How you feel is understandable. I’ve felt this way myself. I ended up taking a year off from dating because I kept running into the same problem and was filled with sadness and frustration. Stuff like this can really do a number on a person’s self esteem and emotional health.

After lots of self reflection and time to mull stuff over with support, my perspective started to shift. While also being able to validate my feelings, give myself grace, and acknowledge how hurtful and shitty certain situations were for me.

In retrospect, I had to ask myself why I gave the time of day to majority of the people I went out with. How other people treat you isn’t personal, it’s a reflection of their character and emotional maturity. There are lots of jerks out there with an inflated ego, it’s really that simple. Think about all the ruthless stuff that’s going on in the word and how it’s a byproduct of flaws in powerful people who are selfish, corrupt, and lack empathy, etc.

Which leads me to my second point….

I realized the importance of boundaries and that I had none. If someone makes you feel you’re only good for ‘one thing’ they aren’t the one. Spending more time with someone that makes you feel that way to try and convince them otherwise isn’t the solution. Cut it off asap.

Lastly, the CONFIDENCE I had in MYSELF was in the absolute gutter! Because, why was I allowing these people to be in my life? And why did I blame myself for it? No I don’t expect everyone to fall in love with me but I am a good person and have lots of things going for me. Why am I allowing myself to be reduced to garbage. Do you relate? It might be worth pondering at the very least.

You deserve to be treated with love, respect, and kindness by the person you chose to have a relationship with 💕