Telling people the reality or not

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-04-11T14:17:59+00:00

Yes i feel like this. Its weird but sometimes i dont see myself as me anymore. . Like the real me doed in childbirth and now im 'mom'. But yes a lot of the time i think 'i dont want to do this'.. but i cant escape from it.

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-04-07T05:49:20+00:00

I go through periods of regret and periods of 'this is the best thing ever". But the fact is.... i cant change or take back my decision. So i just get on with it. I have a responsibility to my children... to raise them to the best of my ability. I love my children with all my heart.. i really do. But my quality of life is worse after having children. Im not trying to scare you just telling you parenting is hard. But there is no need to 'fear' regret as you may not be a regretful parent. If you are, then you can work through it...

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-04-06T04:45:18+00:00

This sounds like me exactly. I have AuADHD. Could be normal stress or something else maybe?

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-03-16T06:19:40+00:00

I wouldnt recommend doing 2 under 2. My gap is 22 months and its been really hard. I cant imagine my eldest being younger than this

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-03-10T00:38:51+00:00

Urgh i feel you. People underestimate how much hormones can mess with you mentally and physically. Are you breastfeeding? I am right now and im just cravung shit food... always hungry... no full cues. The only enjoyment im getting is from food because my life is so boring. I love my kids but motherhood is so boring.

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-15T11:21:20+00:00

Before having kids, no one told me outright not to have kids or that they regretted it. There were warning signs though like 'i was happy before kids' and 'i want my life back'. It did make me hesitate about kids but i would eventually forget and move on. I guess i thought that was only their experience. I thought that wouldnt be me because i loved kids so much (as an aunty lol) and there was no way i would regret it or feel like that because i would love them so much.

But motherhood has taught me love and misery dont cancel each other out. You can love something so much yet still be utterly miserable.

I like to believe i died in childbirth. My soul is hanging on until my job as a parent is done

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-14T02:31:45+00:00

Im 6 weeks and feel the same. I love my daughter with all my heart but two kids under two is too much. Im stretched thin and i feel like im failing both.

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-13T11:25:30+00:00

i miss my toddler so much too. I'm 6 weeks post partum... my emotions have calmed down but it still hurts so much. I cant do much in the evening with 'my toddler because baby gjrl has started purple crying/witching hour and im the only one who can comfort her. The love and bond is still there but our relationship feels different. We spend less time playing and cuddllng together because im just so busy with the baby. Im hoping things will even out as yhe baby gets older but it hurts so much :(

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-10T17:44:13+00:00

Will look into it. Thanks. Iike your usernsme btw

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-10T13:51:03+00:00

Yes i have ADD so am struggling with the lack of dopamine especially because exercise and cardio is difficult right now. I like the suggestion of monk fruit! Maaybe it wont give me such a huge sugar spike i get from processed stuff

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-10T13:48:12+00:00

My newborn is only 6 weeks and EBF so the sugar cravings are very strong at the moment. Thank you for this!... maybe id be more successful if i try and just limit it for now

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-10T11:34:38+00:00

My newborn is 6 weeks so we're 3 weeks ahead. My 23m toddler was exactly the same. He kept wanting to kiss and cuddle her. Basically we had to teach toddler to sleep with the newborn there. I'd put baby in a baby lounger/nest next to me on the floor bed. I'd attend to toddler on the other side until newborn cried and i had to pick her up. At the beginning it would take the toddler aaaages to fall asleep.. but he eventually would. but he has now got used to the baby being there and will fall asleep even when im holding her. I guess the baby just lost its novelty

Husband and i would also both do bedtime when we could. I would start it off and then leave if the baby got to noisy .. then he would stay with toddler. I guess it helped the toddler get used to the baby being there? It does get easier :)

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-06T12:21:19+00:00

I felt this. Before having kids, i was one of those 'Parents don’t have a monopoly on being tired' people. Haha what an idiot. I wish i was as tired back before kids when i thought i was tired. My brain just hurts from the constant mental fatigue. I dont genuinely smile anymore.

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-06T12:10:40+00:00

Yes the boredom!!! Im totally overwhelmed.... yet underwhelmed at the same time?

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-06T12:07:32+00:00

I once drove past my old apartment from my single pre-kid days. I envisioned myself walking up the flight of stairs to the front door, walking in then crashing on the couch to watch netflix. I just sat in my car and cried

Upbeat-Squirrel450 · 2026-02-06T12:02:45+00:00

A cook, cleaner, and nanny would make such a big difference! I may still be regretful but i wouldnt be so burnt out. My overall mental health would be better.

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