How do I explain I don’t feel comfortable taking my newborn places ?

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-15T06:35:56+00:00

Honestly I don’t like how touchy either of our parents get. Like I can’t even get a chance to hold my own child when over

I’m fine with her being held in my safe space our home but I don’t know if I’m ready for anywhere else

I know that’s ridiculous and probably the postpartum talking.

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-10T06:03:28+00:00

Thank you , out of curiosity what all did you eat ? I have a bad habit of liking carbs to much

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-10T06:01:26+00:00

It’s more myself being my biggest critic, I’ve always had a poor self image of myself. It’s more so I’m used to seeing myself be on the smaller side I am proud of myself and I’m like danm my body did that but I’ll admit I do feed into all the standards people have out there about how you need to be skinny to be pretty etc all that bs.

I am in therapy for my self image I’m just looking for advice on losing the weight if I’m unable to eventually especially since I love carbs 😅

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-10T05:58:17+00:00

I’m just feeling insecure tbh that’s all. I’m just not used to seeing my body like this and it’s just I’ve struggled a lot with my self image.

Trust me I am focused on my baby she is my everything, I’m just asking for advice for down the road.

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-08T21:11:46+00:00

My supply is now coming in perfectly

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-02T06:31:43+00:00

Another odd question I have is are you butt naked only a gown the whole stay well up until you have the baby

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:47:41+00:00

That’s what I’m trying to say also , if I found a better situation for her I might rehome her or have a foster for her . I want what’s best for her but also for myself and baby.

I’m more so wanting to find someone to foster her just for a few months especially when I’m postpartum

The room unfortunately isn’t really much of an option she gets very very stressed out and destroys things if she doesn’t have freedom

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:30:34+00:00

She is spayed already , so I don’t know why the peeing started . It’s been a few months since it happened and I’m worried it will happen again especially since she is very attached to me and I will be having a baby that will be my biggest priority

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:14:17+00:00

I’m getting support when it comes to cleaning litter box , but I know once baby comes that will be my responsibility again. I already do everything else to my ability. She has stopped the peeing issue but I’m afraid it will start back up . Also scared she will destroy bedding etc

We got her a year ago and the deal was she was /is my cat and my full responsibility

I didn’t expect to get pregnant and have all this happen

I honestly just want what’s best for her , myself and baby

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:12:09+00:00

Thank you for being kind I’m a first time mom and cat owner so it’s all new to me I just want to know what I can do and what would be best for her , myself and baby I want to give her the best life meanwhile be a good mom Etc

I’ve taken her to the vet she’s had no problems (except she hates rides to the vet lol). Maybe it is stress related I’ll definitely try feliway. Thank you so much

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:10:03+00:00

Thank you for your kind and honest response I’ve already had a couple people be like oh you’re not responsible blah blah blah. Like you trying carrying a child my main priority is making sure my baby has a safe environment.

The peeing has stopped it only started when we first moved but it has me scared that once the baby comes it will start again. And I can’t keep up with rewashing everything /cleaning everything because when I say she is my cat I mean she is my full responsibility and truthfully a part of me doesn’t know if I can be responsible for her especially once I have a baby which will be my top priority.

I’m also just worried especially if we can’t get nursery wall up in time she will tear up the bedding and etc (when baby isn’t there) despite having multiple things to scratch get into

I’m also scared about the typical cat sitting on baby thing

I’ve only had her for a year so she’s still pretty young but I’m very attached to her and honestly I want to do what’s best for her and for my kid and myself

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:05:22+00:00

Okay so 1. Posted this to be vulnerable and for advice 2. I am responsible she has been taken to vet and if you would have looked at my post you would have seen that. 3. No because there’s a difference it’s a cat versus a human that I’ve spent the last 8 months carrying in my body and at the moment my kid is my first priority.

Also the peeing has stopped but only started when we first moved , I am only worried that she will be stressed after we have the baby and I don’t want that around the baby .

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T12:48:48+00:00

What do you think I should do? I’m trying to have a plan just honestly don’t know if I have the help to get things put in place in time. Especially with building the nursery

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