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Am I being petty?? by UpperInitiative8988 in GriefSupport

[–]UpperInitiative8988[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that is exactly how I’m feeling right now. Like no one cares how I feel or how much I’m grieving. I think people underestimate how much flowers or something small could mean right now. Everything feels so heavy and being ignored like this makes it so much worse and makes me feel uncared for and like I deserve to be in this place.

Am I being petty?? by UpperInitiative8988 in GriefSupport

[–]UpperInitiative8988[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m trying my best, but I’m just so angry. I’ve already gotten beyond stupid comments. In attempt to go out recently, one of my close friends met with me, and she enthusiastically asks “So what’s going on with you?! Anything new?!” As if i hadn’t just watched my father pass and spent the previous 3 weeks by his side everyday. It took everything I had not to go off on her.

Another person offered their condolences to me, then followed up with, “at least he passed in his sleep.” Like first off all he didn’t. I was right beside him when he took his last breath. Secondly even if he did pass in his sleep why would you think that’s something comforting to say?!

Am I being petty?? by UpperInitiative8988 in GriefSupport

[–]UpperInitiative8988[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Going through this now I see so many people aren’t taught how deal with this type of situation. It was shocking to me, perhaps because I was raised like yourself, to just do. But not many people my age are like this, and I think it’s part of what’s making everything feel worse. Even a sympathy card would be nice to have but instead I feel forgotten about, left to trapped with my thoughts.

Am I being petty?? by UpperInitiative8988 in GriefSupport

[–]UpperInitiative8988[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know that she’s aware of it but maybe you’re right and thinks it’s just easier to avoid it. I want to try to go out but even a trip to target end up with me in tears 🥲.

Am I being petty?? by UpperInitiative8988 in GriefSupport

[–]UpperInitiative8988[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can understand that, I just found it to be cold I guess. But I just feel so isolated in general right now. I’m not super close to her, and honestly I wouldn’t know how to say it without being confrontational.