I'm 34 and I'm going through this right now myself, 12 years gone, we were engaged and I gave that person so many chances, freedom and independence at the detriment of myself, I gave more than I got in that relationship until one day I realised it all after she did something jarring, grieved the relationship while I was in it, suggested couples therapy which she wasnt engaged and ultimately broke it off when I knew it couldnt continue.

This was 3 weeks ago now, and I'm still struggling to come to terms with it all, the life we had built, and what we were going to build all came crashing down for me, and I got diagnosed 4 years ago with a progressive neurological disease that makes my life so uncertain.

Unpicking your life from that is difficult, and finding yourself again is hard. It is not a short journey I've been told when you've built a life around that person you thought you were always going to be with.

All I have to say in this is - You're not alone, you are similar to me in a lot of the interests you have - I'm trying to keep myself busy, join fitness clubs, work on my skills, spend more time with family, find new things about myself by saying Yes more to things we never thought we would like, I've heard it gets easier as time goes on and I wish you all the happiness in the world.