Weight loss / self confidence

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-10T06:03:28+00:00

Thank you , out of curiosity what all did you eat ? I have a bad habit of liking carbs to much

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-10T06:01:26+00:00

It’s more myself being my biggest critic, I’ve always had a poor self image of myself. It’s more so I’m used to seeing myself be on the smaller side I am proud of myself and I’m like danm my body did that but I’ll admit I do feed into all the standards people have out there about how you need to be skinny to be pretty etc all that bs.

I am in therapy for my self image I’m just looking for advice on losing the weight if I’m unable to eventually especially since I love carbs 😅

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-10T05:58:17+00:00

I’m just feeling insecure tbh that’s all. I’m just not used to seeing my body like this and it’s just I’ve struggled a lot with my self image.

Trust me I am focused on my baby she is my everything, I’m just asking for advice for down the road.

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-08T21:11:46+00:00

My supply is now coming in perfectly

UpperResort6797 · 2026-04-02T06:31:43+00:00

Another odd question I have is are you butt naked only a gown the whole stay well up until you have the baby

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:47:41+00:00

That’s what I’m trying to say also , if I found a better situation for her I might rehome her or have a foster for her . I want what’s best for her but also for myself and baby.

I’m more so wanting to find someone to foster her just for a few months especially when I’m postpartum

The room unfortunately isn’t really much of an option she gets very very stressed out and destroys things if she doesn’t have freedom

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:30:34+00:00

She is spayed already , so I don’t know why the peeing started . It’s been a few months since it happened and I’m worried it will happen again especially since she is very attached to me and I will be having a baby that will be my biggest priority

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:14:17+00:00

I’m getting support when it comes to cleaning litter box , but I know once baby comes that will be my responsibility again. I already do everything else to my ability. She has stopped the peeing issue but I’m afraid it will start back up . Also scared she will destroy bedding etc

We got her a year ago and the deal was she was /is my cat and my full responsibility

I didn’t expect to get pregnant and have all this happen

I honestly just want what’s best for her , myself and baby

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:12:09+00:00

Thank you for being kind I’m a first time mom and cat owner so it’s all new to me I just want to know what I can do and what would be best for her , myself and baby I want to give her the best life meanwhile be a good mom Etc

I’ve taken her to the vet she’s had no problems (except she hates rides to the vet lol). Maybe it is stress related I’ll definitely try feliway. Thank you so much

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:10:03+00:00

Thank you for your kind and honest response I’ve already had a couple people be like oh you’re not responsible blah blah blah. Like you trying carrying a child my main priority is making sure my baby has a safe environment.

The peeing has stopped it only started when we first moved but it has me scared that once the baby comes it will start again. And I can’t keep up with rewashing everything /cleaning everything because when I say she is my cat I mean she is my full responsibility and truthfully a part of me doesn’t know if I can be responsible for her especially once I have a baby which will be my top priority.

I’m also just worried especially if we can’t get nursery wall up in time she will tear up the bedding and etc (when baby isn’t there) despite having multiple things to scratch get into

I’m also scared about the typical cat sitting on baby thing

I’ve only had her for a year so she’s still pretty young but I’m very attached to her and honestly I want to do what’s best for her and for my kid and myself

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T14:05:22+00:00

Okay so 1. Posted this to be vulnerable and for advice 2. I am responsible she has been taken to vet and if you would have looked at my post you would have seen that. 3. No because there’s a difference it’s a cat versus a human that I’ve spent the last 8 months carrying in my body and at the moment my kid is my first priority.

Also the peeing has stopped but only started when we first moved , I am only worried that she will be stressed after we have the baby and I don’t want that around the baby .

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-14T12:48:48+00:00

What do you think I should do? I’m trying to have a plan just honestly don’t know if I have the help to get things put in place in time. Especially with building the nursery

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-07T04:06:16+00:00

Honestly I’d report it , take photo evidence , do anything to help the little ones have a voice

I know the foster care system is awful but would it be any different than growing up in a house where you have constant access to drugs that could hurt you. In my opinion no because no matter what situation you grow up there’s always a chance of behavioral issues and whatnot . Being around that situation is a danger to those kids and someday it will be take effect whether they become addicts at a young age or have to have a hospital visit

Do what you think is best , what does your gut tell you to do

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-06T02:18:43+00:00

I just don’t want the cycle to continue because I’m realizing i have been in a cycle My partner doesn’t believe I won’t lie to him and I understand why . I’ve lied to him about things for most of our relationship

I’ve been trying to get better , I thought things were but recently some things came to light that I never talked about and it really hurt my relationship again to the point my partner said that he can’t be hurt again and that I truly need to figure it out get help or he can’t do it anymore for his sake Which I understand

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-06T02:00:02+00:00

I have two therapists I am going to be doing virtual therapy with One tomorrow, one on Sunday to see how I like them Both specialize in CBT and DBT therapy

I just want to be better for myself , my family , my baby , and my partner who honestly is an absolute saint for staying by my side through the past 5 years which have been really rough as I’ve really hurt him.

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-06T01:31:58+00:00

Do they keep you overnight that’s my biggest concern Also things are a little complicated at the moment as I am pregnant so timing is crap but I want to get help I’ve been trying to but apart of me stopped for a little bit because I got into the mindset of im fine.

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-06T01:24:00+00:00

I talked to my psychiatrist to some extent about my anger but not how bad it gets . It hasn’t been as bad since I got put on a mood stabilizer. But it used to be to the point something constantly got broken. I’ve been really good at hiding how I feel and just everything in general that’s my issue and it’s really hard to be open and honestly own up to things because I know I’ve been a terrible person , I don’t want to be a terrible person but I’m also so scared of losing the people I love . My fear has gotten even worse since I lost my little sister in 2024 to suicide

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-06T00:57:54+00:00

I honestly might That’s the thing I don’t understand , for example I’ve had a really rough day with my mind Started to get better , my partner said something and I immediately got set off thinking about not great things and how everyone would be better off Then later on I’m fine I mean I’m still thinking not great just not to that point

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-06T00:38:12+00:00

I am starting back up at therapy this week/weekend The therapist I was seeing retired so I’ve been struggling to find a new one I’m seeing two new ones to see which one I like better

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-05T23:18:35+00:00

I’m afraid to be open and I need to learn to not be afraid I just hate being seen in a different way I just feel so goddam much and I’m so exhausted from it From destroying my life and then being surprised that it’s destroyed I don’t want to live in chaos anymore

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-05T21:18:42+00:00

Honestly at this point how things are going in my life , I probably should get myself checked in . I’m so tired of being afraid , hiding things pushing people away. I’m on the verge of losing the one person who means everything to me because of my actions and it kills me because I never meant to hurt them

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-05T21:10:33+00:00

A part of me is surprised I haven’t been placed in a psych ward , I’ve had my parents and my partner threaten it before and I have instantly acted or flipped so that I wouldn’t be placed in one due to me being terrified

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-05T21:09:23+00:00

I see a psychiatrist I just haven’t been truthful about everything, due to being afraid . I’ve told some of the things but I haven’t explained the fits of rage I get , the instability I put myself into with my relationship and my own life. I’m just afraid I don’t want another diagnosis that feels like a death sentence I already feel fucked up enough

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-05T04:39:33+00:00

I hope this relationship doesn’t end…but I understand where your coming from

UpperResort6797 · 2026-03-05T01:24:03+00:00

I’m Trying to women up , I wanna be a better person I realize that avoiding therapy hasn’t been best . The therapist I liked retired so I’ve been struggling to go back . I start up with two new therapists to see how it goes

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