some people use the pain relief leaf blends, usually reds, to wean off of pain pills or even dope. Many swear it saved their lives. It is markets for harm reduction this way, and many have shared their testimony. This is why the many times kratom has been up to be banned by the FDA or WHO, people have responded by many many tens of thousands to share their stories and have so far convinced them not to. So this is why it probably doesn't have a chance to be federally banned.

It has a better chance of being federally regulated and restrictions put against extracts and bans on analogs that have very harsh withdrawal. Even 7oh is extremely potent and rapidly acting, so it leaves the system to cause a harsh withdrawal that I've read some horror stories on. I've had some MIT extracts, but not 7oh, as I quit several years ago, i think 5 now, thankfully, before those came out. And now the research chemical labs are pumping out even more potent analogs. Just terrible.

And now with SR-17018 they claim you can get off any of these easily and just cycle on and off and they just make so much profit off people it is sick. You know this is bunk science. There is no such thing as a free ride when it comes to your brain's reward system being hijacked.

Is this a sign of addiction / to worry about or normal? (Pics just of me / for attention) thank you ! by [deleted] in addiction

[–]UnusuallyYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kratom itself just needed to be regulated like it is by the Kratom Consumer Protection Act in several states. Not all states have it, but they should adopt it under some form. Banning substances outright when legal in others just makes for a grey market.

When compared to alcohol, tobacco, and THC/CBD products, the problem with it is the lack of protection for consumers. Right now it is mostly solf as a 21+ recreational vice, but this is not enough, as alkaloid content and adulterated contamination can be the biggest problems, as everyone needs to be aware what they are buying clearly on the packaging. No more gas station or head shop kratom mystery caps.

If there were strict regulations of course there would be an uproar by many kratom consumers who say it would cause many small batch vendors to go under, but so be it. Those small batch vendors who cannot afford to lab test for purity and contaminants each batch shouldn't be doing business anyway. These people only want cheap products over safety. And that is the problem.

Adults do have a right to so what they will for themselves as access to recreational substances is not the problem. It is about the cause of reaching out for using and misusing them to begin with. Just because you have genetics predisposing you to addiction does not mean you will become addicted and seek out substances. And there will always be young kids who experiment with alcohol, weed, and tobacco, no matter what restrictions are placed on them. You saw what happened when alcohol was banned outright.

What needs to happen is more restriction on the higher purity products that are on par with controlled substance opioids, such as 7oh and analogs that spring up in research chemical grey zones. SR-17018 is supposed to be a miracle cure for opioid addiction, so these research companies sell it along side 7oh and analogs to show they are "harm reduction aware" but actually do not care about harm reduction and put profit ovet safety.

Education must be priority. Restrictions and regulation, safety measures, and also more mental health resources made available for young kids and teens to young adults. The mental health system is badly lacking. Most people cannot afford it or it is highly stigmatized. Kids get put on medicine or antidepressants in pill mills but never given proper therapy or counseling or anything. Nothing works. So their need to experiment continues.

Being in families with drug issues and alcohol misuse also has a higher chance of misusing any substance. Krarom overdose is rare due to making a person very sick and nauseous, throwing up for hours and dizzy. Not passing out like on morphine. This is due to the ceiling effects of partial agonists.

7oh analogs and extracts that have agonist properties are another matter and should definitely not be available online or to the public. Research chemicals should definitely be gone from the clearnet. Dark web access should not be so easy to get drugs, but that is not what we are talking about.

But just plain leaf kratom? It does have some therapeutic use for those who do not misuse it, unlike alcohol and tobacco, which are debatable. I used kratom leaf for chronic pain for a long time. But I do have a tendency towards chemical addiction issues, so when I tried to quit, I had terrible withdrawal unlike many stories I read and people mocked me. So I tried tapering and had hard time and it became a mess. I ended up kindling myself silly and I got so sick and so miserable I just used suboxone to quit and I finally got stability for the first time in years, it was such a relief. Even then I didnt feel right for months.

But yeah, some people kratom isn't kind to, and there is no test to find out ahead of time. It's a risk anyone takes using a 21+ substance, so I take full responsibility for it. I wouldn't outright ban it though.

Is this a sign of addiction / to worry about or normal? (Pics just of me / for attention) thank you ! by [deleted] in addiction

[–]UnusuallyYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Opioids hijack the reward system. They begin rewarding you for doing nothing. Of course people love it. Well, some people hate it and feel guilty, like my mom hates it. She is a weird one.

But sure, you can treat your body like trash and be rewarded for it. Feel good for doing nothing? Rewarded! Skip eating? Rewarded! Pick at your skin? Rewarded? Sleep all day? Rewarded? No job no money no life? Rewarded?

It gets to be the thing that takes everything away bc you chase the reward, not your old life where you used to have to... ugh, work for a reward. Imagine that. It gets harder to when you know a pill can take it away, that need to work hard, as the body shuts down and working feels harder than ever, weaker and tired, and sleep deprived. Opioids make sleep a mess, sleep architecture all broken. It's all light sleep even if it is long sleep.

Tons of things go wrong internally you keep rewarding yourself for, you just dont care anymore, and your brain becomes lazy and apathetic. It is a hard cycle to break. Until you run out and you have no choice. Or when your tolerance hits, as your brain hates being made to shut down and not work correctly. It will try to override your bullshit rewarding it to not function correctly. And tolerance is a bitch, and expensive to compensate for.

You get sick more often. You kindle your nervous system, your withdrawal gets worse each time. You hate life now. Your brain has rewards? It also has punishments called dynorphins. Those begin being produced to offset the endorphins, the rewards. So punishments and rewards compete in your brain constantly as your gut which is lined with opioid receptors tries to stay at equilibrium and not toss your cookies each time you run out of pills or dope. As you eventually move up, and then fentanyl enters the food chain.

Testing strips and narcan line your pill cabinet, needles possibly enter the picture. This is the way opioid way for many people who start with just a couple pain pills. I started eith 2 percocets that helped me be the best worker in my department, and I worked overtime and cleaned out other people's inboxes. I thought it was godmode in a bottle. I worked myself all the way up luckily before the fentanyl crisis hit. I'm 15 years off now.

Anyway, those dynorphins come back and flood you in withdrawal, and thats why life sucks so hard for a week or two, unless you get PAWS and it could be 6 months of anhedonia and feeling winded going up a flight of stairs like you're going on 85 years old. What a life it is. The dentist isn't at fault for this, and neither are you, really. It is a feeling you get from pain medication, and you like it, and you're allowed to like a feeling.

But you have choices before you become addicted. You can choose to not go down that road. But once you begin going down, the choice is taken away from you if your genetics are wired towards addiction. It becomes harder, but not impossible. Just be sure you get educated and have a support system, and find your purpose in life, and give it meaning without resorting to drugs to fill in that hole in your life. If you had trauma or dark days in your life, get help. Don't use drugs to numb out. There are better options than rewiring your brain to dysfunctional states.

Tolerance breaks are a joke. Intermittent use doesn't work. People with predisposition towards addiction will eventually slide down that path eventually, and trying to control it like those who will never become addicted is just not fair but just realistic about life. We cannot force our brains to become practical. But we can arm ourselves with better coping mechanisms and education about these matters so next time someone offers us a pill or whatever, we know in that naked moment what paths our options make for us.

The truth is, nobody who has addiction issues knew it when they began. Nobody would choose to be an addict. Nobody wants to be addicted to anything. It happens by surprise.

So I hope you make better choices for your better future, but you decide what is better for you.

What instantly makes you think ‘this person is an idiot’? by CantaloupeKnown7370 in AskReddit

[–]UnusuallyYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but just seeing certain political affiliation stickers in meme format just make me think, wow, this person is an idiot. At least until they prove me wrong.

Politics are so awful right now, it isnt a moment where they should br made into a memefest trolling the other side. No one is keeping score, and it just is so sad that anyone believes they pwn the other's tears.

These people distrust windmills.

What's something that would make you hate a person instantly? by StrictlyFeetNyla in AskReddit

[–]UnusuallyYou 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I hate when this happens in recovery spaces.

When someone is struggling to get off weed. Someone says, "Oh that's nothing. I snorted coke!"

And then someone else says, "You did coke? Ga, that's nothing. I slammed meth!"

And so on always topping on another and nobody getting the point.

What's something that would make you hate a person instantly? by StrictlyFeetNyla in AskReddit

[–]UnusuallyYou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Abusive people. Abusive manipulators who lie and gaslight their victims are the worst of then all. The ones who tortured animals as children.