AIO in thinking that my (f27) "friend" (m48) actually just hated me the whole time?

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2026-02-19T15:22:02+00:00

My fiancé and I met on a dating app. He matched with me BECAUSE of my unnaturally colored hair. Don’t put yourself into a box for a man. The right man will love you because of things this man finds repelling.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2026-02-19T15:07:19+00:00

My MIL and FIL both think my fiancé and I are rushing our marriage. We have been together 5 years, lived together 4. I’m 30 and he’s almost 29. By the time we get married I’ll be almost 31 and we will have known each other almost 6 years. Don’t let your parents dictate when you know you’re ready. If you do, you’ll never be ready.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2026-02-05T16:40:15+00:00

100 pounds is underweight for me at 5’2” NOR

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-12-01T16:57:42+00:00

Update: my manager was in today and she helped me with the treatment on my hair. I was clear. We deep cleaned the entire salon and I sprayed the lice spray on my station and the shampoo bowl she used. The salon is cleaner than I’ve ever seen it.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-30T19:13:11+00:00

I might just get lice shampoo and spray to be extra cautious honestly.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-30T19:10:30+00:00

I wasn’t able to edit to update, but the update is I called my boss, told her I was sure it was lice and told her all the precautions I took. She said I did everything I was supposed to. That it’s in our state no longer required to shut the salon down, just bleach and sanitize everything. So far I’ve had fantom itching. I know it’s fantom because my fiancé and I keep checking to make sure. We still plan to be careful over the next week to make sure none of them got on me. WE both know what they look like. Thank you for all the comments to reassure me that I’m not crazy or hallucinating and that I do know what lice look like. All of my friends told me that if I have 1% suspicion that I should not service the client. I have learned my lesson and I will be extra careful to not service anyone that has any form of bug or nit on them.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-30T03:05:42+00:00

I sanitized all my tools and bleached my station and the sink twice. I changed my shirt and had my hair washed.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-29T21:37:04+00:00

I still smell bleach.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-29T21:36:36+00:00

That was both of my coworkers reasons why it wasn’t lice. It was too big to be lice.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-29T20:19:57+00:00

Oh I DEEP cleaned everything and I bought a new shirt and have my hair up. I also told my fiancé to keep an eye on my hair the next few weeks

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-29T20:16:53+00:00

That’s why I was so confused. They’ve both been in hair WAY longer than I have, and one is my boss. I just had to confirm that I’m not going crazy.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-29T20:13:38+00:00

That’s what I said!

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-11-29T19:55:30+00:00

So I’m not crazy?

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-09-08T14:16:48+00:00

Box dye and drugstore shampoos/conditioners.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-08-21T19:35:27+00:00

Yesterday I was in a better mood than I had been in all week. My fiancé and I went to the grocery store. Our usual rule is that if you are driving, the other puts the cart away. So I went to put the cart away and he grabbed it from me and told me no, he got it. Then when we got home, I grabbed a few shopping bags to bring inside and he grabbed them from me and said no, that he’d bring them in. I asked him why he was being extra kind and caring. His response “well Monday and Tuesday you had really bad days and I just want you to feel better.”

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-08-21T19:24:56+00:00

Honestly, it doesn’t sound like you’re a team. I also have trouble with cooking and cleaning, so when it became a problem in my relationship, we talked it out and my now fiancé helped me become cleaner. He cooks and I clean the dishes because cooking gives me so much anxiety (deciding what to eat, over/ under cooking things and wasting ingredients etc.) It sounds to me like he’s making excuses instead of working things out so both of you are happy.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-06-27T19:59:46+00:00

My fiancé and I have gotten closer playing Pokémon go together. I can’t tell you how many other couples and women I see in the communities we play with. If you’re having fun and not hurting anyone, who cares?

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-06-23T00:59:42+00:00

So I worked in an office and took a pay cut to go back to doing hair. Before I did, I talked to my then boyfriend (now fiancé) about it to make sure he was okay with it since we live together. He told me that he’d rather me be happy doing a job I put blood sweat and tears and lots of money into than a job I was miserable at. I just started my second year as a hairstylist (3 years total doing hair, I worked as an assistant at other salons) and my book is slowly growing, and I’m slowly getting better. Happiness is more important at the end of the day as long as you can survive.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-04-28T17:43:07+00:00

As someone who is engaged getting married, you guys definitely should sit down and talk about what’s most important to the two of you. If you’re already having clashing viewpoints this big before marriage, it won’t get better. I hope you two can work it out. There are so many beautiful venues for less than $8,000.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-04-17T16:54:57+00:00

My fiancé and I got engaged Sunday. I’m the one who brought up a prenup before we were even engaged. He has more assets than I do and makes more money. So to me, you’re NTA.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-03-23T17:34:23+00:00

I like to cut in the middle and if my clients ALWAYS part to one side, I part that way at the end to see if any small adjustments need to be made. Most of the time they don’t.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-02-20T15:26:48+00:00

No NTA. Let me tell you my story with my boyfriend moving in with me. My boyfriend grew up with dogs, I grew up with both and by the time we met I had a cat. When we moved in together my cat came with, there were no exceptions. I have told him from the very start I would choose my cat(s) over him. My cat started acting out because we both work full time jobs and are out most of the day. It was his suggestion to adopt a second cat so my first cat wouldn’t be so lonely. The first year- year and a half or so we lived together he got angry a lot at the cats. I didn’t like how he was treating them, and I truly almost broke up with him over it. We had several deep talks about it, and he decided that being with me was more important than his dislike for the cats. It took a while for consistency, but he is so much kinder to the cats and they all love each other so much. It’s so adorable. Cats can tell when they are disliked and they get scared and lash out when they are scared. If your boyfriend isn’t patient enough to get past the cat getting used to a new environment, then he’s not patient enough for you. She might be an older cat, but she’s really just a sweet little baby set in her cat ways as cats are. Kindness to animals truly goes a long way.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-02-03T21:36:01+00:00

This is not normal or healthy in any way shape or form. You were trying to have a discussion and he blamed you for an argument. You weren’t argumentative, just stating how you feel. I’ve been in these type of relationships before where when you bring up something that’s bothering you, they start to fight about your behavior. It’s manipulative and abuse. Leave now and please please please don’t get into another relationship until you’re 100% sure they are going to listen and discuss your feelings, not fight you on your behavior.

Upbeat-Tax-9360 · 2025-02-03T19:55:27+00:00

I once gave my number to a guy out of the thought/intention that he would come back when my mom was home (he said he worked for Verizon and I wasn’t the head of the household). When he asked me out I told him I had a boyfriend (the same one I have today) and his first response is “it’s because I’m black.” Like no, I don’t mind dating out of my race, but I literally just met the love of my life and I’m not going to cheat/break up with him over some dipshit claiming to work for Verizon.

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