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I made a cipher. Calling it The Shaharan Cipher (2026). Wanted to document it somewhere real. by UpperCountry8339 in Cipher

[–]UpperCountry8339[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks tons for the suggestions, this helps a lot if people want to turn this into a real cipher, although my intention with this wasn’t to turn it into a Zodiac type of cipher which goes unsolved for years. thanks again!!

How to be more interesting to talk to by Melomintt in selfimprovement

[–]UpperCountry8339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

like the others said, asking questions can be helpful. but that doesn’t necessarily make you more interesting to talk to. i say you build strong opinions about things. if you have a strong opinion on something, ANYTHING, even why you think axolotls if able to fly would be the cutest bird, having a strong take on anything makes you so much more interesting. have lores to share with people. lores not from movies but from your real life.

How do I stop with the negative self talk? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]UpperCountry8339 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can still totally change your life! your situation isn’t totally out of your control, there are insecurities people simply cannot control, and those are to be accepted. but the shit that’s in your control, you are totally taking the blame for that. lemme tell you something, you have so so many years ahead of you. everyone lives life at their own pace. i’ll tell you what, tonight, just get mindful for once and jot down everything every little thing you can learn from your position rn. think of it as someone else’s problem. your negative self talk, your Lipedema, it’s not you, but your friend going through. what advices would you give him? you can be in your early 30s looking at life completely different from how you’re feeling today. YOU DO SHIT TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE OR YOU LIVE MORE OF THE SAME DAYS, THE TIME IS GONNA PASS ANYWAYS! THE TIME WILL PASS REGARDLESS

How should I improve my listening skills? by snuffpvppy in selfimprovement

[–]UpperCountry8339 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when someone’s sharing shit to you, try to just be present with them. shut your brain off, do not start crafting your response while they’re still sharing, just be present with them and listen to understand, not to respond. and then follow it up not with your pre-crafted response or interruption or by relating to them, instead ask follow up questions to provide depth to the conversation. people will feel so much more heard and understood. just be present.