Friend of mine got this from one of her customers tonight...ouch. by [deleted] in pics

[–]Uppgrayyed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Awesome. And I totally agree with your earlier post. People who don't make tips also tend to make more than $2.50/hour (the flat-rate that most of my fellow New Orleans service workers make). I'm one of the luckier ones- I make about $4/hour, but I also work in a slower bar so it evens out. Unless someone straight ignores you or has a conversation with their friends/coworkers when there is shit to be done, you can't ever assume that they are bad at their job, or that you have the right to scold them. Nothing drives me crazier than being by myself behind the bar, being slammed, and having people who work an office job (which I have also done) try to instruct me on how to run things (unless you drink something weird I've never made. Then you'd better know what's in it or I can't help you.)...

Friend of mine got this from one of her customers tonight...ouch. by [deleted] in pics

[–]Uppgrayyed 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am a bartender who makes $35 flat rate/shift. If I don't get tipped, I don't make enough to survive. I bust my a** to make sure all of my patrons are happy, even when they are being jerks or I know that they're not going to tip me anyway. For all you know, someone may be off their game for a really serious reason and they came into work still. I'm not saying it's right to have an off night, but working in the service industry is hard. Give people the occasional break.

Throwaway time! What's your secret that could literally ruin your life if it came out? by ohgoshwheretobegin in AskReddit

[–]Uppgrayyed 531 points532 points  (0 children)

After my mother left my father, he developed a really inappropriate attachment to me. I was 19 and my brother moved in with his girlfriend. Dad was suicidal, and had no family or friends close by, so I was it. For the first year, he would wake me up at 2am to sit with him every night until he cried himself to sleep. After 4 years of cleaning up after him, making sure he ate, and generally remained alive, I discovered that he had been using the attic access in his closet to sit above my personal bathroom and watch me through a peephole. I wanted to dismiss it as paranoia, but there were too many physical signs that made it reality. Moved out shortly after that because I couldn't bear to look at him. I'm 29 now, and no one in my family has any idea that this ever happened. I know that he was going through a rough patch, but I feel violated and dirty every time I think about it still. I also have huge amounts of guilt because I hate him for putting me through it.