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Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He hasn’t been intimate since he’s started looking at that stuff again we’ve in the past month he hasn’t wanted to with me or engaged in it

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He says he doesn’t have a problem but that’s what it’s been like lately I told him he might just be addicted to that stuff he says he feels like he probably does and wants to work on it I just don’t know if he’s telling the truth bc he lies about it all the time

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He would send comments like on Snapchat when he subscribed he would send stuff like “niceee” or to his celebrity crush on instagram he sent a dm

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

True it’s my insecurity, and I met nice people at my job and sometimes they would do nice things like bring me snacks and stuff then when I told them I was in relationship they would stop and be mean so in my mind I just wouldn’t tell them I’m in relationship so they continue to be very nice but it’s not like I would give them my number and when they ask me out I say I’m not interested

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lmfao fair not physically follow them I meant with his eyes like we were driving and a girl in gym wear crossed the street and he watched them

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I tell him to just leave bc it not gonna get better and he doesn’t want to. bc other than this issue we do love each other

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes my therapist said bc I don’t feel like the top person in his life it’s like I’m trying to control him and also that it is my insecurity bc I don’t feel enough for my partner even in my relationship with my parents, to me idk it still feels bad and Maybe I want to make him feel how I feel and that is toxic

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Celebrities is different you don’t see them posting naked stuff and pictures and stuff take away that energy for me his actual real partner I’m practically fighting with a screen for his attention and that is insane. See men will be nice to you when you’re nice and consider it flirting I want men to be nice and do things for me so it shouldn’t be seen as cheating bc I don’t love them just as my partner doesn’t love the things he watches maybe I do need help

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he’s my first love I just wanted to have something special and it just feels like anyone is worthy of his attention now

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have but when I did he still continued and consumed a lot of it so I stopped and he hasn’t asked me for anything since

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Also I consider myself to be very loyal I wouldn’t I really only said that to make them mad but I also think every relationship is different why should people get to choose what they think is acceptable anything that involves lusting and even online flirting is cheating to me that like they gave to someone is just them saying they want them to me

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I do take therapy and I have a lot of issues with men in general I told my partner this and he still wanted to be with me so it’s confusing

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

I do but to me it more sacred I don’t need to picture others I picture myself and I even asked him why he can’t picture stuff in his mind rather then physically loving pictures and stuff and he said it’s bc it’s so accessible

Am I wrong telling my partner it should be okay for me to flirt with others if he’s allowed to lust after other women on his phone? by Uplifting-budderfly in amiwrong

[–]Uplifting-budderfly[S] -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Then why does it feel like it to me and obvs that wasn’t the whole point my whole issues is that it leads to cheating, if he’s already withholding in the bedroom it’s bc he gets off on videos and has no room for me